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Newly Out Rugby Player Keegan Hirst Poses For Nude Photo Shoot

19/08/2015 By ACOMSDave 5 Comments

Keegan Hirstby Dan Avery
 
Just days after he publicly stepped out of the closet, newly out rugby player Keegan Hirst appears to be stepping out of his clothes. The 27-year-old British Rugby League player appears naked (save for a rugby ball tastefully covering his privates) in a photo that’s gone viral.
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The source of the breathtaking image, which features one of his teammates on the Batley Bulldogs, is unknown—but could be from a charity calendar.

Emma Watson expressed her admiration for Hirst on Twitter, stating “Physical courage is courage in the face of physical pain, hardship, death or threat of death, while moral courage is the ability to act rightly in the face of popular opposition, shame, scandal or discouragement. @KeeganHirst #gotboth. @KeeganHirst what a hero. x (sic)”
In an interview with the Mirror, Hirst admitted “At first I couldn’t even say ‘I’m gay’ in my head, let alone out loud. Now I feel like I’m letting out a long breath that I’ve held in for a long time.”
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Welcome out, Keegan. Looking good.

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Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: coming out, Keegan Hirst, rugby

Coming Out Cards

11/07/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

‘Coming Out Cards’ Provide The Perfect Response For A Newly Out Loved One

The Huffington Post  |  By JamesMichael Nichols
Posted: 07/09/2015 2:00 pm EDT
Coming out is never easy.
However, for individuals who have never loved or been close to a member of the lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender (LGBT) community, knowing how to respond to someone’s coming out can also be challenging.
For this reason, queer teen John Hansen began making “Coming Out Cards” — free eCards that can be sent to a newly out member of the LGBT community as a small gesture of support and compassion. The cards are often tongue-in-cheek, adding a lighthearted air to what can be one of the most difficult times of a queer person’s life.
“Coming out is often isolating, and continuing a dialogue with someone who has recently come out can make them feel much more comfortable and confident,” Hansen told The Huffington Post. “It can make such a huge difference to remind them that you’re listening, that you understand and that you’re there for them. I hope these eCards will do exactly that.”
The Huffington Post chatted further with Hansen this week about the “Coming Out Cards” and the impact he hopes they achieve. Check out the interview, as well as the cards themselves, below.
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Why did you decide to create these “Coming Out Cards”?
John Hansen: For a while now, I’ve noticed that there are greeting cards for almost every occasion, yet very few geared specifically towards coming out. And so, about a month ago, I decided to change that. Because I’m not much of a designer, a big part of the eCards for me has always been the message — I wanted the cards to feel fun and positive and conversational all at once, so that they’d read like a friend’s dorky text.
Why do you think this resource is so important for the queer community?
The eCards certainly won’t change everything — one of the many pressing issues facing the queer community is acceptance, and it’s brave LGBTQIA+ people across the world who are fighting to make acceptance the norm. But my hope is that these cards will help in that “after coming out” stage, both by putting a smile on a queer person’s face and by letting them breathe deeply because they know they truly are supported.
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In your opinion, why are affirmations of support crucial to the healthy lives of queer people?
Though not every queer person will need an affirmation of support, I do think that — especially in the beginning stages of the process — many people are still deeply uncertain about how their sexuality or gender will affect their relationships, and little affirmations of support can help remind them that it’s going to be okay. Coming out is often isolating, and continuing a dialogue with someone who has recently come out can make them feel much more comfortable and confident. You honestly don’t know what’s going through their mind — they might still be insecure about their sexuality or gender, for example, or they might have had bad coming out experiences in the past and are worried that this one will also turn sour. It can make such a huge difference to remind them that you’re listening, that you understand and that you’re there for them. I hope these eCards will do exactly that.
What do you hope to see from this project in the future?
I’d really love for the cards to reach the right people — by which I mean queer people who might find them funny, yeah, but also others who are supportive of the LGBTQIA+ community but who aren’t quite sure how to express it. I hope these cards will bridge the gap for anyone who is struggling to convey their admiration for a loved one who has recently come out.
Want to see more “Coming Out Cards”? Head here.

Let Us KnowEditorial:  Do you think you would ever use a Coming Out Card?  Have you already used a Coming Out Card?  Write and let us know.

