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LGBTs would not have to fight if they were equal

26/11/2014 By David McFarlane Leave a Comment

I have republished this letter from the Belfast Telegraph published on 25th November 2014, I believe it brings a fair and interesting review of the situation regarding the equality and being gay in Northern Ireland:
 
 
 
 
Dermot O’Callaghan (Writeback, November 21) may have a point that the whole issue over the cake that Ashers refused to bake is all about power, though the problem is that the people who are exercising the power are not necessarily the ones that he claims are abusing it.
From 1967 until 1982 the LGBT community in Northern Ireland were fighting to be equal with those in the rest of the UK. In the end it took court action for the decriminalisation here and in Scotland to catch up with the rest of the UK. Looking at the debate in Westminster back then you can see the level of power and privilege that our elected representatives largely, but not exclusively, unionist had when they decided it was their right to impose to keep gay men in Northern Ireland less equal to those in the rest of the Union they held so dear.
Now after only two decades of moving towards equality with other UK LGBT people, we are once again falling behind. Once again it is those unionists that are saying that we cannot be equal.
While DUP ministers continue to argue with scientists and lawyers that their evidence and rulings cannot possibly be right for the LGBT people of Northern Ireland – though they are for the rest of the UK and Ireland – then yes the whole Ashers situation is actually about power.
The fact is that not all of us are equal with people of similar background, race, disability and sexual orientation with the rest of the Union. If we were, then we wouldn’t need to campaign for equal marriage, we wouldn’t need to rally for it outside City Hall or Stormont and we wouldn’t need to get cakes made to back our campaign, but we would need far more wedding cakes.
Stephen Glenn
LGBT and Liberal Democrats Executive
 
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Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia

Daniel Franzese Of 'Mean Girls' Offers Up Thanksgiving-Themed Taylor Swift Spoof, 'Shake And Bake'

26/11/2014 By David McFarlane Leave a Comment

The Huffington Post  | By Curtis M. Wong

Posted: 11/25/2014 4:08 pm EST Updated: 11/25/2014 4:59 pm EST

In honor of Thanksgiving, “Mean Girls” star Daniel Franzese is offering up a hilarious (and seasonally appropriate) parody of Taylor Swift’s “Shake It Off.”
“Shake And Bake” follows Franzese’s take on Sam Smith, which was released earlier this fall.
Adrian Anchondo, who wrote and directed “Shake And Bake,” also appears in the video, as does “Looking” hunk Russell Tovey, who pops up as a pilgrim.
Earlier this year, the 36-year-old actor came out as gay in an open letter addressed to his “Mean Girls” character, Damian.
He’ll also be seen opposite Tovey and Jonathan Groff in the second season of “Looking,” which is slated to debut on HBO on Jan. 11.

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: daniel, franzese, girls, mean, mean girls, thanksgiving

Boy aged 13 comes out as gay to his best friend – and his reaction might surprise you

24/11/2014 By David McFarlane Leave a Comment

  • Nov 22, 2014 12:16
  • By Lucy Hilton

The heartwarming exchange has become an internet sensation after being posted on Twitter by the teenager’s older sister

13-year-old boy comes out to his best mate over text

Strong bond: The text exchange between the two boys has gone viral
This teenage boy must have been fraught with worry about the terrifying prospect coming out as gay to his straight best friend.
But, much to his surprise and relief, his revelation was met with sincere acceptance and support.
The 13-year-old was soon put at ease when his straight best friend told him he was “awesome no matter what” after admitting he was gay.
Now, since being posted on social media by his older sister, the touching conversation has warmed the hearts of thousands.
Twitter user @paleveil, thought to be from the UK, shared the screenshots, which have been retweeted and favourited tens of thousands of times.

Twitter / @paleveil13-year-old boy comes out to his best mate over text
13-year-old boy comes out to his best mate over text

She wrote: “This convo between my brother and his best friend just warms my heart so much. And they’re only 13”.
The Twitter user, who has more than 14.9 thousand followers, added: “I’m actually really proud of my brother and this never happens lol”.
According to BuzzFeed, she didn’t include his name for privacy reasons but she did ask his permission before tweeting it.
It was met by an array of heartwarming messages.

