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Boys or Jongens – A Gay Movie Review

21/06/2025 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

“Boys or Jongens” – A Movie Review

BoysSieger, just 15, had his eyes glued to the stopwatch and the track, convinced he knew his limits—physically, emotionally, personally. As he trains for the national relay champs, everything shifts when he crosses paths with Marc. A boy as wild and free as the wind, as unpredictable as a summer storm. Through shared laughs and quiet moments of ease, a connection sparks that goes way beyond friendship. When feelings start to deepen, Sieger embarks on more than just a race—it’s a journey into self-discovery, courage, and the true meaning of love.

Gijs Blom plays a particularly nuanced role as Sieger, coming to terms with being gay, whilst being part of the athletic world. As Sieger moves forward, he becomes friends with Marc (played by Ko Zandvliet), and they both enjoy the youthfulness of being in each other’s company.  A kiss happens whilst they are at a lake.  It has all the tenderness of a first kiss, with the sparcity of sex being thought about.

Boys or Jongens is a wonderful introduction to how love develops, the complexities and the joys.

Boys Boys Boys

 

 

 

Links:

  • YouTube – Boys or Jongens
  • IMDB – Boys or Jongens
  • Abysse 

Filed Under: Movie Reviews Tagged With: boys, coming of age, courage, emotional journey, friendship, Jongens, love, personal growth, relay race, self-discovery, sports drama, summer storm, teenage drama, youth

The Glamour Boys – 17 MPs (some gay) who fought appeasement

08/11/2020 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

The Glamour Boys: The Secret Story of the Rebels who Fought for Britain to Defeat Hitler

The Glamour Boys by Chris Bryant review – the rebels who fought for Britain

The Glamour Boys by Chris Bryant review – the rebels who fought for Britain

As Simon Callow’s review points out not all of ‘the 17-strong Glamour Boys’ were gay, as they also included luminaries like Harold Macmillan, Anthony Eden, Duncan Sandys, Leo Amery and Winston Churchill.

However, what does stand out, is that the leadership of this group who opening stood up against appeasement when the government of the day believed unequivocally in negotiating with Hitler for peace is a testament to their strength of will.  For the gay MPs, this could come at a very high price – if they were found to be in a ‘gay’ relationship of any kind they could have been in court with severe charges against them, and also the adverse publicity which as had happened in the past (Oscar Wilde) would possibly have led to them fleeing the country (but where to you might ask in the light of what was happening in German!).

There is much to recommend in this book, the accomplished multi-biography, the sensitivity in which he handles the material, the research and referencing.

In a time when we need heroes, this book highlights 17 of them to us as a nation, and in particular those of us who are gay.

 

  • The Guardian – The Glamour Boys by Chris Bryant review – the rebels who fought for Britain
  • Simon Callow reads Oscar Wilde’s Famous Prison Gay Love Letter | Attitude Pride at Home

 

 

  • The Man Who Made Magazines Gay

The Man Who Made Magazines Gay

Filed Under: Book Reviews, Community Journalist, History Tagged With: boys, Germany, glamour, government, Hitler, MPs, rebels, secrets

Boys Failure is not an option!

08/01/2017 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

Failure is not an option Failure is not an option Failure is not an option

 

The infographic (link in the further reading section)  gives some interesting information as to why boys seem to be lagging behind girls in terms of achievement in education, and their future development academically

Some interesting facts:

  • girls out perform boys in ALL countries when it comes to reading.
  • At age 15, 60% of the lowest achievers in mathematics and science are boys
  • 20% of boys play collaborative online games as against 2% of girls

There is considerably more information on this infographic which was produced from OECD figures and reports.

The following excerpts from the report ‘The ABC of Gender Equality in Education: Aptitude, Behaviour, confidence is telling and worrying –

…Young men are significantly more likely than young women to have low levels of skills and poor academic achievement, and are more likely to leave school early…(Osborne et al., 2003: Charles and Grusky, 2004)

Positive outlets for boys

…Many boys find school out of sync with their interests and preferences and, as a result, often feel disaffected and not motivated to work in school…the underachievement of young men has severe consequences not only for their own futures (Erikson et al., 2005; Rose and Betts, 2004), but for societies as a whole (OECD, 2010)…

Reading and mathematics - Failure not an option

The continuous tinkering with the United Kingdom’s educational system, the under investment, and undermining of teachers, the closure of libraries with also the lack of ‘relevant’ areas of interest for boys within both education and libraries means that we are on a road leading to failure for both our society and our country.