Some Celebrities Who Have Come Out As LGBT

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Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: coming out, Coming Out Cards, equality, Gillian Anderson, Jodie Foster, Matt Bomer, Wentworth Miller

Coming out in Newcastle: Pride Radio creator says being gay cost him jobs

05/07/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

  • 12:27, 4 JULY 2015
  • BY ADAM LUKE

 
 

Former North East radio and TV presenter Jonathan Morrell

Former North East radio and TV presenter Jonathan MorrellFormer North East radio and TV presenter Jonathan Morrell


Former Sunday Sun columnist Jonathan Morrell, who now lives in Australia with his husband, is urging people to turn out for Northern Pride
Former North radio and TV presenter Jonathan Morrell has revealed for the first time that being gay cost him jobs in the region.
Speaking in support of Newcastle’s upcoming Northern Pride festival, the former Sunday Sun columnist said he was restricted in how open and honest he could be about his sexuality while working in the North East media for more than 20 years.
But the 45-year-old, who emigrated to Australia four years ago with partner Andrew, has called on people of all sexual orientations, ages and backgrounds to join in the celebration later this month to ensure prejudice continues to fade away.
Jonathan, who now works as a producer and reporter for Perth’s Channel 7 News channel after stints with BBC Radio Newcastle and Cleveland, ITV Tyne Tees, Sky News and Real Radio, said: “The North East is no better or worse that anywhere else. There are people who have issues with homosexuality and those without.

“When you live in a democracy like the UK or Australia you are entitled to your opinion but you are not entitled to it if it is intended to make people’s lives unhappy.

“In my lifetime, things have come a long way – from the age of consent being 21 and schools being banned from talking about homosexuality in the 1980s, to protection in the workplace from discrimination and equality in marriage. I never imagined that would happen.”Jonathan grew up in rural Cornwall and he found moving to the diverse city of Newcastle as a student made life easier being gay, but he soon found work tricky.
He said: “I had come out when I was about 16 at college. I had a girlfriend but it didn’t work out. My friend Darren was the first openly gay person I had known and at first that scared me. With time, I told him that I might be gay. He said he wasn’t surprised and that was it.
“I cannot explain how huge it is to say that to someone for the first time. You are challenging all of the assumptions about you from being a child. My friends made it clear it didn’t make a difference and I should just be myself.
“There were people who didn’t speak to me again, but it was there loss and I don’t want those sorts of people in my life.
“Since then I have never flaunted it, but have always been open and honest because I think, ‘why wouldn’t I be’? Prejudice is drawn out of ignorance and the more people know about minority groups like LGBT the more accepting they will be as they know people who fit into these groups and are nice people.
“However, it was hard to do that when you are working on TV and radio because a lot of time the company was not happy with me being as open.”
He explained: “There have been instances of people saying unpleasant things to me. When I was at the BBC an older colleague said he knew why I was gay. When I asked how, he said I must have been abused as a child. I was gobsmacked.
“Another colleague, who was Christian, gave me a book and asked me to read it. It was about a bloke who got AIDS and died.
“Occasionally in pubs I hear abuse, but I don’t tend to say anything as that only sees things escalate out of control. These people tend to run out of things to say in the end. But I have also met some amazing supportive people and they fair outnumber the nasty ones.
“It has cost me jobs in the past because there is still a culture, although it is against the law, in which homophobic opinions remain but have been pushed underground because it is not PC to say anymore.
“Thankfully, fewer and fewer of those people are around. At the end of the day what two people do in their relationship is nobody else’s business.”
Jonathan and Andrew have been together for 26 years, having met at work at the BBC, and in March the civil partners got married.
Jonathan was a leading figure in the creation of Pride Radio North East, which broadcasts online all year round and on FM for four weeks each, and while living in the North East was also a keen supporter of LGBT rugby club Newcastle Ravens and support service MESMAC North East.

