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Beyond The Law by Charles Upchurch – Gay Book Review

14/03/2023 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

This book was reviewed in the North Philly Notes in November 2021.  This review is comprehensive, as is the book, so I am reprinting the review to remind our readers of this history we have lived through, and why it is so important that we monitor government, both local and national, to ensure we do not loose all the gains we have made.

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This week in North Philly Notes, Charles Upchurch, author of “Beyond the Law,” writes about the first public debate in the Commons over the ethics of punishing sex between men.

Beyond The Law

The first sustained debate in the British Parliament (and likely in any parliament anywhere) over the ethics of punishing sex between men occurred 180 years ago and no one has remembered it—at least until now. That’s the premise of “Beyond the Law,” which explains how and why this happened. Most historians think this time frame is far too early for anything like this to have occurred, since it is too early for modern sexual identities to have formed, let alone for there to have been a political effort organized around them. But a modern homosexual identity is not needed to have an ethical objection to the execution of individuals for a private consensual act, which is what sodomy was in some cases. In the first decades of the nineteenth century, the law allowed for such executions. While many upper- and middle-class men did publicly rail against sodomy as “the worst of crimes” and supported the executions, others, drawing on enlightenment philosophy or more latitudinarian religious ideas, thought such executions were more immoral, perhaps far more immoral, than the acts themselves. These men included Lord John Russell, leader of the Whig majority in the House of Commons, who eventually argued against executions for sodomy in 1841, even as he kept the government at a distance from the private member’s bill that was the focus of the reform effort.

Russell, like almost every other politician of his era, did not want to publicly speak about sex between men, but broader events were forcing him and the government to do so. That was because the death penalty was being eliminated for hundreds of crimes. Up to the start of the nineteenth century, it was the terror of the gallows that was to scare individuals away from committing crime. Theft of even small amounts might be punished with death, since there had previously been only minimal systems for policing or imprisonment. But that policing and incarceration infrastructure was created in the early nineteenth century, and the number of capital crimes tumbled, so that by the end of the 1830s there were only slightly more than a dozen. Those capital crimes included murder, attempted murder, treason, piracy, rape, a few minor crimes that were missed by previous reform legislation, and sodomy, which could be a private consensual act. With the death penalty now gone for almost everything else, the anomaly of retaining it for sodomy was glaring for many. But almost no man wanted to be the person who stood up on the floor of the House of Commons to argue for the lessening of the penalties for sex between men, knowing that some of the most evangelical members of that body would likely denounce them for defending immorality (as did eventually happen).

The reform effort did happen, though, and two exceptional men stepped forward to shepherd the bill through the Commons in a process that played out over the better part of a year. They had the prestige of Jeremy Bentham behind them since, contrary to what has been written by other scholars, Bentham published some of his arguments against the punishment of sex between men in his lifetime. He did so in a way that would likely only be understood by legal experts, but those were exactly the people who were drafting the recommendations to parliament on which laws to amend, and which ones to retain without alterations. Bentham’s ideas of legal reform were shaping the entire process of eliminating the death penalty within the English criminal law, and his arguments against punishing sex between men in general, let alone executing men for a private consensual act, were known to the men shaping the reform.

Reasoned arguments were not enough to motivate a man to sponsor such a bill, to risk his reputation, and to speak publicly against such an injustice. It can be proven that both Jeremy Bentham and Lord John Russell agreed with this reform, but neither man would publicly champion it. A judge at the time privately told Russell that he was “convinced that the only reason why the punishment of death has been retained in this case is the difficulty of finding any one hardy enough to undertake what might be represented as the defense of such a crime.” And that brings us to the most remarkable discovery in ‘Beyond the Law’, because the two men who were brave enough to do this were inspired to act not primarily through reasoned arguments, but through the emotional and affective bonds of family. Fitzroy Kelly, a newly elected Tory MP, grew up in economic hardship, only saved from poverty through the work of his mother, the novelist Isabella Kelly. The Kelly family was helped repeatedly by the gothic novelist Matthew Gregory Lewis, whose sexual interest in men was remarked on at the time. Moreover, William Kelly, Isabella’s son and Fitzroy’s brother, has been identified by scholars at least since the 1930s as Matthew’s strongest emotional attachment. Matthew’s sister was also married to the brother of the other co-sponsor of the 1840 and 1841 legislation, the lawyer and abolitionist Steven Lushington. It was Lushington, also, more than a decade before, who had worked with Lady Byron during her separation from Lord Byron, and it was Lushington who had raised the threat of accusing Byron of committing sodomy within his marriage as leverage in the separation proceedings. This web of family connections, cemented by love more than sex, is dense, convoluted, and still in significant parts obscure and unrecoverable. Nevertheless, ‘Beyond the Law’ recounts much of it, and tells a story wholly different from anything previously recovered for the early nineteenth century. It pieces together many public and private aspects of the first debates in the nineteenth century over the ethics of punishing sex between men.

