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Archives for September 2015

‘Gay Vegas’ reputation has global reach

20/09/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

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Lincoln Tan 5:00 AM Saturday Sep 19, 2015

Same-sex couples fighting laws in own countries flock to Auckland to get married and have or adopt children.

My Kitchen Rules stars Tresne Middleton and Carly Saunders couldn't marry in Australia so had their ceremony on Waiheke Island. Photo / Supplied
My Kitchen Rules stars Tresne Middleton and Carly Saunders couldn’t marry in Australia so had their ceremony on Waiheke Island. Photo / Supplied

Auckland is being seen as the “gay Vegas” and homosexual couples from around the world are coming here to get married and have children.
Many come from countries where a same-sex relationship is considered illegal – including Singapore, Malaysia and China – or nations such as Australia, where “commitment ceremonies” are popular but do not satisfy everyone.
Australians top the list of same-sex couples coming here to tie the knot, as their country does not recognise marriage between male or female couples.
Two stars of the television show My Kitchen Rules, Carly Saunders and Tresne Middleton, got married in secret on Waiheke Island last year. They were among the 500 Australians who have married here since August 2013, when the law changed.
Couples from China, the United Kingdom and Singapore have also made the journey.
Over the same period, seven children were registered to foreign male couples through adoption and one, by birth, to a female couple from Singapore.
Gay bartender Stanley Chan, 29, who spoke to the Herald in Singapore, said Auckland was considered the “Las Vegas for gay, lesbians and transgenders”.
Las Vegas is a popular marriage destination because of the ease of registering marriages there.
Like 28 Singaporean couples already, Chan and his British-born partner will be coming to Auckland in December to wed.
“I see New Zealand as a gay paradise and on what I hope will be the happiest day of my life, I want to be able to go to a place where I can celebrate our love in the open,” he said.
“In Singapore, we have to live in a secret underground world because the silly laws make it impossible for me to even openly disclose that I’m gay.”
Under section 377a of the penal code of Singapore, a man who has sex with another man can be imprisoned for up to two years.
Last year, two Singaporeans became the first female couple to have their child born in New Zealand and registered to both of them as parents.
The couple also met the Herald in Singapore but changed their minds about being interviewed because they felt it could hurt their business and land them in trouble with the law.
However, they said the main reason they chose to have their child in New Zealand was so they could have a birth certificate that listed both of them as parents.
“In Singapore, he would have been registered as a son of a single parent and it would not have correctly reflected our situation,” the birth mother of the child said.
Social worker Yangfa Leow, 40, the executive director of Oogachaga, which counsels and supports LGBTs (lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people) in Singapore, said legal adoption there was usually allowed only for married, opposite-sex couples and single women.
This has resulted in same-sex couples finding alternative ways to include children in their lives and commit to each other, such as going to countries such as New Zealand where these are legally recognised.

The ease of exchanging vows in NZ has the LGBT community comparing it to Las Vegas.
The ease of exchanging vows in NZ has the LGBT community comparing it to Las Vegas.

“I understand that New Zealand has legalised marriage for same-sex couples, which of course is the right thing to do in terms of ensuring equality for all,” Leow said.
Last year, Lonely Planet named New Zealand the second most gay-friendly place in the world, behind Copenhagen in Denmark.
Tourism New Zealand said it did not specifically target the gay and lesbian community, but promoted the country as a great destination for weddings and honeymoons for all travellers.
Between 30,000 and 45,000 honeymooners from overseas came to New Zealand each year, spending an estimated $160 million.
After the passing of the Marriage Amendment Act, Tourism NZ ran a campaign to show how easy it is for same-sex couples from Australia to marry in New Zealand.
“There was a very positive response from same-sex couples in Australia,” said Tourism NZ spokeswoman Deborah Gray.
She said visitors were not asked to identify their sexual orientation, so there was “no robust data” to gauge the value of gay tourists.
Brett O’Riley, Auckland Tourism Events and Economic Development chief executive, said the organisation was supporting several gay-friendly tourism operators who directly target the gay market.
“We understand after the gay marriage legislation passed that a number of couples did see New Zealand as a destination to say ‘I do’ and gain legal marriage status, where their home countries may not allow them similar rights.”

Gay marriages in NZ

(since August 2013)
Female-Female
• From Australia: 264
• From China: 32
• From the UK: 22
• From Singapore: 17
• From the US: 8
• From Malaysia: 8
• From the entire world: 411
Male-Male
• From Australia: 236
• From China: 34
• From the UK: 13
• From the US: 13
• From Singapore: 11
• From Hong Kong: 11
• From Thailand: 10
• From the entire world: 401
(source: Dept of Internal Affairs)
Lincoln Tan travelled to Singapore with the help of the Asia New Zealand Foundation.