Pride Parade Newcastle

Pride Parade Newcastle


Meanwhile, the journalist has given his backing to the Northern Pride arts and entertainment festival will take place across the region from July 17 to 19, centring on the Town Moor’s weekend showpiece event.
He said: “Pride has gone from being a small gathering to a great big party which attracts big artists and thousands of people.
“When I was on TV I was quite careful where I went and what I did, but once that stopped I no longer felt under pressure and loved going to the Pride festival.
“People ask why we need Pride. Look at Russia where homosexuals are being persecuted. You can see that very quickly things can change from a tolerant climate to open hostility.
“Before 1967, tens of thousands of people in the UK were prosecuted for being gay – not long ago. People were locked up, had lobotomies and were chemically castrated.
“Governments change and society changes but we cannot ever go back to those days. We must always be vigilant and make sure we continues to speak up and remember how far LGBT people have come and how far they still need to go.”He added: “Pride is also great fun – a day of celebration to be thankful about rights hard won by a generation who went through really tough times.
“It is a time to say ‘this is me, this is our community and we are here’. We might not think there a lot of gay people in Newcastle but there are thousands. It is important that they get out there.”
And the worst thing Jonathan hears said about his sexuality?
“People say it is a choice and I made it. My response is, ‘you should try walking a thousand miles in my shoes’.
“I believe me being gay is a product of birth and in time I’m confident that will be proven. Just as people have brown hair, I was born that way.”

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: Australia, coming out, Jonathan Morrell, LGBT rights, Newcastle, Perth

Adam and the Angst

27/06/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

 

 

BY MATTHEW BREEN
JUNE 23 2015 10:00 AM EDT
Photography by Jack Waterlot | Styling by Alison Brooks | Groomer: Abreea Saunders

 

Adam Lambert

Adam Lambert’s new album, The Original High, finds solid ground in uneasiness.
For Adam Lambert, Hollywood isn’t just a metaphor for success or disillusionment. It’s a real place — his city for the last 15 years. It was his home before he ran away with all the accolades (if not the title) on American Idol, before he debuted an album at the top of the Billboard charts, before guest starring on Glee, and before fronting a stadium-rock band that ranks among the biggest of all time.
When it came time to write and record his new album, The Original High, he knew where his material would come from.
“I wanted the album to be a real snapshot of my life, my real life, my authentic life in L.A. over the past 15 years,” says Lambert. “I wanted it to sound like music I listen to when I go out or when I’m at the fucking gym or in Runyon Canyon or in my car.” He pauses. “It’s a bit of a melancholy album, you know? It’s talking about the ups and downs of life in Hollywood.”
If Lambert had been singing specifically about his time in the music industry, the ups would certainly include the debut of his sophomore album, Trespassing, at the number 1 spot on the Billboard 200 — a historic first for a gay artist; or being handpicked by Brian May and Roger Taylor to be heir apparent to Freddie Mercury as Queen’s frontman in a globe-trotting tour. The downs might include disappointingly little radio play for Trespassing’s singles, despite that auspicious launch. Or it might include the reaction from his then-label, RCA Records.

