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God’s warriors are locked in a barbaric, futile battle against marriage equality

16/12/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

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Thursday 10 December
 
 
 
 
 
 

The opposition of Australian bishops to equal marriage is ignored by the public and will ultimately be faced down. But not before the established church threatens mayhem and terrifies politicians in defence of the status quo

 The Catholic Archbishop of Sydney, Anthony Fisher, delivering the homily during the annual marriage mass and renewal of vows at St Mary’s Cathedral in Sydney. ‘Fisher said nothing that cold night at St Mary’s Cathedral about his church’s rule that these men are bound for hell if they ever have sex with one another. Perhaps he didn’t need to.’ Photograph: Paul Miller/AAP


The Catholic Archbishop of Sydney, Anthony Fisher, delivering the homily during the annual marriage mass and renewal of vows at St Mary’s Cathedral in Sydney. ‘Fisher said nothing that cold night at St Mary’s Cathedral about his church’s rule that these men are bound for hell if they ever have sex with one another. Perhaps he didn’t need to.’ Photograph: Paul Miller/AAP


 
The power of the hard men of God is one of the great political puzzles of this country. They are the only opponents of equal marriage. They don’t remotely have the numbers. But they have log-jammed reform.
I’ve been tracking the power of these people most of my professional life. It’s no wonder. When I was a kid journalist, sex for men like me was a crime nearly everywhere in Australia.
Kissing was assault. One year in the early 1980s, a Sydney magistrate fined a man $50 for tongue-kissing another on the dance floor of an Oxford Street club. Fucking carried a prison sentence of 14 years.
In that lost world, hardly anyone was thrown behind bars. The point was the threat and the shame. The upshot was corruption and violence. Lives were ruined.
And just as they are fighting today against equal marriage, warriors of the cloth battled with everything they had to keep it that way.
They fought from the pulpit, in the press and along the corridors of every parliament in the land. They fought in the name of children – and, yes, some of these men turned out to be protecting paedophiles. They vilified homosexuals. They declared the fate of western civilisation was hanging in the balance.

The faiths remain the most resilient, most respected and the best-connected lobby in the nation

Australians wanted these cruel laws changed. We are not a profoundly conservative country. Support for keeping sodomy a crime had collapsed here just as it had in the rest of the western world.
What made reform such an agonising business in Australia wasn’t overcoming public reluctance but defeating the preachers. They can’t promise votes. They can threaten mayhem.
Politicians are terrified of them. Grappling with churches is about the most distasteful contest they can imagine. The faiths remain the most resilient, most respected and the best-connected lobby in the nation.
Whether the issue is homosexuality, divorce, abortion, euthanasia or equal marriage, religion has the power to shatter party discipline.
Neville Wran, an atheist premier with a fat majority, shilly-shallied over the change for the best part of a decade. He could count absolutely on the people of New South Wales. Their support for decriminalising homosexuality was never in doubt. But he feared humiliation at the hands of his caucus.
Sydney Mardi Gras was already touted round the world before Wran acted. That was in 1984. Already over the line were South Australia, Victoria and the ACT. Tasmania was the last state to stare down the preachers in 1997.
The battle for equal marriage brings back to the field the same old rhetoric, the same fears, the same tactics and the same combatants.
This is not a pitched battle between Christian and secular Australia. Many Christians find the fight against equal marriage embarrassing, even barbaric. Their voices are hardly heard.
 

 Facebook Twitter Pinterest A letter from the Catholic Bishops of Australia arguing against same-sex marriage and marriage equality. Photograph: Catholic Bishops of Australia


A letter from the Catholic Bishops of Australia arguing against same-sex marriage and marriage equality. Photograph: Catholic Bishops of Australia


 
Politicians fear the defenders of the citadel: Catholic and Orthodox bishops; evangelical Anglicans; Presbyterians and other protestants who shunned the Uniting Church; mighty Hillsong and those who gather under the umbrella of the Australian Christian Lobby. Their (mostly) silent partners in the struggle are Muslims and conservative Jews.
Miraculously they are holding the line.
Much deeper than bigotry
I know many of these warriors. I’ve debated them, read their work and reported their campaigns. To call them bigots is too simple. Though without the loathing of homosexuality, there would be far fewer recruits to their crusades.
Disgust comes gorgeously packaged these days. “God made every person unique and irreplaceable as His beloved images in this world,” the Catholic Archbishop of Sydney, Anthony Fisher, preached this past winter. “If God loves people with same-sex attraction, so must the church.”
Fisher said nothing that cold night at St Mary’s Cathedral about his church’s rule that these men are bound for hell if they ever have sex with one another. Perhaps he didn’t need to. The teaching is so familiar.
Disgust comes gorgeously packaged these days
And though he spoke of the “justice and compassion” Catholics offer homosexuals, he forgot to mention the exemptions his church – and most faiths – demand from anti-discrimination laws so they can go on refusing to employ lesbians, transsexuals and homosexuals or sack any they discover on the payrolls of their schools, charities and hospitals.
The faiths call this just discrimination. As Fisher said so piously that night: “All forms of unjust discrimination must be opposed.”
This goes much deeper than bigotry. It’s about claiming the most intimate power over believers, the power to forbid any sex without the blessing of the church. That means never before marriage; never outside marriage; and, of course, never with the same sex.
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These ancient rules were law for centuries. Judges and police were supposed to jump to the aid of bishops and preachers. The noose and the stake sent the worst offenders to hell. Shame did the rest.
Nearly every one of these laws is dead and gone after titanic brawls we tend to put out of our minds because they seem, in retrospect, so absurd. This is a mistake. The lesson is that we’re fighting the one battle here, over and over again.
And because the warriors of the faiths know the tide of popular opinion is running strongly against them, they fight for keeps. They realise no defeat will ever be reversed. It’s once and forever.
So they dig in with a particular and at times comic ferocity. The example of the world counts for nothing in their eyes. Though equal marriage has been embraced by nearly every Western nation, the warriors are fighting to the last – just as they fought no-fault divorce, the morning-after pill, IVF for lesbians, smut on television and sparing gays the useful terror of prison.
 Facebook Twitter Pinterest George Brandis, the attorney general, criticised ‘an alarming emergence of intolerance of religious faith’. Photograph: Mick Tsikas/AAP


George Brandis, the attorney general, criticised ‘an alarming emergence of intolerance of religious faith’. Photograph: Mick Tsikas/AAP


 
Australia is the land of the warriors’ last resort.
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But the troops are deserting them. The faithful are no longer as willing as they were to obey the ancient Christian sex rules. They have shrugged off the power of their bishops and preachers.
Just like the rest of us they live together before they marry. They use the pill. They have abortions. They divorce. They remarry without annulment. They aren’t much troubled by their homosexual brothers and children. And most back equal marriage.
When Crosby Textor asked Australians in 2014 if they supported or opposed allowing same-sex couples to marry, they found support high across the faiths as well as Australia:
Total support: 72%.
Catholics: 67%.
Christians generally: 59%.
Anglican and Uniting: 57%.
The bishops aren’t speaking for their flocks. And while the Australian Christian Lobby blasts marriage reform with startling ferocity, pollsters make it clear these preachers speaks for few of us.
According to Crosby Textor only 21% of Australians oppose equal marriage. For every opponent there are three or more Australians who support equal marriage. Success should be a lay down misère.
It isn’t.
 Facebook Twitter Pinterest A composite image of Australian same-sex couples. A Crosby Textor poll found that 72% of people supported marriage equality. Photograph: Getty Images