Twitter / @paleveil13-year-old boy comes out to his best mate over text
13-year-old boy comes out to his best mate over text

One user, @lajfles, said: “You just gave me a reason to live #friendshipgoals”.
Another, @dreamylester, added: “Ayy I have so much respect for both of them, the world needs more people like your bro”.
His sister said she had been shocked by the response online as the messages went viral.
The texts read: “I need to tell you something I’m really upset”
“Whatsup bro? Do you want me to call?”

Twitter / @paleveil13-year-old boy comes out to his best mate over text
13-year-old boy comes out to his best mate over text

“No don’t my parents are in the room right now it’s really personal”
“What is it”
“I’m only telling this to you so please don’t tell anyone else. I trust you bro. it’s that I feel different? I don’t know how to put it but it’s bad different…
“I don’t feel the same way other boys feel about girls it’s not normal right? 🙁 I don’t know.
View image on Twitter
“And bro I don’t want you to not be my friend anymore because……I feel the same how how boys feel about girls…but to boys. Im so weird it feels weird and bad.
“I like boys. this is so embarrassing for me to say but that’s my secret and I was so scared of telling because your my best friend bro and I don’t want you think im weird and just leave or anything”
“Bro we have been friends for three years and I’m glad you told me this. Who the f*** cares what people are going to say?
“You’re awesome no matter what bro and im happy that your my best friend. Don’t be ashamed theres nothing to be embarrassed about.
“As a bro im gonna stick by you. Aint nothing wrong with being gay my friend.”

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: 13, boy, coming out, support

The Imitation Game

18/11/2014 By David McFarlane 4 Comments

The Imitation Game: Homophobia is still with us 60 years after the death of Alan Turing

To combat anti-gay bullying, education against all prejudice should be a mandatory subject in every school, says Peter Tatchell

By Peter Tatchell

10:32AM GMT 14 Nov 2014


Movies rarely make me cry, but I cried when I watched The Imitation Game. Released today, it stars Benedict Cumberbatch and Keira Knightly, telling the heroic and tragic story of the British wartime code breaker, mathematical genius and computer pioneer, Alan Turing.
As well as decrypting Nazi military codes, shortening the war by two years and saving millions of lives, the entire modern digital age of computers, mobile phones, email, internet and space exploration is based on the principles he elaborated. Although Turing arguably possessed one of the greatest minds in history – on a par with Newton and Einstein – he was nevertheless prosecuted and hounded to his death in 1954 for being gay.
Upon conviction, Turing was given a stark choice: two years’ jail, or chemical castration via a hormone therapy that was uncannily similar to the Nazi “cures” for homosexuality that were used on gay men in Buchenwald concentration camp.
Unable to cope with the ghastly side effects of castration treatment, he committed suicide at the age of 41 – depriving humanity of future knowledge and inventions he might have pioneered had he lived.
I wept as I watched this film. I wept not only for Turing’s terrible personal suffering, but also for the estimated 50,000-100,000 other gay and bisexual men who were convicted in Britain under the same or similar anti-gay laws. Unlike Turing, most of them were given no choice. They were jailed and often brutally abused on the inside.

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: crying, history, homophobia, LGBT, persecution, The Imitation Game

The Gathering – Gay Spiritual Group

18/11/2014 By David McFarlane Leave a Comment

 

Carols_2014The Gathering, Gay Men’s Spiritual Group, extend a warm invite to you and your friends and family to the annual “Community Christmas Carols by Candlelight” Service, on Thursday 11th December 2014, in All Soul’s Church, Elmwood Avenue, Belfast, BT9 at 7:30pm.
 
We are delighted that Pádraig Ó Tuama has agreed to be our speaker this year.  Pádraig is a Community Leader at Corrymela, a poet and theologian amongst other things and we are looking forward to his sharing with us.
 
The collection this year will be for the DEC Ebola appeal.
 