 

Links:

 

  • Amazon UK:  Beyond The Law
  • The Truth About Alex by Anne Snyder – a gay book review and a movie

 

Filed Under: Book Reviews Tagged With: 180 years in court, Beyond the Law, British Parliament, Charles Upchurch, gay men

80% of gay men now meet their long-term partners on dating apps

12/04/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

14% of gay men met online in 2001

Reprinted from GayStarNews:09 APRIL 2015 | BY JOE MORGAN

If you think apps for gay men were all about hookups, it turns out that 80% of gay men say they have met their long-term partner on one of them.
New research published in AIDS and Behavior has shown the number of gay men who have met their partners online has jumped dramatically, going from 14% in 2001 to 80% last year.
During the same time period, men who met partners at bars, sex-on-premises venues and through friends or other venues dropped.
Researchers argue health organizations need to rethink how they are comminicating sexual health messages online, saying it’s time to move past condoms in club toilets and onto effective multimedia tools for different users depending on what they are looking for.
Garrett PRestage, a sociology associate professor at the University of New South Wales in Australia, said the sheer amount of men using apps like Grindr, Scruff and Tinder cast doubt on who is exactly in danger of STIs.
‘One of the things that been talked about a lot over the last decade is that men who meet online are of a higher risk,’ he told The Star Observer.
‘This data show that this is faulty logic because most gay men meet partners this way… be that romantic or sexual.
‘If they’re comparing it with men who don’t use apps they’re comparing men who are sexually active with those who are not.’
Research that showed people who used these apps had more STIs are only stigmatizing users, Prestage suggests.
‘A more sensible approach is simply to accept that men are more likely to meet via online methods these days and make sure that there are appropriate online interventions and information,’ he said.
‘Instead, health bodies should use different messaging of different apps depending on whether users were looking for long term partners or simply a fuckbuddy.
‘You can’t just talk about “hook up apps” because it covers too much, it would be the same as saying all gay bars are the same.’
Previous research has indicated that gay dating apps could be to blame for the rise of gonorrhoeaand syphilis.
As a policy, the majority of gay dating apps bans users from mentioning they are looking for unprotected intimate activity, and will remove profiles of those who violate that regulation
 
Editorial:
 
Sexual well being has to be at the forefront of who we are as human beings.  We should take care of both ourselves and also of others – The Rainbow Project is an organisation which actively promotes safe sex, and its page ‘Sexual Health‘ gives clear advice on how you should take care.  At the bottom of its page is a link to getting your free Safer Sex Pack, but in case you miss it :

 

Filed Under: Campaigns Tagged With: apps, gay men, gay partners, safer sex, safer sex pack

Cuddling is good for you

07/02/2015 By David McFarlane Leave a Comment

 
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Allison Renner has written that it is no secret that cuddling can make you feel good … but did you know that there is actually a scientific reason for this?
Her research has shown ten positive reasons for cuddling:

  • Cuddling releases oxytocin, a hormone which does everything from making you feel good to helping you connect with others
  • Cuddling boosts the immune system
  • Cuddling relieves pain. What do we do naturally when a child gets hurt, we cuddle them
  • Cuddling helps deepen relationships
  • Cuddling can lead to more – Even non-erotic touch can release dopamine, which is a hormone that increases sexual desire
  • Cuddling helps women bond
  • Cuddling reduces social anxiety – Oxytocin inspires positive thinking. It helps you have an optimistic outlook on the world.
  • Cuddling reduces stress
  • Cuddling lowers your risk of heart disease
  • Cuddling doesn’t have a definition – Cuddling doesn’t have to be between you and your romantic partner

So why am I so interested in cuddling (apart from the obvious that is); according to a study on the changing social habits of heterosexual males, it revealed that 98 percent of the study’s participants — all white, college-age male athletes — have shared a bed with another guy. In addition, 93 percent also reported having spooned or cuddled with another man.
According to the study co- author and sociologist Mark McCormack, of Durham University, the study’s results demonstrate changing conceptions of masculinity in contemporary culture. As homophobia decreases, McCormack says, straight men are acting “much softer” than those from older generations — something he and Eric Anderson, of the University of Winchester, set out to examine.
This then raises the question, do straight men feel as comfortable with gay men if they cuddle them? According to the study, American men are still slightly reserved in the cuddling field, but British men (who have often been described as extremely reserved) are more advanced in these behaviours.
McCormack states “Homophobia hasn’t disappeared, but straight men today are not expected to be homophobic like they were in the 1980s and 1990s…’
Further reading:
· The Ultimate Collection Of Cuddling Bros Photos – http://www.queerty.com/the-ultimate-collection-of-cuddling-bros-photos-20140503
· Is it normal for a straight guy to want to cuddle with a gay guy? – http://isitnormal.com/story/is-it-normal-for-a-straight-guy-to-want-to-cuddle-with-a-gay-guy-50920/
· 93 Percent Of Straight Men In This Study Said They’ve Cuddled With Another Guy – http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/05/01/straight-men-cuddle-guys-study_n_5241953.html

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: Allison Renner, cuddling, gay men, straight men

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