A composite image of Australian same-sex couples. A Crosby Textor poll found that 72% of people supported marriage equality. Photograph: Getty Images


 
The Catholic Bishops’ Conference issued a pastoral letter earlier this year called Don’t Mess with Marriage. The pictures are gorgeous. Disdain for homosexuals is buried beneath the usual gauzy rhetoric about love, respect and justice.
“We wish,” say the bishops “to engage with this debate.” There’s no debate. They simply assert in various ways on page after page that marriage can only ever be “an institution designed to support people of the opposite sex to be faithful to each other and to the children of their union.”
A complaint about Don’t Mess with Marriage has been taken to the Tasmanian Anti-Discrimination Board. This is ludicrous. Homosexuals don’t need to run to tribunals for protection from the insults of the clergy.
And the case is a gift to Christian hardliners. They are crying liberty.
“Same-sex marriage ideology is incompatible with freedom,” the head of the ACL thundered. “All of the debate of the past five years has been about forcing people of conscience to bow to the new definition of marriage.”
News Corp columnists have taken up this line with extraordinary passion. In prose that wouldn’t disgrace the King James Bible, Paul Kelly warns of “a calculated strike by parliaments and anti-discrimination boards using the cover of same-sex justice to achieve a quantum reduction in religious freedom and a pivotal change in the norms of our society.”
In early November, the attorney general, George Brandis, spoke of “an alarming emergence of intolerance of religious faith” by some of the most voluble elements in the community” when he opened the Human Rights Commission’s “roundtable” on religious freedom.
“It is the work of the roundtable,” Brandis said, “to develop strategies and understandings which promote a spirit of tolerance and mutual respect within a culture of freedom.”
Australians have grown cynical about claims that the faiths are the true guardians of families and children. That’s looking, after a couple of years’ evidence to the royal commission into institutional responses to child sexual abuse, a little shop soiled.
But we care about religious freedom. We remain tolerant of churches. We loathe interfering in their affairs. As much as possible we want to leave them to themselves. We are oddly reluctant even to name them as opponents – often the only opponents – in political contests of this kind.
This is an asset for the faiths that gives them strength beyond their numbers. And they are even stronger because this secular, respectful country doesn’t have much appetite for interrogating their claims. We say: that’s just them.
But as the fight over equal marriage takes this turn, it has to be asked what the hard men of God mean when they say liberty of faith is under threat in Australia? Is there anything at stake here other than them wanting to go on belittling homosexuals at maximum volume?
Two fundamental claims lie behind the rhetoric of freedom imperilled.
First, the warriors say abuse is forcing them into the shadows. They want to be loved as they pursue their ancient quarrels. Men who might once have faced lions for their faith are whinging about ridicule.
Here is Fisher a few weeks ago: “When people like me … enter the fray on marriage we now expect to be tagged ‘ultra-conservative’, ‘tedious imbecile’, ‘delusional nutter’, ‘evangelical clap-trapper’ and even ‘nauseating piece of filth’ not just in the anti-social media but even in the mainstream.
“What is new is that such ad hominem hails not just from fevered activists and net trolls but from respected journalists and public figures.”
The warriors of the cloth ought not to be abused. But men like Fisher are strangely unwilling to grasp why their opposition to equal marriage might stir ugly passions. Right or wrong, they seem unable to acknowledge the profound change of heart in this country to both homosexuality and marriage.
Men like Sydney Anglican priest Peter Kurti see themselves not as collateral damage in a great shift of values but targets of an “aggressive secularism that wants to drive religion out of the public square”.
“This campaign seeks completely to drive away religion, particularly Christianity, from the social and cultural realm where faith is practised, to the private and confined realm of the mind.”
That deserted public square is a key image in this debate. But men like Kurti, Fisher and Lyle Shelton are as active as ever in that space. They have all the platforms they have ever had to pursue their causes. They may not have the airtime they would like, but in a year or so there is to be a national debate on same-sex marriage on which Canberra has promised to spend $160m.
They aren’t victims. They just don’t have the traction they once had. They aren’t as respected. They aren’t as believed. They have lost their veto.
Abusing them is inexcusable, but what has happened to Christian fortitude? Aren’t the warriors of the faith supposed to boast rather than complain that standing against the zeitgeist earns them no applause?
I have read thousands of words trying to identify any freedom at stake that doesn’t involve demeaning homosexuals
The second fundamental is the claim allowing equal marriage would mean the inevitable loss of religious liberty.
It’s apparently a zero sum game for the warriors: freedom won is freedom lost. When two blokes are allowed to marry, the faiths are no longer free.
I have read thousands of words over the last weeks trying to identify any freedom at stake in this exchange that doesn’t involve demeaning homosexuals in the name of their God.
Alas, in the words of the old song, that’s all there is.
Fisher promotes a grim dystopian future should equal marriage ever become the law of the land. It’s easy slippery slope stuff: allow this, and what other horrors – like forcing churches to pay tax – might follow?
Of this mythical Australia of 2025 he said: “Already one Catholic bishop has been briefly jailed for refusing to apply the state-approved ‘LGBTIQQ safety protocols and awareness program’ to the schools in his diocese; and parents at Jewish and Muslim schools have been advised that they may not withdraw their children from such programs.
“Many clergy and teachers in faith-based schools have been cowed with threats of prosecution for ‘hate speech’ if they teach that divine law limits marriage to people of opposite sex.”
Disdain for homosexuals is key to these fears, but they go deeper than bigotry. Allow men to marry each other, and what happens to church teaching that marriage is the sacred gateway to sex?
Opposition to same sex marriage isn’t about freedom, it’s about privilege. It’s a last ditch stand to keep the most fundamental of the sex rules of Christendom entrenched in law.
Fisher and his kind know they will never be forced to perform same-sex marriages themselves. Nor would any Australian government compel them to allow their churches to be used for such ceremonies. Yet in a world that accepts same sex-marriage they see such “niggardly exemptions” as not enough to guarantee their freedom.
This is where they talk of small town martyrs in North America: men and women of profound faith compelled to bake wedding cakes, take wedding photographs and offer double beds to honeymooning gay couples.
Fisher is calling for these “ordinary believers and their businesses” to be exempted from anti-discrimination laws. Hardliners across the board want the legal privileges enjoyed – and fiercely protect – by their religious organisations to be extended to the faithful.
 Bob Katter refused to allow publicly homophobic candidates run for his party. Even a man running a breakaway party based in rural Queensland could see this was poison at the ballot box. Photograph: Mick Tsikas/AAP

Bob Katter refused to allow publicly homophobic candidates run for his party. Even a man running a breakaway party based in rural Queensland could see this was poison at the ballot box. Photograph: Mick Tsikas/AAP


 
As each month passes, this astonishing demand to bust anti-discrimination schemes across Australia is looking more and more like a deal being offered by the faiths to government.
“The terms of their defeat are up for grabs,” says David Glasgow, an Australian lawyer working at New York University Law School. He has watched the same demands being made by the faithful across America since the supreme court approved equal marriage in June.
“Many religious people object to all homosexual activity and relationships, not just marital ones. If baking a cake makes a business owner complicit in the sin of same-sex marriage, a wide range of activities could make them complicit in the sin of same-sex relationships.
“What’s to stop an architect from claiming that it violates his or her faith to build a home for a same-sex couple, or a police officer saying the same when asked to keep the peace at a pride march … this is religious liberty on steroids.”