During the downtime following the release of Trespassing, Lambert was going out, going to dinners, and hanging out with friends. And his conversations with them had a new and different purpose. He began asking friends heavy stuff: What is it that you want? Why are you in this city? What are you looking for?
He says, “Most of the people that I asked weren’t able to answer it. ‘How the fuck are we supposed to know? I don’t know what I want.’ And I understood that. I was like, Exactly. What is it that we’re chasing? What is the driving force here? Is it happiness? Is it success? Is it sex? Is it love? Is it validation?”
SLIDESHOW | ADAM LAMBERT: ORIGINAL HIGH
Lambert went to RCA, armed with some new insights from those conversations and the experience of two albums, and said, “Let’s try something different.” But RCA had something different in mind as well: a 1980s cover album. Lambert thought about the proposal for a few weeks, and researched New Wave. “It didn’t feel like the right thing. So I said, ‘I don’t really want to do that,’ and they said, ‘Well, that’s what we want to do.’ And I said, ‘OK, I’m going to go.’ ”
Now a free agent for the first time, Lambert approached two of his former collaborators, the Swedish super-producers Max Martin and Shellback, who variously co-wrote and co-produced Britney Spears’s “…Baby One More Time,” Katy Perry’s “Roar,” Maroon 5’s “Moves Like Jagger,” and Taylor Swift’s “We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together.” He brought a demo of a new song titled “The Original High,” about chasing the rush of first times.
“Shell got really excited,” says Lambert. “He immediately heard how he could turn it into an even stronger song.” Martin and Shellback talked with Lambert about where life had been taking him, and he says they told him, “What if we executive produce the whole thing, the whole album?”
“I breathed a sigh of relief because, at that point, I wasn’t sure what the fuck was happening next,” Lambert says. “These two guys are people I respect so much and I also really enjoy them as people. They answered my prayers.”
Lambert spent eight weeks in Stockholm, working on new songs and meeting Martin and Shellback’s collective of musicians, known as Wolf Cousins. “Habits” singer Tove Lo was a part of that group, and together they wrote and recorded the song “Rumors” in Stockholm. She says collaborating was “a lot of fun, and also easy because he can sing the shit out of anything! We kind of want to share similar emotions in our music, so we understand each other lyrically.”
Lambert calls Shellbeck the “mad scientist” of the studio. “He understands how to worm into people’s brains,” Lambert told a Stockholm audience in June. “He came up with this melody,” says Lambert, “and Tove Lo and I sat down and were like, ‘How do we make a story out of these cool sounds?’ ”
The album’s first single came from those earlier, ambivalent conversations about Los Angeles. “ ‘Ghost Town’ is kind of setting the scene,” Lambert says. “You moved to the big city, you have these ideas, you have these ambitions, and then what happens when you get to a fork in the road, or you hit a wall, and you’re like, Oh, it’s not what I thought it was going to be, or I’m not getting what I thought I wanted, and everything I thought I knew is being called into question? How does that make you feel?” He quotes his lyrics: “ ‘My heart is a ghost town.’ I feel empty. I feel unfulfilled.”
So the song wasn’t primarily about a breakup? “It rolls into that,” he says, laughing. “You can spend a lot of your energy in a place like Hollywood chasing ass.”
“Evil in the Night” — despite high-energy steel guitar, bombastic lyrics, and just a touch of Jamiroquai-esque funk — feels like a refinement of a signature Lambert sound.
“I chilled out a little bit. I don’t know if it’s just being in my 30s,” he says. “When you’re younger and you’ve got a skill, you tend to show off more — you feel like you have more to prove. Over the last few years, I’ve gotten into a place where I feel a little more confident in what I do, and I don’t feel I need to prove myself as far as ‘look at all the tricks I can do.’ Now music for me is more about wanting to prove that I can feel something.”
With a new album in full swing, Lambert had to publicly announce his parting of the ways with RCA in July 2013, simultaneously announcing that he’d signed on to appear on Glee’s fifth season. Warner Bros. contacted Lambert the next day.
“It was scary leaving the label,” says Lambert, but WB’s arrival made him feel confident. “It made me feel better about all of this, made me feel like there was a light at the end of the tunnel. That paired with Max and Shellback’s interest in doing the whole album — it was just like, This is all going to work. I know it’s going to work.”
Lambert grew up in San Diego, joining a children’s theater company at age 10. At 12, he floored the audience with a powerful operatic solo in Fiddler on the Roof.
After moving to Los Angeles, he worked in theater, including Ten Commandments: The Musical with Val Kilmer, and the first national touring company and L.A. production of Wicked. Though he’d been out since age 18, his newfound fame on the eighth season of American Idol brought the kind of scrutiny at age 27 for which an ensemble performer and Fiyero understudy couldn’t have prepared himself. His skillful reworking of Johnny Cash’s “Ring of Fire” and Tears for Fears’ “Mad World,” accompanying his darkly glamorous stage attire and affect (in contrast with his ultimately forgettable competition), made him an Idol audience favorite.
But before the season ended, Lambert appeared on the cover of Entertainment Weekly; the accompanying article speculated on his sexual orientation in light of his winking onstage sensibility and outré fashion. Pictures surfaced of him making out with a man (whom he later revealed was an ex-boyfriend) on a Burning Man social media site, Tribe.net. Lambert neither confirmed nor denied anything, to the frustration of many. Shortly after Idol wrapped in May 2009, and Lambert was awarded the runner-up spot, he came out in a cover story in Rolling Stone, but continued to field complaints for appearing in a Details photo shoot in which he suggestively grabbed a naked woman, and for subsequent tightly orchestrated media appearances. He essentially wasn’t being gay enough.
There’s no way to know exactly how much being out has contributed to or detracted from Lambert’s career, but it would be easy to understand why he may have felt he’d rather unfairly gone through the ringer. But he says he feels no envy for those musicians who’ve come out since he did, and may be having an easier go of it. Lambert praised gay singer Sam Smith to Attitude recently, saying, “I’m so happy for him, and I’m so happy his sexuality wasn’t a big thorn in his side.”
“It was just the way things went down,” Lambert says. “At that time, how many mainstream music artists did we have that were out? Elton John and George Michael — and his whole coming out was tabloid fun. There hadn’t been a blueprint to follow. That was the one thing I wished I’d had: a little more guidance. There were definitely moments of frustration and pressure, but there’s been a lot of goodwill as well, a lot of support from fans and media people, and it’s balanced out. I don’t have any sort of bitterness about it.”
Lambert has also forged a connection with Freddie Mercury, a queer artist of the past of whom he was a fan, and with whom he shares more than an octave-defying range. In 2009, May and Taylor performed Queen’s “We Are the Champions” live on the season finale of Idol with winner Kris Allen and runner-up Lambert in a vocal duet. Impressed with Lambert, they invited him to serve as their frontman at the 2011 MTV Europe Music Awards, on a brief European tour the next year, and on a world tour in 2014 and 2015.
“I’ve heard nothing but incredible stories about him,” Lambert says of Mercury. May and Taylor both told him that they’d have gotten on well, that he shared Mercury’s sense of humor. “From what I gathered, he seemed like a really sweet guy, actually — and a bit shy socially. I would have loved to meet him.” Lambert and his Queen bandmates have talked a lot about Mercury, including how out he was. “Technically, he wasn’t really closeted. I mean, he did interviews early on where they were like, ‘Are you gay?’ and he was like, ‘Oh, yeah, gay as a daffodil, darling,’” Lambert says and laughs. “But nobody really believed it because they didn’t want to. It was so taboo at that time that people didn’t actually think he would have been.”
In the promotion of his new album, fans have noticed Lambert’s new look, a touch easier on the velvet and mascara. “I just generally grew out of that old look and enjoyed new ones — it’s as simple as that,” he says. “There’s also a point where I was working really hard to achieve a look that I was really into, and it was really fun and I wanted to stand out and be crazy and be weird and make a statement with the stuff I was wearing. I look back on some of those red carpet looks, and I’m like, What were you thinking?”
“It’s like growing pains, but I was just trying to express myself. Looking back on it now, I can see that I was probably hiding behind it a little bit, sort of like the kid that goes to high school dressed like a goth because they’re actually really sensitive and they don’t want to interact with people and they’re a little scared.”
Though the studio work is meticulously planned, some other parts of Lambert’s life aren’t, and that’s OK. “Everybody thinks everything is so premeditated and thought-out,” he says. Some things are “just impulse…because I felt like it.”
But he says, “Six years is a while, and now I’m in a new space and time in my life, and I’m hoping that my music and my image all match where I’m at.

