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International Men’s Day – 19th November 2016

02/11/2016 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

International Men's Day

Men and Boys

It is international men’s day on November 19th, and I know there are a number of you who say why! Well the statistics do speak for themselves, but I quote from The History Learning site

…’Boys are getting better in the education system as time goes on; yet they are progressing at a much slower rate than girls. Working Class boys do particularly bad in the education system and this is situation is becoming increasingly worse.  This could be because working class boys want to get out of school and dig into “Mans Work.” However, there has been a significant decline in manual labour jobs that require hardly any or no formal grades as machines have replaced the jobs normally associated with men. This has led to a worrying unemployment rate for the unskilled in developed nations.’…

International Men's Day

men and boys are getting lost

The BCMJ in 2011 said ‘Suicide in men has been described as a “silent epidemic”: epidemic because of its high incidence and substantial contribution to men’s mortality, and silent be­cause of a lack of public awareness, a paucity of explanatory research, and the reluctance of men to seek help for suicide-related concerns. A statistical overview demonstrates a shockingly high rate of death by suicide for men compared with women, and a need to focus attention on prevention, screening, treatment, and service delivery.

Stop Male Suicide

Objectives of International Men’s Day include a focus on men’s and boy’s health, improving gender relations, promoting gender equality, and highlighting positive male role models. It is an occasion for men to celebrate their achievements and contributions, in particular their contributions to community, family, marriage, and child care while highlighting the discrimination against them.

The theme for 2016 is Stop Male Suicide. In every country bar China where it is approximately equal the suicide rate is worse for men than women and averaged out on a country by country basis the rate of suicide for men is up to three timesthat of women. In Russia it is 6 men for every 1 women. Men’s health is worse than women’s in every part of the world. Recent World Health Organization (WHO) data shows that, globally, male life expectancy at birth in 2015 was 69 years; for females, it was 74 years. Children suffer when they lose a father or a grandfather prematurely. So let’s work together to turn the tide of male ill-health & suicide.

The deplorable state of men’s health internationally is obviously a contributing factor to the epidemic of Male Suicide across the world. This year Glen Poole the IMD coordinator for the UK has written a book called “Stop Male Suicide.” His solution can be summed up in the words LEARN +LOVE+LISTEN. Let’s use that as the motto for this year’s International Mens Day and lets all help stop male suicide. If we each applied this saying every day the world would become a better place.

The November IMD is a significant date as it interfaces the popular ‘Movember‘ charity event and also with Universal Children’s Day on Nov 20 with which IMD forms a 48 hour celebration of men and children respectively, and of the special relationships they share.

imd-web-poster-wrestle-v2bThe ability to sacrifice your needs on behalf of others is fundamental to manhood, as is honour. Manhood rites of passage the world over recognise the importance of sacrifice in the development of Manhood.

Men make sacrifices everyday in their place of work, in their role as husbands and fathers, for their families, for their friends, for their communities and for their nation. International Men’s Day is an opportunity for people everywhere of goodwill to appreciate and celebrate the men in their lives and the contribution they make to society for the greater good of all.

Methods of commemorating International Men’s Day have included public seminars, conferences, festivals and fundraisers, classroom activities at schools, radio and television programs, Church observances, and peaceful displays and marches. The manner of observing this annual day is optional; any organizations are welcome to host their own events and any appropriate forums can be used.

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International Men’s Day is celebrated in over 60 countries of the world. Too many to list. Join us on November 19 in celebrating the contribution men and boys make to those around them, to their family and friends, their work place and the community, the nations and the world.

 

 

 

Filed Under: Community Journalist Tagged With: boys, future, men, suicide, support

“We Know Who We Are” Vid Supports LGBTs in World’s Most Homophobic Countries

07/12/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

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BY LES FABIAN BRATHWAITE
NOVEMBER 19 2015
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The new track by Steven James and Quentin Sound raises money and awareness for those suffering from homophobia in Russia, Uganda and Jamaica.