The end is nigh

I won’t be rushing to marry. It didn’t turn out so well the last time. And I reckon that after nearly 20 years, my partner and I are as married as two people can be. No kids of course, but absolutely married.
How Australia has changed even in those years. One marker I love of that transformation was Bob Katter’s refusal a couple of years ago to allow two candidates for his Katter Australia Party to fly the flag of homophobia.
One tweeted he would never allow a gay person to teach his children. The other equated homosexuals with paedophiles. Both were dumped. Even a man running a breakaway party based in rural Queensland could see this was poison at the ballot box

 Facebook Twitter Pinterest A rally for marriage equality in May, attended by Christine Forster, the sister of Tony Abbott, and her partner Virginia Edwards. Photograph: Lisa Maree Williams/Getty Images

A rally for marriage equality in May, attended by Christine Forster, the sister of Tony Abbott, and her partner Virginia Edwards. Photograph: Lisa Maree Williams/Getty Images


 
So why do politicians take it seriously when it’s delivered from the pulpit?
The politics of salvation are always on the boil in this country. But this is not an entirely bleak story. Within the churches, fine men and women continue to struggle against the forces of punitive Christianity. Christians everywhere have joined the fight for equal marriage.
And the wishes of the people can’t be denied forever. That’s the lesson from the brawls of my youth over gay rights. Good, secular sense wins out in the end. It always does.
Equal marriage will happen. There are more rounds to fight. But even the most hardline contenders know it will happen. God’s work is in the delay, in making change as painful as possible.
But Australia will get there in the end

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Here’s What It’s Like To Go Through Gay Conversion Therapy In Australia

11/12/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

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Lane Sainty

BuzzFeed News Reporter, Australia

 

Conversion therapy is all but dead in Australia – but what will it take to kill it?

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“Please take this from me, I don’t want to be gay.”
Brisbane man Johann De Joodt knows first hand the horrors of gay conversion therapy.
A participant in numerous programs designed to purge his homosexuality during his twenties and thirties, De Joodt adopted a traumatising routine of church, sin and repentance that looped on repeat every week for 15 years.
“Sunday, I was going up to the altar, crying out to God,” he said. “Monday, I would sin by having sex with another man, and then beat myself up to a pulp so by Saturday I was suicidal. I’d manage to get myself to church on Sunday and then do it again, every week.”

“That was basically my life.”

“When a church leader says being gay is an abomination, people say, ‘you’re talking about my uncle who I love very much.’”

The question of whether conversion therapy works was answered long ago: it doesn’t. Leading psychological associations in Australia and around the world have denounced therapy that attempts to change sexual orientation. Earlier this year, a report from the UN High Commissioner for Human Rights called for nations to ban the practice, describing it as “unethical, unscientific and ineffective and, and may be tantamount to torture”.
Partly as a result of these strident denouncements, the prevalence of such therapy has significantly declined in Australia. Around 40 providers across the country in 2000 have dwindled to just a handful still in action today.
“There’s very little left. It’s in disarray,” says former pastor Anthony Venn-Brown. Venn-Brown, who has himself been through reparative therapy, is the most prominent voice on conversion therapy in Australia. He now works as the founder and CEO of Ambassadors and Bridge Builders International (ABBI), a group that works to combat ignorance and hostility between the LGBT community and churches.

Anthony Venn-Brown. Hadden Motion Pictures

Speaking to BuzzFeed News at a cafe in Waterloo, Sydney, Venn-Brown suggests another part of the decline is due to a growing acceptance of gay people in wider society – which, of course, includes churches too.
“More people are out, churchgoers have got gay sisters, brothers, colleagues, friends,” Venn-Brown says.
“When a church leader says being gay is an abomination, people say, ‘you’re talking about my uncle who I love very much.’”
The most thriving ex-gay programs are in Queensland, where Liberty Incorporated runs alongside the smaller Triumphant Ministries Toowoomba. Sydney-based Living Waters, one of Australia’s longest-running ex-gay programs, closed down last year.
There are also groups that advertise themselves as providing pastoral counselling on dealing with same-sex attraction, but clarify they do not attempt to change sexual orientation. These groups include Liberty Christian Ministries in NSW, and Renew Ministries in Victoria.
However, perhaps due to the stigma now attached to conversion therapy, there is little public information available about the funding, treatment methods and numbers of clients for each of these organisations. While Venn-Brown estimates that the programs would get “very few referrals” these days, their relative invisibility serves as a shield to such information. “We’ll never know the exact numbers,” he says.
At the heart of religious conversion therapy is “a strong belief in an all powerful God”, says Venn-Brown. Programs use a number of methods to exploit this belief, convincing participants that homosexuality is not what God wants for them. Venn-Brown went through dramatic exorcisms, where he convulsed on the floor for hours as pastors gathered around him, screaming for the demon of homosexuality to exit his soul.
Other methods include group and personal counselling, where homosexuality is posed either as a shameful habit that can be broken or an affliction, harking back to the days when it was considered a mental illness.

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Johann De Joodt bristles at the description of gay conversion therapy as “nearly dead”.
“Conversion therapy hasn’t ended in Australia,” he says. “It is alive and well.”
De Joodt came to Australia from Sri Lanka in 1984. A few years later, he found himself heavily involved in the Assemblies of God Pentecostal church movement – now known as Australian Christian Churches – and struggling with his sexuality.
“I went to confess my sin of homosexuality to my pastors,” he says. “I was pretty involved in church life, and the pastor recognised that there were a few other people in the church who were struggling with their sexuality as well.”
De Joodt started the Living Waters ex-gay program in 1990. This was the first of many programs he went through, and when his weekly routine of church, sin, and self-loathing began. It wouldn’t end until 2005.
For years, De Joodt prayed the gay away as various pastors attempted to cast the demons of homosexuality from his soul. He was told his sexuality was a habit that could be broken and changed, that he was gay because he had been sexually assaulted as a child and lacked a decent father figure. He enrolled in courses on self-esteem, and learning how to say no, and did hours of counselling. He prayed, week after week after week.
Unsurprisingly, Johann stayed gay. But the years he spent in therapy ate away at him in other ways. “My health…” Johann starts, then pauses. “I am on antidepressants. Everything I’ve been through has stuffed up my mental health.”