– NZ Herald

Filed Under: History Tagged With: gay marriage, marriage equality, New Zealand

Same Sex Marriage

20/09/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

Editorial:

Last week we published the wedding of two Spanish policemen in full uniform with full honour guard.  You have to admit that they did look very handsome and happy at their wedding.

Today we carry on the theme, but publishing information on the Spanish Conservative ruling party whose leaders attended the same-sex marriage of their deputy secretary-general, giving tacit approval to a law they once bitterly opposed.

Life is changing all over the world, and when our local politicians in Northern Ireland resolve their differences, bigotry and stupidity maybe we to will move forward.

 

LGBT_flag_map_of_SpainSpain’s conservative ruling party leaders attend gay wedding

Associated PressBy HAROLD HECKLE | Associated Press – 12 hours ago

MADRID (AP) — The top brass of Spain’s ruling conservative Popular Party including Prime Minister Mariano Rajoy have attended the same-sex marriage of their deputy secretary-general, giving tacit approval to a law they once bitterly opposed.

Javier Maroto exchanged vows with Josema Rodriguez late Friday at a ceremony in the northern city of Vitoria attended by Rajoy, secretary-general Maria Dolores Cospedal and other party dignitaries, the party said in a statement.
“In Spain, the right to marriage is for everyone and we all share that message today,” Maroto said afterward.
“Parties evolve,” he added. “Now my party and the government join in backing that right.”
Maroto and Rodriguez have been partners in a same-sex relationship for 19 years. Apart from being a senior leader in the Popular Party, Maroto is a former mayor of Vitoria.
Parliament legalized gay marriage in 2005 under a Socialist government, angering conservatives in once-staunchly Roman Catholic Spain. The Popular Party then challenged the law but Spain’s Constitutional Court — the highest in the land — upheld its legality.

Now, a decade after voicing strong opposition to gay marriage, photographs at the ceremony that ended early Saturday showed Rajoy with other party leaders smiling broadly as they posed beside the two grooms

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: Conservative, politicians, politics, same sex marriage, Spain

Greg Louganis – 30 Years Later: The Same Cereal Box, a New Perspective

19/09/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment


This article was written by Greg Louganis for WhoSay.
Hi, my name is Greg Louganis and I’m a four-time gold medal Olympic diver. I’m also HIV-positive and about to celebrate my second wedding anniversary with the love of my life, my husband Johnny.
I never thought I’d see this day when I could say any of this, much less say it publicly in front of all of you — the entire world. When I first came out to my mom years ago, she cried. She said she was sad for me because she knew that I would always be treated as a second-class citizen. She thought I would never be able to get married, and she was afraid I would die alone.
Oh my, how things have changed. Not only am I married, but also I am out to the world. For an openly gay athlete? I didn’t think that would ever happen. Even though I was out to my friends, family, and some people in the USA diving world, I just didn’t discuss my personal life in the media. That was my policy – and understandably so.
Take the Wheaties box, for example. Being on the cover of the Wheaties box is so iconic for Olympians. It’s almost a given for big gold medalists, and even some obscure Olympians, too. Back in 1984 after my first gold medal win at the Summer Olympics in Los Angeles, a reporter asked Wheaties why I wasn’t featured on the cover of the box. The rep told him that they were never in talks with me because I allegedly didn’t share the same family values.
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They didn’t come out and say it, but the message was loud and clear. They knew I was rumored to be gay and homosexuality wasn’t going to fly on a wholesome Wheaties box. Ouch.
People are kind of surprised when I say that I have no hard feelings about being denied a cover. After all, it wasn’t anything personal – it was a sign of the times of Corporate America. It’s also funny because many people assumed all of these years that I was on the Wheaties box. It wasn’t until I mentioned it in my book, that people started showing up at signings holding Wheaties boxes with my picture glued on them. They wanted redemption.
About a month ago, I got a note from a fan of mine, Julie Sondgerath in Chicago, Ill., who started a petition on Change.org to finally secure my Wheaties cover more than 30 years after my first gold medal win. People in the diving community, people in the dog agility community (my profession now)… they are all sharing it. With nearly 40,000 signatures, this petition has taken on, a life of its own. It’s incredible.
People tell me that they want to see this major brand right its wrong. My fans are up in arms that I was denied something because I was gay or perceived gay. Interestingly enough, Wheaties’ parent company, General Mills, has been making an honest effort in supporting the LGBT community for several years now. Not only does it have an internal diversity program for employees called Betty’s Family LGBT, the company also publicly supports the Equality Act, which seeks to expand existing civil rights protections to include safeguards against sexual orientation and gender identity. Plus, remember its beautiful Cheerios commercial featuring same-sex families?
Many people don’t realize, or simply forget, how far we’ve come. I’m hoping that if and when my Wheaties cover happens, I can raise awareness about all of the positive work General Mills has been doing for the gay community. I want people to think, “Now, that’s a company I can get behind.”
Do I need the Wheaties box to feel fulfilled? Absolutely not! To simply be here, living my life as my true self is rewarding enough. However, I feel like I owe this box to my friends, family, and fans that have been cheering me on for decades. Sure, the Wheaties cover would have been cool in 1984… but after all we’ve been through, it would be even more iconic now.
 