In a powerful new music video, Steven James and Quentin Sound send a message of hope and support to LGBT people living in some of the most homophobic nations in the world: Jamaica, Russia and Uganda.
In Jamaica, sexual acts between men are punishable with up to ten years in prison, while Human Rights Watch documented 56 cases of anti-LGBT violence in 2013—only four led to arrests or prosecutions
Russia’s rampant homophobia has been well-documented. Though there are no laws criminalizing same-sex activity, a law passed in 2013 banning the spread of propaganda of “non-traditional” sexual relations among minors has led to an increase in homophobic violence.
Uganda’s so-called “Kill the Gays” bill drew interntaional ire, and though the country’s parliament didn’t succeed in passing the death penalty for homosexual acts between men, “carnal knowledge against the order of nature” carries a potential life sentence in prison.
Check out the video for “We Know Who We Are” below (which features some distrubing imagery of homophobic violence) and buy the single here on iTunes. 50 percent of proceeds from “We Know Who We Are” will be donated to LGBT youth organizations in Russia, Jamaica and Uganda—Children-404, JFLAG and Sexual Minorities Uganda (SMUG), respectively.
https://youtu.be/9F5tJWBYVWg
 
 

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: homophobia, POPNOGRAPHY, support, vid, video

What would you do if your child was gay?

06/12/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

Gay Times Logo26th November 2015

by Daniel Megarry

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YouTube channel Culture Beats have been asking strangers around the world what they would do if their child was gay.

Most of the people asked said they would love their children regardless of their sexual orientation, and would try to understand.
A woman from Austria said: “You can’t do anything about it, because it’s not a decision he makes. He was born with this kind of orientation, so the only thing you can do is accept and support him.”
An Irish couple said: “I’d like to understand how he feels, it’s still your child. I would wish that he could find happiness whether he’s gay or straight. We’ve passed the gay law, gay people can marry now in our country. I’m very proud of that.”
Despite the majority showing acceptance, a few people had less positive views on the potential of a gay child.
A woman from the United Arab Emirates said: “I will kill him,” while a man off-screen said: “It’s against the natural law.”

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: family, gay child, support

The Bent Bars Project

12/04/2015 By ACOMSDave 1 Comment

The Bent Bars Project

Poster Design by A-K Pirata


The Bent Bars Project is a letter-writing project for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, transsexual, gender-variant, intersex, and queer prisoners in Britain. The project aims to develop stronger connections and build solidarity between LGBTQ communities outside and inside prison walls.
Although many overtly homophobic and transphobic laws have been recently overturned in Britain, the criminal justice system continues to target and criminalize queer, trans and gender non-conforming people. We don’t know exactly how many LGBTQ people are currently behind bars, but we do know queer, trans and gender non-conforming people, particularly those from poor backgrounds and communities of colour, are disproportionately funneled into the prison system as a result of systemic discrimination, inequality and social exclusion.  We also know that queer, trans and gender non-conforming people are often subject to increased isolation, harassment, violence and assault when in prison.
Bent Bars aims to work in solidarity with prisoners by sharing resources, providing mutual support and drawing public attention to the struggles of queer and trans people behind bars.
 
If you have the time, please get involved – the link is here

Get Involved

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia, Campaigns Tagged With: bent bars project, gay prisoners, support

LGBT Victim Support Helpline Opens In UK

31/01/2015 By David McFarlane Leave a Comment

By The Gay UK, Jan 26 2015 02:28PM

Stop Hate UK are pleased to announce the launch of a helpline offering advice, support and telephone-based advocacy to victims of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Hate Crime.
The service has been funded until March 2016 by the Equality and Human Rights Commission and will operate across England, Scotland and Wales. The national charity, founded in 1995, will work closely with the LGBT Consortium and other third sector organisations, local authorities and police commissioning areas to ensure the helpline is accessible to all who need it including those in rural areas.Rose Simkins, Chief Executive for Stop Hate UK, said,
“Our existing helplines have received increasing numbers of callers over the past few years and we are pleased to have provided support to so many people who have suffered as victims of Hate Crime because of some aspect of their identity. We hope that the launch of this new service for LGB&T people, introducing a varied range of reporting methods, will empower and facilitate more people to step forward to seek support.”
The Gay British Crime Survey (Stonewall/YouGov, 2013) found that 1 in 6 lesbian, gay and bisexual people had suffered from a hate incident or crime within the previous 3 years. However, only one third of these crimes and incidents have been reported. Various reasons for not reporting were given, including concern that they would not be taken seriously and fear of reprisal.
The Stop Hate UK LGB&T helpline offers people an alternative method of reporting with additional support if required.
Alex, from the organisation safeT UK – strength, awareness, freedom and empowerment for Transgender people, said,
“I received a brilliant service from Stop Hate UK when I was subject to repeated transphobic hate crime. It’s very reassuring to see that Stop Hate UK are able to extend their services to include more support for Transgender victims of hate crime across a wider area of the UK ”
People across England, Scotland and Wales who have experienced, witnessed or know someone who is experiencing Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Hate Crime can contact the LGB&T Hate Crime helpline on 0808 801 0661, or visit our website www.stophateuk.org, for support and information. The helpline is open 24 hours a day, 365 days a year; calls are free from landlines and most mobiles but we can always call you back if you want.
Calls are confidential and ongoing support will be offered. Referrals to other services, including the police, are made where consent has been given by the victim.
Callers can also report hate crimes and incidents by text, text relay, web chat, online forms, post and email.