“You were either Christian and heterosexual or you were gay and going to go to hell”

 
Since 2000, twelve peer-reviewed, primary research studies have found conversion therapy is harmful to mental health. A Columbia Law School project collating conversion therapy research found that among people who had undergone the treatment, there was a prevalence of depression, anxiety, social isolation, decreased capacity for intimacy, and suicidal thoughts and behaviours. “There is powerful evidence that trying to change a person’s sexual orientation can be extremely harmful,” the researchers concluded.
“People have taken their lives, they are now on pensions because they can’t function in everyday life,” says Venn-Brown. “There are PTSD issues, they’ve been harmed mentally, they’re traumatised.”
This manifest trauma and pain is why Venn-Brown has devoted his life to combating ignorance between the LGBT and faith community through ABBI. His daily grind is a softly-softly approach that coaxes people of faith and the LGBT community closer together. “The biggest challenge is fear,” he says without hesitation.
In the past – and in conversion therapy – being gay and being a Christian were seen as incompatible. Venn-Brown says that when he was going through therapy in the 1970s and ‘80s, there was “nobody who believed there was such a thing as a gay Christian”.
“You were either Christian and heterosexual or you were gay and going to go to hell,” he explains. “The gay Christian movement was just beginning to grow then.” After coming out in 1991, he left the Christian faith for six years – but then returned to it after realising being a gay Christian was possible. “There are things [in Christianity] that I can take, that are very real for me,” he says. “Forgiveness, sowing and reaping, having purpose.”
As attitudes have changed and churches become more permissive, many LGBT Christians have been able to reconcile their faith with their sexuality and gender identity. However, a damaging rift still exists between the two communities, with years of betrayal from religious organisations leaving LGBT people fearful and unwilling to engage. Those hurt most by the hostility are LGBT Christians, who are often left feeling as though they belong in neither camp.
“Just as Christians have stereotyped all LGBT people, some LGBT people have stereotyped all Christians,” says Venn-Brown. “We get called perverts, abominations, they get called bigots and haters. And that doesn’t get us anywhere, just sitting back in our camps, our tribes, throwing barbs at each other.”
It’s obvious the division is unhelpful – but is being called a pervert really on par with being called a bigot? Venn-Brown pauses before answering, in short, no.
“It’s about the perception – we will often hear, a Christian like [Australian Christian Lobby Managing Director] Lyle Shelton or [Christian Democrats leader] Fred Nile say ‘I am not homophobic’. But everything that comes out of their mouth is completely homophobic. They just don’t understand what homophobia is, because they’ve never experienced it,” he says.
“We come from our own hurt, and our own pain. And we react, as any human would, when cruel and nasty and insensitive things are said by these people.” He switches into the second person, speaking directly to those who have hurt him. “You don’t know what that does to us, because you’ve never experienced that. You don’t know what it feels like.”
But matters of blame and hostility aside, Venn-Brown is convinced his approach of “dialogue and respect” is best. He knows both the LGBT and the faith community intimately, and says church communities do not respond to “aggressive” activism.
“I introduced [Hillsong Pastor] Brian Houston to a guy in his church who had been referred to somebody [for conversion therapy],” says Venn-Brown. “I got him and his parents to write a letter, Brian met with him.”
Later, it emerged that Houston had issued a directive to all Hillsong staff to never refer anyone to these programs.
“I’ve talked with people who are major religious leaders in Australia. It’s been a journey of ten years for some of them,” Venn-Brown says. “I’ve seen progress, but not where I would want it to be. In every human rights movement, it’s taken decades to shift. If you’re not in it for the long haul, it’s not going to work.”
 

“If people want to be so small-minded as to think that you have to be straight to get into heaven then I think they’re going to get a big shock when they do get to heaven”
ABBI has also pushed for the outlawing of conversion therapy in Australia. Although Venn-Brown describes the movement these days as “irrelevant” and “inconsequential”, he says a legislative approach would send a decisive message to individuals, to churches and to society that conversion therapy is a relic of the past.

However, politicians involved in LGBT law reform say a legal approach to ending conversion therapy is complex.
“There’s not much that can be done to target these organisations specifically at a federal level, other than continuing to tighten anti-discrimination legislation and look at the applicability of consumer law,” Greens senator Robert Simms tells BuzzFeed News.
If providing the therapy was considered a breach of the Sex Discrimination Act, it’s likely that the religious exemptions in the Sex Discrimination Act would protect conversion therapy providers. Under Australian consumer law, the religious and not-for-profit aspects of most conversion therapy programs would mean they are not considered “commercial in nature”. While such laws could be tweaked, says Simms, it’s unlikely they could be used as a mechanism to eradicate the therapy altogether.
Graham Perrett, a co-chair of the Parliamentary Friends of LGBTI People Working Group, says a federal law banning conversion therapy may be unconstitutional.
“In terms of section 51 on the powers of the parliament, I can’t see any head of power that would give the federal parliament any capacity to make gay conversion therapy illegal in Australia,” he says.
There are some legal avenues under state and territory law as well, with acts in all jurisdictions outlawing advertising of health services that are deceptive or misleading. It could also be possible to lodge a complaint with the Australian Psychological Society that their code of ethics has been breached.
However, there is no black and white policy solution to immediately ending conversion therapy.
“It’s all just prejudice welded onto quackery packaged by a religious organisation,” says Perrett.
“I think education is the best antidote.”

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De Joodt’s conversion journey reached a fork in 2005. His conversion counsellor at the time, CEO of Liberty Incorporated Paul Wegner, told him “I can help you suppress your sexual desires, but I can’t help you change your sexual orientation”.

“I was like, ‘Well, what’s the point?” says De Joodt. “If you take a ball and try to push it in a bucket of water and let go, it’s going to eventually pop up.”

He came out, lost “a lot of people”, and left his Pentecostal church. He went to the LGBT-friendly Metropolitan Community Church for a few years, and then stopped that, too. But God is still in his life.
“I have days where I feel like a Christian, and there are other days where I feel like I hate God,” he says.
“I think I’ve resolved my sexuality with my faith. If people want to be so small-minded as to think that you have to be straight to get into heaven then I think they’re going to get a big shock when they do get to heaven.”
A pause, and then: “I think God is bigger than the box you put God into.”
It’s because of this new understanding of faith, says De Joodt, that he doesn’t relapse into wanting to be straight again. “I’ve come to a point where I believe I need to be honest before myself, and before my God.”
“There’s a famous saying, isn’t there?” He thinks aloud. “Change what you can change and leave the rest to God? Or something like that. Accept the things you can’t change?”
A quick Google search later, it becomes apparent De Joodt was trying to recall the words of the Serenity Prayer, brought into popular culture by its widespread use in Alcoholics Anonymous meetings:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change / The courage to change the things I can / And the wisdom to know the difference.
It took years of anguish, but finally, De Joodt has been granted that serenity. He knows the difference, too.
“If God wanted just another heterosexual, God could have created one, but instead God created me fabulous,” he says.
“My sexual orientation is something I cannot change.”
A spokesperson for Liberty Christian Ministries declined a request to be interviewed for this piece. Requests sent to Liberty Incorporated and Triumphant Ministries Toowoomba were not responded to.