HI book ‘Breaking The Surface‘ is available on Amazon: Breaking The Surface

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia, History Tagged With: Greg Louganis

Nepal enshrines LGBT protections in constitution

19/09/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

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  • Joseph Patrick McCormick
  • 18th September 2015, 8:34 AM

 

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Nepal has enshrined LGBT protections in its constitution


LGBT right campaigners have celebrated as Nepal has passed a new constitution which includes discrimination protections for LGBT people.
The new protections, against discrimination, violence and abuse, was celebrated by the Human Rights Campaign as “a historic first for a nation in Asia”.
In enshrining LGBT protections in its constitution, Nepal joins only a few other countries, including South Africa and Ecuador, to do so.
The constitution was endorsed by Nepal’s parliament on 16 September, and is the first to be passed into law since abolishing its monarchy in 2008.

It states that “sexual and gender minorities”, cannot be discriminated against by state or judiciary.
“This is a momentous step forward for LGBT equality in Nepal. The nation’s leadership has affirmed that its LGBT citizens deserve the constitutional right to live their lives free from discrimination and fear,” said Ty Cobb, Director of HRC Global.
“We congratulate LGBT Nepalis and their allies for this historic victory, and hope to see other nations across Asia and the globe take similar steps to ensure full legal equality for their LGBT citizens.”
The new constitution will be promulgated in a ceremony by President Ram Baran Yadav on Sunday 20 September.
Nepal earlier this year issued its first gender ‘x’ passport.
The only other countries which allow third-gender, or gender ‘x’ passports are Australia and New Zealand.
The move by Nepal has been hailed as a huge step forward by LGBT activists.
The country, which announced in January that it would introduce third gender passports, has been hailed as one of the most progressive on LGBT rights.
Nepal in 2011 added third gender categories to its census and citizenship cards.

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia, History Tagged With: constition, LGBT, Nepal

‘Super-gonorrheoa’ outbreak discovered in UK

19/09/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

Gay Times Logo11:18 18th September 2015 by Dean Eastmond

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A national health alert has been triggered following the discovery of a highly drug-resistant strain of gonorrhoea in Leeds.

According to Public Health England, fifteen cases have been discovered so far. Previous PHE reports have shown that gonorrhoea resistance to the azithromycin drug has been report.

The outbreak has since spread to Macclesfield, Oldham and Scunthorpe.

Sexual health consultant Peter Greenhouse has warned that there may be more undetected cases.

“This azithromycin highly-resistant outbreak is the first one that has triggered a national alert,” he told the BBC.

“It doesn’t sound like an awful lot of people, but the implication is there’s a lot more of this strain out there and we need to stamp it out as quickly as possible.”

“If this becomes the predominant strain in the UK we’re in big trouble, so we have to be really meticulous in making sure each of these individuals has all their contacts traced and treated.”

The World Health Organization has declared gonorrhea a global concern and warned that without new drugs, infections may one day become untreatable.

“This is clearly a superbug,” says Peter Leone, M.D., an infectious disease specialist and professor of medicine at the University of North Carolina.

Last year, 35,000 cases of gonorrhoea were reported in England, making it the second most common bacterial sexual transmitted infection after chlamydia.

The British Association for Sexual Health and HIV has reported that all cases so far have been diagnosed in heterosexuals.

The organisation’s president Dr Jan Clarke, told the BBC: “It was sufficiently serious to alert our whole national chain of clinics that there is the possibility that we’ve got a very resistant strain of gonorrhoea.

“We are really skating on thin ice as far as treating gonorrhoea is concerned at the moment.”

For gonorrhoea symptoms and advice, visit the NHS website or see your local doctor.