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia, History Tagged With: helpline, support, victim

Still fighting for equality: So So Gay speaks to Lesbians & Gays Support the Miners

05/12/2014 By David McFarlane Leave a Comment

LGSM

Still fighting for equality: So So Gay speaks to Lesbians & Gays Support the Miners

Lee Williscroft-Ferris
4 Dec 2014
We have yet to hear anything negative about Pride, 2014’s UK film highlight. Tracking the fascinating real-life friendship forged between a Welsh mining community and a group of London-based LGB activists at the height of the strikes, the film has struck a chord with audiences worldwide. We were keen to find out a little more about what has become of Lesbians and Gays Support the Miners in the years that have passed, so caught up for a chat with Martin Goodsell and Brett Haran, the group’s treasurers and founder members of LGSM.

So So Gay: Hi, how are you both today?
LGSM: We’re both very well, thank you. Thanks for asking us about our involvement in LGSM. We know there’s lots of interest in the group following the huge success of Pride.
What have you been doing with yourselves in the 30 years since the events depicted inPride?
Quite a lot of things, as you can imagine, over such a long period of time. We’ve continued to be involved in various political campaigns over the years. In addition to our campaigning work, we both became dads to two delightful kids: a daughter, now 29, and a son, now 23. They’re both really proud and fascinated by what their dads and their comrades were involved in all those years ago.
lgsmSo how do you feel about the positive response to the film?
We think it’s been fantastic. The reviews have been overwhelmingly enthusiastic; many people have said they can’t remember the last time they found a film so moving, uplifting, joyous and life affirming. It really seems to have struck a chord, with many people saying there was spontaneous applause at the end of the film.
Do you feel it’s an accurate portrayal of events?
Well, the film is obviously not a documentary. It’s a dramatised account that’s aiming to get the story and its key message across to as wide an audience as possible. Some elements of the film have been fictionalised for dramatic effect, but the essential story as depicted in the film is very definitely an accurate portrayal.
Before the film came out, many of us felt that the amazing story of the coming together of our two communities – LGBT and the miners – could so easily have been forgotten. The film has ensured this is no longer the case and that’s very gratifying. It’s an important part of working class and LGBT history. As a direct result of LGSM’s involvement in the strike, the National Union of Mineworkers supported a motion which secured the Labour Party’s formal manifesto commitment to lesbian and gay equality – which led to significant advances for LGBT rights in the UK when Labour finally returned to power in the late 90s.
This includes the equalisation of the age of consent, outlawing discrimination against LGBT people in employment and the provision of goods and services, the inclusion of homophobia in the definition of hate crimes, repealing Section 28 and the introduction of civil partnerships, which paved the way for marriage equality.
To what extent do you feel the gay rights movement has become less political?
As a community we’ve achieved many goals over the last 30 years – we’ve just mentioned some of the key achievements in terms of equalities legislation. Because of these successes there’s a danger in thinking that the politics has gone and it’s now more about lifestyle. But there are plenty of stories in the press and online that show us that violence and discrimination against LGBT people – including homophobic bullying in schools – are still depressingly common and need to be confronted. We can’t be complacent and need to continue to support and defend the rights of LGBT people at home and abroad. In political terms, we’re still the target of abuse and hostility from those on the far right including Ukip. This must be challenged and exposed for the naked bigotry that it is. Thankfully, there are still plenty of people, LGBT and straight, who are committed to tackling these issues, through grass roots campaigns, community organisations and the trade unions.
Are you still in touch with any of the miners or their families?
We’ve seen Sian James on a couple of occasions over the last few years, but it was only at the premiere of the film Pride that we caught up again with many of our old friends from the Welsh mining communities.
What do you consider the greatest political challenges for the trade union movement and the LGBT community in 2014?
The biggest challenge for the trade union movement is the continuing fight against the government’s austerity measures, with cuts in public services and attacks on welfare. Some of the poorest and most vulnerable people are bearing the brunt of these measures. It’s very much an ‘us and them’, ‘divide and rule’ agenda. Just like 30 years ago during the miners’ strike, people are being scapegoated. The trade unions must continue to stand up for these people and give them a voice.
It’s important for us in the LGBT community to show solidarity with communities coming under attack. The gains we have made as LGBT people have come about when we have made common cause with others who have been fighting for their rights. The message of the Pridefilm demonstrates this perfectly.
lgsm-3-1-publicity-copy-of-a3-poster-pits-and-pervertsLGSM has regrouped. How has that been for you?
It’s been an incredibly emotional and inspirational experience. We had kept in touch with many of our old LGSM friends over the last 30 years but through the film and the regrouping of LGSM, we’ve also met friends and comrades again that we hadn’t seen for almost 30 years.
What does the future hold for the group?
It’s exciting how much energy and commitment there is for getting involved in new campaigns around LGBT issues and wider solidarity campaigns. There’s been an incredible amount of interest in LGSM generated by the film and not only in the UK but around the world.
We are planning to go back down to Dulais in March 2015 to mark the 30th anniversary of the end of the strike. We can’t wait to see if Jonathan will be able to match the dancing skills of his film counterpart when we find ourselves once again in the Onllwyn miners’ welfare hall! We are also looking to have a high profile presence at London Pride 2015, to mark the historic 30th anniversary of the miners and their families leading the Pride march in a show of solidarity with the LGBT community.
 