Lane Sainty is a reporter for BuzzFeed News and is based in Sydney, Australia.
Contact Lane Sainty at lane.sainty@buzzfeed.com.

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia, Campaigns Tagged With: Australia, bigotry, conversion therapy, gay conversion, homophobia, politics

Here’s What It’s Like To Grow Up Gay And Indigenous In Australia

11/12/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

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Allan Clarke

BuzzFeed News Reporter, Australia

 

Indigenous people who identify as LGBT are more likely to suffer from some form of mental illness.

“At 16 the boys would call me abo, faggot, poofter. That was really detrimental to my psychological health and really played a huge role in my depression”, says Matthew Shields, 30.

Shields, a successful actor, dancer and registered nurse has suffered from chronic depression for years.

“When I was 14, the gay thing was kept a secret in me. I didn’t tell anyone. It was absolutely terrifying. I mean it was [the NSW country town of] Walgett 15 or 16 years ago, when homosexuality wasn’t even accepted in mainstream culture, imagine being in a small country town in western NSW,” he says.
Shields says homophobia and racism crippled him emotionally, and he often turned to self-harm.
“I felt extremely isolated. I used to self-harm a bit, just placing the pain somewhere else. I didn’t cut myself. I would, for example, walk along the wall and scrape my hand on the wall or punch the wall to place the pain somewhere else”.
Shields credits finding a supportive group of friends with helping him to overcome depression, but says he still has dark days.
“For me living with depression is an exhausting journey that feels like you’re in a dark place, and it’s really exhausting and constant sadness.”

Indigenous people coming to terms with their sexuality are often told that being gay is not a part of traditional culture, a notion that experts say is incredibly dangerous.

Indigenous people coming to terms with their sexuality are often told that being gay is not a part of traditional culture, a notion that experts say is incredibly dangerous.

Gregory Phillips (Photo by John Couch)

“When I was coming out and trying to reconcile being gay with my Aboriginal culture I was told by an elder very close to me that being gay didn’t exist traditionally. He told me it’s bad and all these awful things would happen to me,” Gregory Phillips tells Buzzfeed News.

Phillips is the author of Addictions and Healing in Aboriginal Country and an academic specialising in Indigenous health. He says it’s dangerous for the mental health of young people to hear that homosexuality has no place in their culture.
“Homophobia and stigma within our community are the biggest problem and the myth that homosexuality is a white man’s thing, well actually, homosexuality is a part of every culture and homosexuality appeared here before colonisation”.
Homophobic attitudes within the Indigenous community can be largely attributed to Christian missionaries who forbade Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islanders living under the church’s care, under government orders, from practicing traditional culture. It was from this period that the idea of homosexuality being sinful became a common view within the Indigenous community – one that still prevails today.
In 2013, boxer Anthony Mundine created controversy when he expressed disgust about the plot of ABC drama Redfern Now, which featured a homosexual Aboriginal relationship.
“Watching Redfern Now and they [sic] promoting homosexuality! (Like it’s ok in our culture) that ain’t in our culture and our ancestors would have their head for it! Like my dad told me God made Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve,” he wrote on Facebook.
“Mundine’s comments are completely ill-informed and he’s confused about his own identity and religion. Mundine is quoting the bible while he is a Muslim all while presenting as a traditional Aboriginal, so I don’t know what he’s doing, it’s rubbish and damaging,” Phillips says.

As a young Aboriginal boy growing up in the small town of Deniliquin in regional New South Wales, Steven Ross always knew he was different.

As a young Aboriginal boy growing up in the small town of Deniliquin in regional New South Wales, Steven Ross always knew he was different.

Steven Ross (Stelios Papadakis)

“On this particular summer day, after my father had been looking after me (I sat in the corner of the local TAB while he bets on the horses), we arrived back home to discover he’d left the house keys inside. He ordered me to climb through the window to open the door, but I refused,” Ross wrote in a personal essay for Archer Magazine last year.

“His response was to verbally abuse me. For the first time in my life I was called a ‘poofter’. I didn’t know what this word meant, but considering the tone of its delivery, I knew it couldn’t be a good thing,”
“When I came out to my father, he told me he used to bash people like me. Whenever we fought, homophobic insults were not off limits”.
It was Ross’s mother who allowed him to be proud of his sexuality.
“I really think racism and homophobia are just colonial processes, to be honest. They are social diseases and I felt like I had people around me immune to that,” Ross tells BuzzFeed News.
Ross hopes his writing will inspire other young gay Aboriginal people and believes it’s essential to raise awareness of the damage homophobia can cause.
“Like most cultures we [Indigenous people] are able to change and recognise difference, and I believe that gay identity has always been part of Aboriginal culture,” Ross says.
“It defies logic that there were no gay Aboriginal people before 1788. It might not look like what the LGBT community looks like now. The stigma can be devastating and lead to high suicide rates and depression”.

Steven’s sister Laura Ross is a mental health worker in regional NSW, she says the health system is ill-equipped to deal with the Aboriginal LGBT community in remote and regional areas.

Steven's sister Laura Ross is a mental health worker in regional NSW, she says the health system is ill-equipped to deal with the Aboriginal LGBT community in remote and regional areas.

Laura Ross (Supplied)

They grim reality is suicide, depression, drug and alcohol abuse and risky sexual behaviours are much higher amongst the Indigenous LGBT community experts say.

“You never really know what the response is going to be from your treating team. There are still old-fashioned views out there and if you couple that with being Indigenous and from the country and gay or transgender you are really on the back foot,” Laura tells BuzzFeed News.
Laura, who is also gay, says that in some cases people seeking help in the bush are slipping through the cracks.
“If a client was to disclose that they were transgendered or gay the resources we have in the community are just never going to meet the needs of these clients,” Laura says.

Casey Conway, 30, is the first Aboriginal male model to lead a campaign for swimwear label Sluggers. He’s now proudly, openly gay, but as a teenager all he wanted to do was suppress his sexuality.

Casey Conway, 30, is the first Aboriginal male model to lead a campaign for swimwear label Sluggers. He's now proudly, openly gay, but as a teenager all he wanted to do was suppress his sexuality.

Casey Conway in the Sluggers campaign (Sluggers Swimwear)

“I was probably in my late teens and finishing up high school and I was with a really nice girl for a couple of years and I felt something wasn’t quite right,” Conway tells BuzzFeed News.

“When I started to realise that I was sexually attracted to guys it really did freak me out and I went through a phase where it was going to be my big dark secret forever”.
Conway would go on to become a successful rugby league player, but was plagued with worry about the potential backlash he would receive if he came out as gay.
Today Conway is a not only a model but also a youth worker advocating for open and honest discussion around mental health issues within the Indigenous community. He says that encouraging young people to be proud of their identity and sexuality is imperative.
“Working in the youth sector I see a lot of kids, both Indigenous and non-Indigenous trying to come to terms with it and I always say to them, “there is always someone to help you if you reach out and there have been people who have walked this path before you, you’re not alone.”