This is a great way to start the festive season and we warmly welcome all who genuinely want to share with us at this time.  Refreshment will be served afterwards.

 

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia, Music Reviews Tagged With: Belfast, carols, Christmas, gathering, gay, group, spiritual

Dear straight people, this is how you should act in gay bars

18/11/2014 By David McFarlane Leave a Comment

Gay man writes an incredible open letter

14 NOVEMBER 2014 | BY JOE MORGAN

Gay bars are not just for LGBTI people, we all know this, but it is a sanctuary for them.

We all know that feeling when we see a drunk straight girl angry she’s not getting any attention or when a straight guy reacts badly to getting hit on.

So a gay guy has absolutely nailed how the straights should act when they’re in a gay space, and it essentially comes down to ‘have respect’.

Reddit was asked: ‘Gay men or anybody – Do you find it slightly weird or disrespectful when a group of straight people (often liberal college girls) want to hang out at gay bars or clubs?

And one user responded by saying: ‘Speaking as a gay guy, I don’t think it’s categorically rude; it depends on the circumstances, and how the straight person in question acts while there. I have written an open letter to the straight community to explain the nuances,

‘Dear straight people:

‘Generally speaking, you are perfectly welcome in our bars, as long as you keep in mind that they are spaces that are not intended to cater to you – if you think that’s unfair, then go cry about it ANYWHERE ELSE IN THE WORLD, since that’s the space that DOES cater to you, pretty much exclusively. You know that sense of discomfort and alienation that you sometimes feel in our bars? That’s how we feel in virtually every social space we go to, so please do not begrudge us this one public place on Earth where we can pay for the “privilege” to hit on, dance with, and make out with people we actually find attractive without watching our backs.

‘For straight women, respecting the importance of our sanctuaries means that you should recognize gay bars are not an ideal place to hold your bachelorette party (in jurisdictions where we are not allowed to marry, that’s particularly tacky); that, if you are a young attractive woman, you will not be the centre of attention that you are accustomed to being in straight bars, and that just because you are among a bunch of gay dudes does not mean you have free reign to drunkenly grope us on the dance floor or at the bar (by the same token, we do not have the right to paw at your boobs just because we are gay; I invite you to put any drunken gay lout who does so firmly in his place).

‘For straight men (particularly good-looking ones), you should prepare for the very real possibility that a gay dude might make a pass at you while you are at a gay bar. If you can’t find it in yourself to politely decline a pass from another guy, then stay the hell out. Most of the time saying something like, “I’m flattered, but straight” will be the end of it, but remember that some gay guys are jerks, just like some straight guys are jerks, and will likewise not respond well to having their advances rebuffed. If you don’t think you can handle that, then you can be sure that your night will be better spent in a straight bar, no matter how much better our music is (and it IS).

‘Finally, for straight couples, try to have some decorum. We don’t resent your dancing together or engaging in modest displays of affection. If, however, you descend into a full-blown grinding/makeout session on the dance floor, it kind of sends the signal that you are trying to lay claim to our space, and we may not take kindly to that. Again, you can console yourself with the knowledge that you can do that kind of thing pretty much anywhere else on the planet; you should be more than content with that.

‘In closing, feel free to come to a gay bar, as long as you respect the fact that it’s a GAY bar.

‘Gaily Yours,

‘Esperandopara’

– See more at: http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/dear-straight-people-how-you-should-act-gay-bars141114#sthash.WWBGfIsf.dpuf

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia, Campaigns Tagged With: decorum, gay, letter, manners, people, straight

The Year's 10 Best Transgender Non-Fiction Books

18/11/2014 By David McFarlane Leave a Comment

Today we have added to our Booklists page a new listing of the 10 Best Transgender Non-Fiction Books as presented by The Advocate – to look at the list then click HERE
 

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia, Book Reviews Tagged With: book, booklists, lists, trans, transgender