So So Gay readers can purchase a Pits & Perverts t-shirt, as sown in the film, directly from Martin by email at martin2003brasil@yahoo.co.uk. All proceeds go to supporting the campaigning work of LGSM. You can also follow LGSM on Twitter: (@LGSMpride)
http://youtu.be/6w8sJPq8_d4

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: homophobia, miners, movie, Pride, support

Boy aged 13 comes out as gay to his best friend – and his reaction might surprise you

24/11/2014 By David McFarlane Leave a Comment

  • Nov 22, 2014 12:16
  • By Lucy Hilton

The heartwarming exchange has become an internet sensation after being posted on Twitter by the teenager’s older sister

13-year-old boy comes out to his best mate over text

Strong bond: The text exchange between the two boys has gone viral
This teenage boy must have been fraught with worry about the terrifying prospect coming out as gay to his straight best friend.
But, much to his surprise and relief, his revelation was met with sincere acceptance and support.
The 13-year-old was soon put at ease when his straight best friend told him he was “awesome no matter what” after admitting he was gay.
Now, since being posted on social media by his older sister, the touching conversation has warmed the hearts of thousands.
Twitter user @paleveil, thought to be from the UK, shared the screenshots, which have been retweeted and favourited tens of thousands of times.

Twitter / @paleveil13-year-old boy comes out to his best mate over text
13-year-old boy comes out to his best mate over text

She wrote: “This convo between my brother and his best friend just warms my heart so much. And they’re only 13”.
The Twitter user, who has more than 14.9 thousand followers, added: “I’m actually really proud of my brother and this never happens lol”.
According to BuzzFeed, she didn’t include his name for privacy reasons but she did ask his permission before tweeting it.
It was met by an array of heartwarming messages.

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13-year-old boy comes out to his best mate over text

One user, @lajfles, said: “You just gave me a reason to live #friendshipgoals”.
Another, @dreamylester, added: “Ayy I have so much respect for both of them, the world needs more people like your bro”.
His sister said she had been shocked by the response online as the messages went viral.
The texts read: “I need to tell you something I’m really upset”
“Whatsup bro? Do you want me to call?”

Twitter / @paleveil13-year-old boy comes out to his best mate over text
13-year-old boy comes out to his best mate over text

“No don’t my parents are in the room right now it’s really personal”
“What is it”
“I’m only telling this to you so please don’t tell anyone else. I trust you bro. it’s that I feel different? I don’t know how to put it but it’s bad different…
“I don’t feel the same way other boys feel about girls it’s not normal right? 🙁 I don’t know.
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“And bro I don’t want you to not be my friend anymore because……I feel the same how how boys feel about girls…but to boys. Im so weird it feels weird and bad.
“I like boys. this is so embarrassing for me to say but that’s my secret and I was so scared of telling because your my best friend bro and I don’t want you think im weird and just leave or anything”
“Bro we have been friends for three years and I’m glad you told me this. Who the f*** cares what people are going to say?
“You’re awesome no matter what bro and im happy that your my best friend. Don’t be ashamed theres nothing to be embarrassed about.
“As a bro im gonna stick by you. Aint nothing wrong with being gay my friend.”

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: 13, boy, coming out, support

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