To learn more about depression, check out the resources at BeyondBlue Australia or ReachOut. If you are dealing with thoughts of suicide, you can speak to someone immediately at Lifeline Australia on 13 11 14.

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All of us: New educational resource to promote LGBT diversity in Australian schools

06/12/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

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27 November 2015
by Sylvia Tan

The program is funded by the federal government and will be available to teachers next year

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Targeted at Year 7 and 8 students (12/13 years olds), All of US is the first resource of its kind to be launched and funded by the Australian federal government’s Department of Education.
The practical teaching kit was commissioned by LGBTI youth group Minus 18 and Safe Schools Coalition Australia which has more than 470 member schools dedicated to promoting LGBT diversity and acceptance in schools and reducing bullying against same-sex attracted and gender diverse students.
‘All Of Us has been developed to have a real impact on student attitudes towards lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and intersex people and to encourage whole school change that affirms and supports the right of all students, staff and families to feel safe at school,’ says the official website.
Comprising seven video lessons, student handouts and posters, the program will form part of the health and physical education curriculum, and available for download and to all schools in both the public and private sector.
The videos explore the impact of homophobia and transphobia on students and schools, and explain what it’s like for a transgender young person to come out and affirm their gender.
Claiming that the Safe Schools Coalition Australia will ‘teach kids gay and lesbian techniques’, the Australian Christian Lobby has called for the program to be axed, the Sydney Morning Herald reported earlier this month.
Sally Richardson, national program director of Safe Schools said the latest resource has been driven and developed by teachers, and was in response to teachers who have for a long time asked for ‘additional support in the classroom to help teach topics of gender diversity, sexual diversity and intersex.’

Filed Under: Campaigns Tagged With: Australia, diversity, LGBT, programmes, schools

Gayby Baby: Australian education minister bans schools from showing documentary about LGBT families

28/08/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

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Gaybe Baby wants to dispel the myths surrounding LGBT parents

An Australian education minister has come under fire for banning every public school in his area from screening a film about children with gay parents.
New South Wales Education Minister Adrian Piccoli refused to let around 50 schools around the country screen the documentary ‘Gayby Baby’, which was going to be shown as part of the nationwide ‘Wear It Purple’ day, an event that supports the inclusion of LGBT pupils in schools.
Piccoli told 2GB Radio that the documentary, which looks at the lives of families with same-sex parents and was given a PG rating in Australia, wasn’t being shown because it wasn’t on the school curriculum.
“During school hours we expect them to be doing maths and English and curriculum matters. This movie is not part of the curriculum and that’s why I’ve made that direction.”

The move has been criticised by the Sydney-based anti-homophobia group behind Wear It Purple day, who aim to stop “ignorance, bullying and suicides” caused by discrimination towards LGBT people.
The director of Gayby Baby, Maya Newell, told The Guardianthat the film is less concerned about the sexualities of the parents and more about the development of the children.
“The film is so innocent. It’s actually much more about four kids who are traversing oncoming puberty, who are dealing with the trials and tribulations of growing up. The fact they have gay parents is really minor.”
Sydney MP Alex Greenwich called the decision “absurd and deeply disappointing”.

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Coming out in Newcastle: Pride Radio creator says being gay cost him jobs

05/07/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

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Former North East radio and TV presenter Jonathan Morrell

Former North East radio and TV presenter Jonathan MorrellFormer North East radio and TV presenter Jonathan Morrell


Former Sunday Sun columnist Jonathan Morrell, who now lives in Australia with his husband, is urging people to turn out for Northern Pride
Former North radio and TV presenter Jonathan Morrell has revealed for the first time that being gay cost him jobs in the region.
Speaking in support of Newcastle’s upcoming Northern Pride festival, the former Sunday Sun columnist said he was restricted in how open and honest he could be about his sexuality while working in the North East media for more than 20 years.
But the 45-year-old, who emigrated to Australia four years ago with partner Andrew, has called on people of all sexual orientations, ages and backgrounds to join in the celebration later this month to ensure prejudice continues to fade away.
Jonathan, who now works as a producer and reporter for Perth’s Channel 7 News channel after stints with BBC Radio Newcastle and Cleveland, ITV Tyne Tees, Sky News and Real Radio, said: “The North East is no better or worse that anywhere else. There are people who have issues with homosexuality and those without.

“When you live in a democracy like the UK or Australia you are entitled to your opinion but you are not entitled to it if it is intended to make people’s lives unhappy.

“In my lifetime, things have come a long way – from the age of consent being 21 and schools being banned from talking about homosexuality in the 1980s, to protection in the workplace from discrimination and equality in marriage. I never imagined that would happen.”Jonathan grew up in rural Cornwall and he found moving to the diverse city of Newcastle as a student made life easier being gay, but he soon found work tricky.
He said: “I had come out when I was about 16 at college. I had a girlfriend but it didn’t work out. My friend Darren was the first openly gay person I had known and at first that scared me. With time, I told him that I might be gay. He said he wasn’t surprised and that was it.
“I cannot explain how huge it is to say that to someone for the first time. You are challenging all of the assumptions about you from being a child. My friends made it clear it didn’t make a difference and I should just be myself.
“There were people who didn’t speak to me again, but it was there loss and I don’t want those sorts of people in my life.
“Since then I have never flaunted it, but have always been open and honest because I think, ‘why wouldn’t I be’? Prejudice is drawn out of ignorance and the more people know about minority groups like LGBT the more accepting they will be as they know people who fit into these groups and are nice people.
“However, it was hard to do that when you are working on TV and radio because a lot of time the company was not happy with me being as open.”
He explained: “There have been instances of people saying unpleasant things to me. When I was at the BBC an older colleague said he knew why I was gay. When I asked how, he said I must have been abused as a child. I was gobsmacked.
“Another colleague, who was Christian, gave me a book and asked me to read it. It was about a bloke who got AIDS and died.
“Occasionally in pubs I hear abuse, but I don’t tend to say anything as that only sees things escalate out of control. These people tend to run out of things to say in the end. But I have also met some amazing supportive people and they fair outnumber the nasty ones.
“It has cost me jobs in the past because there is still a culture, although it is against the law, in which homophobic opinions remain but have been pushed underground because it is not PC to say anymore.
“Thankfully, fewer and fewer of those people are around. At the end of the day what two people do in their relationship is nobody else’s business.”
Jonathan and Andrew have been together for 26 years, having met at work at the BBC, and in March the civil partners got married.
Jonathan was a leading figure in the creation of Pride Radio North East, which broadcasts online all year round and on FM for four weeks each, and while living in the North East was also a keen supporter of LGBT rugby club Newcastle Ravens and support service MESMAC North East.