Filed Under: Music Reviews Tagged With: Adam Lambert, coming out, gay, music

Coming Out and Father's Day

20/06/2015 By Dave McFarlane Leave a Comment

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Coming out to your parents can be difficult for an LGBT person, even years later. So it’s always nice to know that there’s someone at home who loves and accepts you exactly as you are.
For Father’s Day,  Upworthy invited several dads to sit down for an open and honest conversation with their LGBT children about when they came out to them.
Sometimes the greatest gift is having a good heart-to-heart.

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: coming out, Father's Day, LGBT fathers

Andrew Christian Models Share Their Coming Out Stories

09/06/2015 By Dave McFarlane Leave a Comment

The Huffington Post  |  By JamesMichael Nichols
Posted: 06/08/2015 12:03 pm EDT Updated: 06/08/2015 12:59 pm EDT

We can hardly believe it ourselves, but Pride month is already here.
In recognition of Queer Pride 2015, underwear designer Andrew Christian sat down with a group of his models to reflect on their own personal coming out stories and journeys to living as their authentic selves. From growing up in religious households to losing and gaining relationships, these stories are sure to resonate with any queer person who has gone through the coming out process.
“For this year, we decided to share our own stories of how we came to have so much Pride,” the video’s description notes. “The road may not always be easy but it is always worth while to come out, be free, and find the love in the world. Hopefully by sharing our stories we are able to further inspire others and continue to help, as the song says, change the world.”
Plus… it’s male models in their underwear… kind of hard to get angry about that, right?