I Am Jazz: Teen Trans Advocate is published author

18/11/2014 By David McFarlane Leave a Comment

I am Jazz
  • On: November 14, 2014
By Ilyse Kramer
Thirteen-year-old Jazz-Jennings is a prolific trans advocate, recognized as the youngest person on The Advocate’s “40 under 40.” She has co-founded TransKids Purple Rainbow Foundation, which is committed to supporting and advocating for Trans children in their communities, shared her story on 20/20, 60 Minutes, the Oprah Winfrey Network, YouTube vlogs, and recently co-wrote an autobiographical picture book titled I Am Jazz.
In an interview with The Miami Herald, Jazz stated: “I wrote this book so we could help educate other transgender youth and families that it is OK to be different. It’s not just geared to LGBTQ people, but for everyone who is unique. And hopefully it can make a huge impact in letting everyone know that they have to accept each other because we’re all part of the same society.”
 

I Am Jazz: Teen Trans Advocate is published author

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia, Book Reviews Tagged With: LGBT, teen, trans, unique

BBC to air film about trans teen on children's TV

12/11/2014 By David McFarlane Leave a Comment

‘I just want people to finally see me the way I see myself’

12 NOVEMBER 2014 | BY JOE MORGAN
My Life: My Name Is Leo will air on CBBC.

Photo by BBC.
The BBC will be airing a film about a transgender teen on a children’s TV channel next week.
The film will star Leo, a 13-year-old guy, will tell the story of his life interchanged in a sequence of moving diary sequences.
Called ‘My Life: My Name Is Leo’, he will explain the bullying he’s encounted from people who could not accept who he is.
The film is set across seven months, following Leo and his family as he undergoes hormone therapy, meet other trans kids and eagerly waiting for a new passport that confirms his real identity to the world.
‘I just want people to finally see me the way I see myself,’ he says.
‘I had wanted to do a story on a transgender child for a while, because I know there are kids out there having a tough time. But up to now, we hadn’t found the right story to tell, and we trusted Nine Lives Media to tell this one sensitively,’ Kez Margrie, executive producer, told BBC’s in house magazine Ariel.
‘It feels very much like his journey and story, as told by him.’
Cat Lewis, Nine Lives executive producer, said: ‘The great thing about making documentaries like this for children is that they’re not born with prejudices.’
Or as Leo himself concludes in the film: ‘Everyone’s different somehow.’
My Life: I Am Leo will be broadcast as part of CBBC’s anti-bullying week on 17 November at 6pm.

– See more at: http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/bbc-air-film-about-trans-teen-childrens-tv121114#sthash.Dy8eqDyY.dpuf

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: BBC, children's tv, teen, trans

Found – Queer political publication from World War II

12/11/2014 By David McFarlane Leave a Comment

 


Allen Bernstein and his 1940 paper | Drexel | 14031
A previously unknown 149-page manuscript from 1940 defending homosexuality, entitled “Millions of Queers (Our Homo America).” by Allen Bernstein has been discovered. Drexel University’s Randall Sell found the manuscript in 2010 while searching the National Library of Medicine for the earliest uses of the term “queer” in reference to homosexuality.
Mr Sell is an avid and accomplished LGBT history researcher with a track record of unearthing early gay manuscripts.

Bernstein offers a libertarian argument that homosexuals don’t hurt anyone, should not be criminalized and stigmatized and should be left alone to work out their non-conforming lives by themselves. Expressing such a view, and signing his name to it, as Bernstein did in several essays, was a daring, radical act in its day.
Bernstein’s essay is unusual for its use of common, derogatory terms, especially “homo” and “queer”, as casual, value-neutral labels, decades before the term “queer” was reclaimed with pride by LGBT groups beginning in the 1990s.
Bernstein’s document is also a rich source of historical insight into gay culture from the 1920s and ’30s. It offers glimpses into hundreds of lives based on Bernstein’s direct observation and a network of pseudonymous informants. Included are anecdotes about an active Boehmian queer culture in Boston, stories about gay men’s lives in heterosexual marriages, legal persecution of homosexual behavior, and the deaths of queer friends by suicide.
Gay History – Found – Queer political publication from World War II
 

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: history, publication World War II, queer, WWII

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