Pride Parade Newcastle

Pride Parade Newcastle


Meanwhile, the journalist has given his backing to the Northern Pride arts and entertainment festival will take place across the region from July 17 to 19, centring on the Town Moor’s weekend showpiece event.
He said: “Pride has gone from being a small gathering to a great big party which attracts big artists and thousands of people.
“When I was on TV I was quite careful where I went and what I did, but once that stopped I no longer felt under pressure and loved going to the Pride festival.
“People ask why we need Pride. Look at Russia where homosexuals are being persecuted. You can see that very quickly things can change from a tolerant climate to open hostility.
“Before 1967, tens of thousands of people in the UK were prosecuted for being gay – not long ago. People were locked up, had lobotomies and were chemically castrated.
“Governments change and society changes but we cannot ever go back to those days. We must always be vigilant and make sure we continues to speak up and remember how far LGBT people have come and how far they still need to go.”He added: “Pride is also great fun – a day of celebration to be thankful about rights hard won by a generation who went through really tough times.
“It is a time to say ‘this is me, this is our community and we are here’. We might not think there a lot of gay people in Newcastle but there are thousands. It is important that they get out there.”
And the worst thing Jonathan hears said about his sexuality?
“People say it is a choice and I made it. My response is, ‘you should try walking a thousand miles in my shoes’.
“I believe me being gay is a product of birth and in time I’m confident that will be proven. Just as people have brown hair, I was born that way.”

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: Australia, coming out, Jonathan Morrell, LGBT rights, Newcastle, Perth

Gay athletes ‘not safe’ in Australian sport

11/05/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

Gay athletes ‘not safe’ in Australian sport according to world-first study that also revealed almost all young gay players hide their sexuality out of fear

  • Gay athletes and spectators unwelcome in Australian sport, survey finds
  • Almost 9500 people surveyed for the ‘Out on the Fields’ world-first report
  • Report finds 87 per cent of homosexual young athletes afraid to come out
  • 75 per cent say gay or lesbian fans would not be safe at a sporting event

By LIAM QUINN FOR DAILY MAIL AUSTRALIA

PUBLISHED: 16:52, 10 May 2015 | UPDATED: 17:06, 10 May 2015

Gay athletes are unwelcome in Australian sport, and 87 per cent young homosexual male athletes hide their sexuality from teammates because they fear retaliation

Gay athletes are unwelcome in Australian sport, and 87 per cent young homosexual male athletes hide their sexuality from teammates because they fear retaliation Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3075730/Gay-athletes-not-safe-Australian-sport-according-world-study-revealed-young-gay-players-hide-sexuality-fear.


 

Of those surveyed, 70 per cent feel youth sport in Australia is not safe and supportive for gay people. More than half also said they feared being openly gay would lead to bullying, in addition to 37 per cent who were worried about discrimination from coaches or officials.

A further 75 per cent of respondents said gay or lesbian fans would not be safe at a sporting event.

More than one third of gay men and 19 per cent of lesbians said they have been bullied. Almost 85 per cent said they have heard verbal slurs, such as ‘faggot’ or ‘dyke’, at sporting events.

Andrew Purchas, an openly gay rugby player and founder of the Sydney Convicts, Australia’s first gay rugby union team, said the numbers were shocking.

The 'Out on the Fields' report surveyed 9,494 people of mixed sexual orientation about their experiences of homophobia, with a strong focus on team sports

The ‘Out on the Fields’ report surveyed 9,494 people of mixed sexual orientation about their experiences of homophobia, with a strong focus on team sports Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3075730/Gay-athletes-not-safe-Australian-sport-according-world-study-revealed-young-gay-players-hide-sexuality-fear.

‘We were all alarmed and surprised by the extent and depth of the homophobia that the study found in Australian sports,’ Mr Purchas said.

‘The findings were much worse than we expected, particularly in youth sport and the result that 80% of Australian participants believe that LGB athletes are either not accepted, accepted a little or only moderately accepted in sport is very alarming.

‘Compared to other countries, gay men in Australia were the least likely to feel welcome in sporting culture.’

Victoria University’s Dr. Grant O’Sullivan, one of the report’s seven international experts, said ‘casual homophobic language’ plays a big role in creating an unwelcoming environment.

 

The report discovered a number of alarming statistics

The report discovered a number of alarming statistics

The findings suggest homophobia is rampant in Australian sport, both on the field and in the stands

The findings suggest homophobia is rampant in Australian sport, both on the field and in the stands

The Bingham Cup, an international gay rugby tournament that was first held in 2002, initiated the Out on the Fields survey

 The Bingham Cup, an international gay rugby tournament that was first held in 2002, initiated the Out on the Fields survey

‘Often this language is not meant to be hurtful but can be very damaging when heard by those struggling with their sexuality,’ Mr O’Sullivan said.

In response to the report, Australia’s four major football codes and cricket have reaffirmed their commitment to tackle homophobia in sport.

The Australian Football League, Australian Rugby Union, Cricket Australia, Football Federation Australia, and National Rugby League have supported the the idea of joining an advisory board with the Australian Sports Commission and Australian Human Rights Commission to support the development of the ‘Pride in Sport’ index.

In response to the report, Australia's four major football codes and cricket have reaffirmed their commitment to tackle homophobia in sport

In response to the report, Australia’s four major football codes and cricket have reaffirmed their commitment to tackle homophobia in sport

The Australian Government also helped with funding for the investigation

The Australian Government also helped with funding for the investigation

The index will be used to monitor inclusiveness within sporting codes in Australia and will provide Australian sport with a blueprint for good practice and allow an assessment to be made on year on year progress.

The Bingham Cup, an international gay rugby tournament that was first held in 2002, initiated the Out on the Fields survey.

The Australian Government also helped with funding for the investigation.

Out on the Fields report: The key findings

  • 80 per cent of people surveyed have witnessed homophobia in sport
  • 75 per cent believe an openly gay person would not be safe as a spectator at an event
  • 87 per cent of gay male athletes completely or partially closeted while playing youth sport
  • Spectator stands most likely location of homophobia – ahead of school PE classroom
  • 15 per cent of gay men and 9 per cent of lesbian women physically assaulted in sport
  • 80 per cent believe sport to be more homophobic than the rest of society

16 to 22-year-olds who hide their sexuality from teammates 

  • New Zealand: 88%
  • Australia: 87%
  • Canada: 86%
  • Ireland: 83%
  • USA: 83%
  • United Kingdom: 70%

By LIAM QUINN FOR DAILY MAIL AUSTRALIA

PUBLISHED: 16:52, 10 May 2015 | UPDATED: 17:06, 10 May 2015

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Gaybies: True stories of growing up with gay parents

31/01/2015 By David McFarlane Leave a Comment

Will this play reach the UK; will it reach Northern Ireland. We can but hope, and failing that hope that it gets broadcast and that we can watch it that way

 Running as part of the Sydney Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras, theatrical production Gaybies draws on real interviews with the children of LGBTI parents