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: Andrew Christian, coming out, Models

YouTube Star Joey Graceffa Comes Out As Gay In Magical Music Video

19/05/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

Joey Graceffa has come out as gay in his new music video, and it’s nothing short of a fairy tale.
On May 16, the YouTube star released the video for “Don’t Wait,” which flashes between reality and a magical world. The video features goblins, a witch and, of course, a prince who turns out to be Graceffa’s love interest. At the end, the two share a happily-ever-after kiss in the woods.
After the video went live, Graceffa’s fans and other YouTubers took to Twitter to share their love and support.

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: coming out, Joey Graceffa, YouTube

Justin McAleese: ‘I couldn’t tell anyone in Ireland I was gay’

20/04/2015 By ACOMSDave 1 Comment

Reprinted from Belfast Telegraph – 20 APRIL 2015

It can take years from a child realising they are gay until they come out. For Justin McAleese they were lonely years

Justin McAleese

Justin McAleese


Next month, voters in the Republic will have the opportunity to vote for equality – marriage equality – 22 years after the decriminalisation of homosexuality.
I was eight years of age then and was presumed heterosexual.
My family didn’t know that I was gay (neither did I) and had no idea of the positive, life-changing impact that decriminalisation would have on my life.
The average age to discover you’re gay is 12 and the average age to come out is 21. Keeping that secret for almost nine years takes its toll; it weighs heavily on you during your formative years.
A 2009 Irish study, Supporting LGBT Lives, found that 50% of young gay people (under 25) have seriously thought of ending their lives and 20% have attempted suicide. Imagine how much worse these statistics would be if homosexuality hadn’t been decriminalised in 1993. Imagine how much better they’d be with marriage equality.
The first few weeks of this debate have rightly been focused on children’s rights. This referendum is about protecting children and their future. Just over 72,000 babies were born in Ireland in 2012. Approximately 7,200 of these children will discover they are gay by 2024, keeping their sexuality from their parents until 2033.
This referendum is about protecting these children.
It is about creating an environment where they can discover and come to terms with who they are with the important guidance of their mothers, fathers and family.
A 12-year-old child should not have to deal with this issue on his or her own.
You might ask me this: “What difference will marriage make to a 30-year-old gay man?”
To answer that, I need to look back at my childhood. I knew I was different when I was 11. I didn’t have the words or knowledge to know then that I was gay, but I knew that society’s expectation for me was to get married to a girl. All I wanted to do was fit in.
At 14 I couldn’t tell anyone that I suspected I might be gay because society didn’t let me. When I was 16 a girl, who I didn’t know, asked me directly: “Are you gay?”
The panic, the shame, the fear. How did she know? What did I say or do or wear that made me gay? Three years later, I’d just started second year in University College Dublin and was on the verge of coming out when a well-known unionist official married his boyfriend in Canada.
The story was widely reported at the time. I was with friends who laughed and joked at the notion of two men getting married. Unknown to them, they were belittling my existence and my dreams because they thought they were in safe company.
Ian Paisley jnr said then, in reference to the former secretary of state: “At least Peter Mandelson did not promote his relationship to this degree that he would go away and get married or create a civil partnership in it… The catch-all is that I find this sort of relationship both immoral, offensive and obnoxious.”
He went on to say: “I am not speaking from a position of hatred. I don’t hate gay people.”
Perhaps he wasn’t speaking from a position of hatred, but he was able to use the institution of marriage to belittle my existence, my dreams and my ambitions.
And the sad thing was that other people went along with it and didn’t challenge that view. So I stayed in the closet for another 18 months. Language matters, words matter, marriage matters.
Perhaps I was too sensitive, too naive, but that is what happened. I don’t need people to tell me about how I should or shouldn’t feel – that’s how I felt. For 10 years I kept my sexuality secret and was sensitive to every word and uttering that in my head was having a dig at who I was.
We can’t do anything about the past, but we have the opportunity to change this for young children born in Ireland today – to create a country where children can talk and be guided about these issues by their parents. Again, a 12-year-old child shouldn’t have to deal with this on his or her own.
You might also ask yourself: “What does this referendum have to do with me?” Maybe you think you don’t know any gay people or you don’t have an opinion one way or the other.
But how do you know that your niece, nephew, son, daughter, grandson or granddaughter isn’t going to be one of those 7,200 children born now who will have to come to terms with their sexuality in 12 years’ time?
What would you rather have for them – a country where they are not afforded the same marriage rights as their heterosexual counterparts? Or a country that embraces their sexuality and allows them to express their love in the same way as their straight brothers and sisters?
It is estimated that gay men and women make up some 10% of the population, so anyone who thinks that the “gay community” can railroad this referendum through is incorrect. We don’t have the numbers – all we have is you.
We are your children, your family and your neighbours – we are your community.