Failure is not an option, if we want to succeed as a country!

 

Further Reading:

  • The ABC of Gender Equality in Education: Aptitude, Behaviour, Confidence
  • Education and Skills Today – Why boys and girls still don’t have an equal chance at school by Marilyn Achiron
  • Infographic on The ABC of Gender Equlity in Education Aptitude…

 

Filed Under: Education and Development Tagged With: boys, education, failure, girls, OECD

Struggling white working-class pupils

10/11/2016 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment


Working class boys needs room and suppot


Education seems to have forgotten a proportion of its population – namely working class boys and girls! Whether we like to admit it or not, one size does not fit all when it comes to education, and boys are a completely different fit to girls, they need different stimuli and different provisions. This does not mean that we need segregated schools before certain elements of the population starts, but it does mean that we need to be inclusive of boys needs which we are not currently in the educational strata. Books need to cater for boys, not just girls. Boys also need more room to run about and get rid of energy, and also classes need to reflect this. It will be interesting to see if government, the educational establishment, and to a large degree teachers can make the changes needed.  We continue to talk about league tables, revamping education etc, but we seem to have difficulty in having a long term strategy, to allow it to develop with tinkering (government and inspectors) and to also allow teachers room and time to implement strategy without complaining even before it has had time for the ink to dry! Dave McFarlane, Community Journalist

Study finds poorer white children’s attainment has stayed stubbornly low despite improvements among other groups

Source: Schools must focus on struggling white working-class pupils, says UK charity

Filed Under: Community Journalist Tagged With: boys, developments, education, history, politics

International Men’s Day – 19th November 2016

02/11/2016 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

International Men's Day

Men and Boys

It is international men’s day on November 19th, and I know there are a number of you who say why! Well the statistics do speak for themselves, but I quote from The History Learning site

…’Boys are getting better in the education system as time goes on; yet they are progressing at a much slower rate than girls. Working Class boys do particularly bad in the education system and this is situation is becoming increasingly worse.  This could be because working class boys want to get out of school and dig into “Mans Work.” However, there has been a significant decline in manual labour jobs that require hardly any or no formal grades as machines have replaced the jobs normally associated with men. This has led to a worrying unemployment rate for the unskilled in developed nations.’…

International Men's Day

men and boys are getting lost

The BCMJ in 2011 said ‘Suicide in men has been described as a “silent epidemic”: epidemic because of its high incidence and substantial contribution to men’s mortality, and silent be­cause of a lack of public awareness, a paucity of explanatory research, and the reluctance of men to seek help for suicide-related concerns. A statistical overview demonstrates a shockingly high rate of death by suicide for men compared with women, and a need to focus attention on prevention, screening, treatment, and service delivery.

Stop Male Suicide

Objectives of International Men’s Day include a focus on men’s and boy’s health, improving gender relations, promoting gender equality, and highlighting positive male role models. It is an occasion for men to celebrate their achievements and contributions, in particular their contributions to community, family, marriage, and child care while highlighting the discrimination against them.

The theme for 2016 is Stop Male Suicide. In every country bar China where it is approximately equal the suicide rate is worse for men than women and averaged out on a country by country basis the rate of suicide for men is up to three timesthat of women. In Russia it is 6 men for every 1 women. Men’s health is worse than women’s in every part of the world. Recent World Health Organization (WHO) data shows that, globally, male life expectancy at birth in 2015 was 69 years; for females, it was 74 years. Children suffer when they lose a father or a grandfather prematurely. So let’s work together to turn the tide of male ill-health & suicide.

The deplorable state of men’s health internationally is obviously a contributing factor to the epidemic of Male Suicide across the world. This year Glen Poole the IMD coordinator for the UK has written a book called “Stop Male Suicide.” His solution can be summed up in the words LEARN +LOVE+LISTEN. Let’s use that as the motto for this year’s International Mens Day and lets all help stop male suicide. If we each applied this saying every day the world would become a better place.