30 JANUARY 2015 | BY DAVID HUDSON
Dean Bryant (centre) and the cast of his show, Gaybies

At a time when some territories in Australia continue to deny gay couples the right to adopt and foster children, a new play coming to Sydney next week is set to shine an illuminating light on the issue of LGBTI parenthood.
Gaybies will be coming to the Eternity Playhouse in Sydney as part of the 2015 Sydney Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras.
Written by Helpmann Award-winning director Dean Bryant, the show seeks to tell the stories of children raised in rainbow families. Bryant created the script by drawing upon real-life interviews with people who have grown up with same-sex parents, surrogate moms and donor dads.
Gaybies
‘Gaybies is the perfect answer to anyone who has ever asked, “But what about the children?”,’ says Bryant in press material for the show. ‘It’s sincere, touching, hilarious and heart-breaking.
‘It requires a highly talented bunch of actors to do these characters justice and I’m thrilled to have assembled a dream cast which, in a wonderful twist, includes one of the original interviewees.’
That cast member is Georgia Scott, who spoke to Bryant about her experience of her own father coming out.
‘There is always a lot of hype around what people assume or what people can philosophize is going to be the effects of gay parenting on children,’ said Scott about the show.
‘This is a genuine look at how these people have lived and what their experience has been. And you know, it is not sugar coated and it’s not all great.’
Speaking to the Daily Telegraph, fellow cast member Cooper George Amai said: ‘The children interviewed for the play didn’t feel like they had missed out — more that they had an extra mum or dad.
‘Often people raised by single sex parents seem to be more rounded, more balanced, more aware.’
Although he wasn’t raised by gay parents, Amai said that he could relate to some of the thoughts and feelings expressed in the piece as he was raised by his mother and her two sisters, adding, laughing, ‘It sometimes felt like I had three mums.’
Dean Bryant
Speaking to GSN, Bryant [right], who is gay himself, explained what drew him to the subject matter.
‘I went to the 60th birthday party of a friend of mine and his two daughters gave hilarious speeches about growing up with a gay dad – watching Melrose Place as their family show, going on Mardi Gras floats – and I thought there’s some wonderful comic material here.
‘I also was keen to explore the gay marriage debate from the perspective of children of gay parents – to use their actual words to weave together their experience of growing up in this environment.’
Bryant has been with his partner for the past 18 years. Is fatherhood something that he would himself consider?
‘We love our nieces and nephews, but can’t afford to have children via surrogacy, living as we do on arts wages. If I was asked to father a child for a close friend, I’d definitely consider it.’
Gaybies was first staged as a reading at Melbourne’s Midsumma Festival in 2013, but this production marks its Sydney premiere. Catch it running between 6 February and 8 March 2015 at the Eternity Playhouse, 39 Burton Street, Darlinghurst.

– See more at: http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/gaybies-true-stories-growing-gay-parents300115#sthash.QRF14xnz.dpuf

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Watch teaser: First gay local high school drama to hit Australian screens

28/12/2014 By David McFarlane Leave a Comment

Producers expect to show the pilot episode at festivals next year with hopes of a TV pick-up later in 2015

27 DECEMBER 2014
Cast of Subject to Change

Photo: Subjecttochange.com.au
An independent coming-of-age drama featuring same-sex attracted lead characters at a suburban Australian public high school is expected to hit local and international screens next year.
‘Through its coming-of-age narrative, Subject to Change will confront the harsh difficulties faced in suburban Australia by following these young adults as they deal with their complex and conflicting emotions. It will be a rocky road to love and inclusion through their final years of high school,’ the website reads.
Creator and executive producer by Daniel Mercieca said, ‘We’re setting it in a suburban Australian public high school, well outside the inner city comfort zone of rainbow flags and wear-it-purple days.’
‘It’s going to be a rough, homophobic experience for young same sex attracted students.’
The independently produced pilot episode of the television program is currently in post production and producers hope to show it at festivals next year.
A thirteen episode series of 22-25 minute episodes is currently in development.
Mercieca added that they currently have no development funding and are seeking discussions with interested co-producers in the new year.

– See more at: http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/watch-teaser-first-gay-local-high-school-drama-hit-australian-screens271214#sthash.szOL5S6s.dpuf

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Australian LGBT Refugees – Stop them sending them to Papua New Guinea

05/08/2013 By David McFarlane Leave a Comment

Australia has just guaranteed that lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) refugees, who arrive by boat, will be sent to Papua New Guinea – where being gay could get you 14 years in jail.Australia is one of the few countries in the region that openly accepts LGBT people. It has always been a safe haven for refugees fleeing persecution. Now, only weeks out from an election, the government has thrown together this controversial policy in the hope of winning votes. Worse yet, the opposition party are proposing an even more extreme policy.
The policy has already begun to backfire, with Australians taking to the streets in protest and former Prime Ministers publicly denouncing the move. Local outrage has all parties contesting the election scrambling to respond.
Will you join the call for Australia to drop its dangerous new policy that denies hope and safety to those who they need it most?
www.allout.org/australian-home

In Papua New Guinea, it’s a crime to be gay. Because of that, any person seeking asylum there can automatically be turned away. Every LGBT person who arrives by boat will have little choice but to lie about who they are to avoid being sent home.
With their reputation under attack, Australia’s leaders could be pushed to stop violating the Geneva Conventions and protect the most vulnerable.
Sign this petition and tell Australia that you won’t stand for this:
www.allout.org/australian-home
The full policy states that all people arriving by boat to seek asylum will be relocated to Papua New Guinea where their refugee claims will be assessed, and only then allowed to settle in the community. Legal experts have already denounced the plan for breaching international law. It is singling out people on boats for taking the last resort available to them.
Hiding on a leaky boat, crossing some of the world’s most dangerous oceans, is the most difficult way to reach such an isolated country. No one would take such a risky boat journey if their very lives weren’t on the line.
Will you sign the petition against the Australian government’s plan to force people back into danger?
www.allout.org/australian-home
All Out’s first ever campaign successfully halted the deportation of Ugandan lesbian Brenda Namagadde from the UK back to her home country. Since then, we’ve become a powerful movement of over 1.7 million people fighting anti-gay laws around the world. Take a stand against Australia’s unfair targeting of asylum seekers – sign the petition:
www.allout.org/australian-home
Thanks for going All Out.
Andre, Hayley, Jeremy, Marie, Marie-Marguerite, Sara, and the rest of the All Out team.
SOURCES:
UN refugee agency raises more concerns over Labor’s PNG solution – The Guardian,  26 July 2013
www.theguardian.com/world/2013/jul/26/united-nations-agency-asylum-policy

Rudd plan in tatters as camps labelled ‘gulags’ – Sydney Morning Herald, 25 July 2013
www.smh.com.au/federal-politics/federal-election-2013/rudd-plan-in-tatters-as-camps-labelled-gulags

Coalition wants military led campaign against people smugglers – ABC, 25 July 2013 
www.abc.net.au/news/2013-07-25/coalition-wants-military-led-campaign-against-people-smugglers

How to break the people smugglers real business model – Inside Story, 25 July 2013
www.inside.org.au/how-to-break-the-people-smugglers-real-business-model

More than a legal issue, PNG plan challenges core principles – Sydney Morning Herald, 23 July 2013
www.smh.com.au/comment/more-than-a-legal-issue-png-plan-challenges-core-principles

 
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