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: being gay, coming out, Justin McAleese

Leo Varadkar goes global after coming out as gay

20/01/2015 By David McFarlane Leave a Comment

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The Health Minister’s admission during a radio interview made headlines all over the world

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James Dempsey

14:41 Monday 19 January 2015

Yesterday morning, while being interviewed by Miriam O’Callaghan on RTÉ Radio One, Health Minister Leo Varadkar revealed he is a gay man.
Deputy Varadkar said: “I’m comfortable to talk about it now, wasn’t always – but I have been for the last couple of years.”
“It’s not a big deal for me anymore, I hope it’s not a big deal for anyone else – it shouldn’t be,” he added.
The Fine Gael politician’s interview generated considerable buzz online, with countless comments made on social media. Headlines and column inches have been dedicated to Mr Varadkar’s decision to come out in today’s newspapers, and the news was featured widely on television and radio bulletins.
The news has also been reported all over the world, with the story picked up on various news wires.
In Australia, News.com said that Mr Varadkar’s decision to reveal his sexuality would be “viewed with hindsight as a landmark of social change in a country that, until 1993, outlawed homosexual acts.”
Across the Irish Sea, the story made a big impact on the British media landscape, and was featured in a news bulletin broadcast by the BBC.
The Independent reported that Mr Varadkar was the first minister to publicly identify as gay, and only the second openly gay member of his party. The article also said that Mr Varadkar is tipped as a potential party leader and prime minister.
The Guardian’s Irish correspondent Henry McDonald described the reaction in the country to the news, addinf that political opponents applauded Varadkar’s decision to come out.
In the US, the NPR radio channel also carried the story, describing the Minister as “a prominent, well-known figure in Ireland’s government.” The article went on to describe Fine Gael as a right-of-centre party.
Pink News, a Europe-wide gay news network, congratulated the Health Minister, and made a point of distinguishing him from his Northern Irish counterpart, who described gay pride as “repugnant.”
Kat Callahan wrote: “But I don’t call him courageous for coming out; I call him courageous for holding himself up as the public figure he is and giving up his privacy. I call him courageous for all that will come after. Although a majority of Ireland, including nearly all political parties, is finally ready for change, that doesn’t mean that the minister won’t be targeted. He knowingly stepped into the firing line.”
Finally, the story was also reported in The Times of India and The Hindu – where the focus of the story shifted to Mr Varadkar’s Indian heritage.

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Filed Under: History Tagged With: coming out, david norris, leo varadkar, Seanad

Gay twin models come out to their dad (Video)

16/01/2015 By David McFarlane Leave a Comment

A feel good story and vid from the USA – maybe we in time will have similar stories to tell:

 
Twin brothers have some big news to break to their father in this heartwarming video – they are both gay.
Aaron and Austin Rhodes, 19, run a YouTube channel called The Rhodes Bros which follows their attempts to make it big in LA, as well as insights into their personal lives. But their latest video was perhaps as personal as it gets.
Austin explains that their family and friends all know that the brothers are gay – except their dad. As they are based in Los Angeles, two thousand miles away from their hometown in Ohio, they have to tell their father via phone.
Before making the call, Aaron and Austin admit that they feel ‘sick’ and ready to ‘pass out’.
Aaron tries to be the one to break the news, but he gets too choked up as he tries to explain why they are calling. Austin swoops to the rescue, but also breaks down before he can spit it out.
In the end, it’s Aaron who manages to say it: “I don’t really know how else to put it, but, like… I’m gay and, um, Austin is too,” he says, as both brothers wipe their eyes.
Luckily, their dad’s reaction is enough to warm the coldest cockles of your heart. “You know I love you both – that will never change,” he tells them. “You gotta live your lives. You gotta do what you gotta do.”
When Austin says he hopes that things will stay normal between them, Dad is quick to reassure them : “You are normal.” Aww!

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia, History Tagged With: coming out, feeling good, gay, twins, video

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