The November IMD is a significant date as it interfaces the popular ‘Movember‘ charity event and also with Universal Children’s Day on Nov 20 with which IMD forms a 48 hour celebration of men and children respectively, and of the special relationships they share.

imd-web-poster-wrestle-v2bThe ability to sacrifice your needs on behalf of others is fundamental to manhood, as is honour. Manhood rites of passage the world over recognise the importance of sacrifice in the development of Manhood.

Men make sacrifices everyday in their place of work, in their role as husbands and fathers, for their families, for their friends, for their communities and for their nation. International Men’s Day is an opportunity for people everywhere of goodwill to appreciate and celebrate the men in their lives and the contribution they make to society for the greater good of all.

Methods of commemorating International Men’s Day have included public seminars, conferences, festivals and fundraisers, classroom activities at schools, radio and television programs, Church observances, and peaceful displays and marches. The manner of observing this annual day is optional; any organizations are welcome to host their own events and any appropriate forums can be used.

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International Men’s Day is celebrated in over 60 countries of the world. Too many to list. Join us on November 19 in celebrating the contribution men and boys make to those around them, to their family and friends, their work place and the community, the nations and the world.

 

 

 

Filed Under: Community Journalist Tagged With: boys, future, men, suicide, support

Boys On Film 2: In Too Deep

15/08/2016 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

BOYS ON FILM 2
In Too Deep
Peccadillo Pictures
2007
5 060018 651637
peccapics.com
Boys On film 2: In Too Deep

**Boys On Film 2: In Too Deep: A Collection of Encountering Desire and Identity**

The title of this collection, *In Too Deep*, offers a cheeky nod to one of the contributions, “Kali Ma,” set near a swimming pool, hinting at the tangled web of sexual and emotional connections explored across the nine films compiled here. This eclectic mix features two entries from the USA, both set in the vibrant backdrop of New York City, alongside two from Australia’s sunny Sydney. Adding a splash of international flair, we have one film each from Sweden, Canada, France, and Mexico—where “Bramadero” unfolds, a visually striking piece that embraces the surreal, featuring two striking men meeting in a seemingly abandoned building. The film dances on the line between social realism and magic realism, artfully capturing their intimate encounter in a mesmerizing, desolate setting.

Among the shorter contributions, *The Island* from Canada presents Trevor Anderson trudging through the snowy expanse of northern Alberta. The film cleverly critiques a macho talk show suggestion that all “homos” should be isolated on an imaginary island to prevent the spread of HIV. As Trevor walks through the winter landscape, his daydream visions of a “homo utopia” burst forth in vibrant animation, humorously juxtaposing the harsh realities with fantastical notions of sunshine, sex, and sangria, excluding the chaos of storms or calamities. This delightful short is a warm breath of fresh air.

*Love Bite* dives into the lives of two teenage boys sharing a spliff and, ultimately, a secret. One boy, who believes the other is disgusted at the thought of him being queer, is actually hiding his own monstrous secret—he’s a werewolf. This lighthearted narrative takes a dark turn with a gory climax that leaves a lasting impression.

Then there’s *Working It Out*, a comedic examination of jealousy within a couple at the gym, where charm takes a backseat to style, and one partner’s insecurities are on full display. Despite the performers’ less than engaging presence and the gym’s unremarkable setting, the story captures a slice of modern relationship dynamics, though it may not resonate with everyone.

Futures & Derivatives offers a baffling narrative revolving around a businessman trying to impress his superiors with a presentation. However, the true focus shifts to a quirky outsider who, while working through the night, infuses the dull office environment with creativity—a charming mix of corporate seriousness and whimsical style.

Meanwhile, *Lucky Blue* transports us to Sweden, where the pet budgerigar of a traveling family becomes a sweet backdrop to young Lasse’s crush on Kevin, the tall, blonde boy he yearns for. The film wraps up with Lasse’s endearing love song to Kevin, leaving viewers with a sense of hopeful innocence.

*Cowboy*, hailing from Germany, introduces us to Oliver Scherz’s character—an estate agent surveying a rundown farm where he encounters a captivating, enigmatic wild boy played by Pit Bokowski. Their passionate, explicit connection amidst the decay of the farm hints at deeper themes of desire and escape.

*Weekend in the Countryside* presents an intriguing dynamic between two young men, Théo Frilet and Pierre Moure, and a slightly older man overseeing their stay at a rural estate. With fears and tensions simmering, the narrative captures complex emotions against the backdrop of the countryside, leading to an ambiguous conclusion that invites contemplation.

Finally, “Kali Ma” is a layered narrative set against the backdrop of New York City. It centers around a mother-son duo grappling with bullying and cultural identity. As *Ma*, portrayed by Kamini Khanna, confronts the tormentor of her son, the film evolves into a fierce exploration of maternal instincts and vengeance, culminating in a humorous yet poignant moment of rebirth and camaraderie between the boys.

Each film in *In Too Deep* explores the intersections of identity, desire, and intimacy, crafting narratives that resonate with the complexities of modern life. This collection invites viewers to reflect on their experiences and emotions while providing a richly diverse lens on love and the human condition. A captivating assembly, these films offer a fresh perspective, showcasing the vibrancy and diversity of contemporary storytelling across the globe.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Links:

  • Amazon.co.uk – Boys On Film 2: In Too Deep [DVD] [2008]
  • “Silver Road” – Gay Short Film 2006 – Movie Review
 
Segments and Cast:
  • “Cowboy” (Till Kleinert):
    • Oliver Scherz as Christian
    • Pit Bukowski as Cowboy
  • “Lucky Blue” (Håkon Liu):
    • Tobias Bengtsson as Olle
    • Tom Lofterud as Kevin
  • “Weekend In The Countryside”:
    • Théo Frilet as Pierre
    • Pierre Moure as Marc
    • Jean-Claude Dumas as Father
  • “Kali Ma”:
    • Kamini Khanna as Kali Ma
    • Brendan Bradley as Peter King
    • Manish Dayal as Santosh
  • “Bramadero”:
    • Cristhian Rodríguez as Hassen
    • Sergio Almazán as Jonás
  • “Love Bite”:
    • Will Field as Noah
    • Aidan Calabria as Gus
  • “The Island”:
    • Trevor Anderson as Himself
  • “Futures (and Derivatives)”:
    • Kelly Miller as Roger
    • Cam Kornman as Adele Lenz
    • Bill Barnett as Marty Simko
    • Bigi Ebbin as Roger’s Secretary
    • Vin Knight as Gordon Heath
    • Mark Hervey as Elliott
  • “Working It Out”:
    • Simon Kearney as Marcus
    • Paul Ross as Peter
    • Glaston Toft as Jeremy 
       

Filed Under: Movie Reviews Tagged With: boys, cowboys, gay, love, movies, werewolves

Lego Equaility

28/11/2014 By David McFarlane Leave a Comment

You have to read how Lego defended boys who play with dolls in 1974

‘A lot of boys like dolls houses. They’re more human than spaceships. A lot of girls prefer spaceships. They’re more exciting than dolls houses’

25 NOVEMBER 2014 | BY DARREN WEE – published in Gay Star News
The letter was included in a 1974 Lego set.

Photo via fryd_/Imgur

A viral letter Lego wrote to parents in 1974 shows the toy company was promoting gender equality 40 years ago.
The Danish company urged parents to in the letter not to limit their children to gendered toys.
‘The urge to create is equally strong in all children. Boys and girls’ it read.
‘A lot of boys like dolls houses. They’re more human than spaceships. A lot of girls prefer spaceships. They’re more exciting than dolls houses.’
The letter has been shared thousands of times on social media after Reddit user fryd_ posted a photo of the letter on Saturday (22 November) with the caption, ’70s Lego had the right idea.’
He said he found the letter while at his partner’s grandmother’s house in a set ‘with a blonde girl on the front with a white Lego house.’
‘I had no idea this would blow up so much’ he said, adding that, ‘It seems like we’ve taken a step backwards.’
Lego has confirmed the authenticity of the letter and said it ‘remains relevant to this day.’
Read the letter in full:
‘To Parents
‘The urge to create is equally strong in all children. Boys and girls.
‘It’s the imagination that counts. Not skill. You build whatever comes into your head, the way you want it. A bed or a truck. A dolls house or a spaceship.
‘A lot of boys like dolls houses. They’re more human than spaceships. A lot of girls prefer spaceships. They’re more exciting than dolls houses.
‘The most important thing is to put the right material in their hands and let them create whatever appeals to them.’

– See more at: http://www.gaystarnews.com/article/lego-had-right-idea-gender-equality-40-years-ago251114#sthash.D8wh5giA.dpuf

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: boys, dools houses, equality, girls, lego, LGBT, spaceships

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