Safety First – GUI Clinic Belfast

Filed Under: History

I WATCHED ‘AUDACITY’, THE LATEST ANTI-LGBT MOVIE, SO YOU DON’T HAVE TO

18/09/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

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“We really do love you!” reads the message written in icing on a batch of cakes recently shipped to LGBT groupsfrom Oregon’s now-out-of-business Sweet Cakes by Melissa. Sweet Cakes, in case you’ve been ignoring the “religious freedom” frenzy going on out there, are the folks who declined to bake a wedding cake for a lesbian couple, because somehow it would violate their freedom to practice their religion. Then they got sued for it and lost.
But it’s true. They really do think they love you. More on that in a minute.
The cakes began showing up a few weeks ago at the offices of various LGBT organizations, chilled with dry ice and accompanied by a rainbow-colored DVD titled Audacity, the latest effort from New Zealand evangelist Ray Comfort.
audacity (1)Comfort is a man who decided that his home country was too small a playing field, and what he really needed to do was bother America. So he teamed up with former-child-star/current-pain-in-the-ass Kirk Cameron, and created The Way Of The Master, a freakish series of evangelism videos (currently available to be viewed, in part at least, on YouTube).
I’m a glutton for this kind of extreme aesthetic punishment, so I sent away for my own copy of Audacity. It cost $4.99 and it arrived within 48 hours. I paid $12 to see God’s Not Dead in a theater, so this felt like a bargain by contrast.
God’s Not Dead  is the current standard-bearer for conservative Evangelical film, the shining example of what’s possible in terms of penetrating the mainstream market with shitty niche moviemaking. Audacity‘s ambitions are somewhat smaller; it’s essentially a teaching tool to be shown in Sunday School classes and Bible study groups, a short film meant for conservative Evangelicals to watch together and then discuss, like a really inept episode of Degrassi.
And unlike the bulk of feature-length Evangelical movies meant to go out into  the world, where plots rarely, if ever, nod to the existence of LGBT people, Audacity is all about solving the problem of The Gay, or rather, solving the problem of how conservative Evangelical Christians position themselves with regard to queer people.
I watched Audacity, all 55 minutes of it, and here’s what happens: a young Christian man named Peter (Travis Owens) is burdened by the desire to approach all the gay people who cross his path so that he may “witness” to them. (For the un-churched, “to witness” is a verb that means to talk to non-Christians about Jesus until they give in or tell you to beat it.) In lieu of just being excellent at all the other activities the Bible demands that Christians perform regularly — feeding the poor, clothing the naked, tending to the sick — Peter carries a variety of gay-themed religious tracts in his back pocket, the kind that lovingly and gently remind queers about their future home in Hell. The tracts spend a lot of time in that back pocket because, in addition to avoiding all those other Christian responsibilities, he’s also too embarrassed to distribute his literature.

Peter has a lot of opportunities to fail at this hobby, with LGBT people lurking around every corner; meanwhile, he thinks about almost nothing else but the state of their souls, even as his anxiety paralyzes him, rendering him silent. Queers haunt Peter’s dreams at night, too, as evidenced by a nightmare sequence in which he fails to hand one of his tracts to two lesbians in an elevator that’s about to malfunction. Then the women fall to their deaths. Then he wakes up.
For no structural reason at all, this barely-there narrative is interrupted several times by clips of street interviews with random anonymous subjects, all conducted by Ray Comfort. The interviews consist of Comfort engaging in thoroughly illogical discussions with passersby, looping arguments that equate innate human characteristics, such as homosexuality, with moral choices such as adultery. Every person Comfort engages winds up telling him how thoughtful, kind, and, most importantly, right he is about gayness being a sin worthy of eternal damnation, and how it is exactly the same thing as cheating on your spouse.
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The mission of annoying total strangers on sidewalks accomplished, the film shifts back to Peter’s heroic journey, part of which involves him thwarting a convenience store robbery, thereby saving the lives of a gay male couple in the process. When they thank him for his efforts, he whips out his tracts. One of the gays storms off in anger. The other listens, soon to become an ex-gay notch in Peter’s belt. The reparative therapy sessions in this man’s future are neatly side-stepped.
Finally, Peter convinces a lesbian friend that she needs to get with his version of Christianity, just before she’s involved in a car accident that nearly kills her. She smiles in her hospital bed afterward, happy to be alive, ready to dump her girlfriend, and pass out anti-gay tracts of her own. The circle of idiot life.
LGBT characters in Audacity are always on the defensive, asserting their rights to be left alone. But mostly they’re depicted as ingrates, accusing adorably awkward Peter of hateful intent, even after he saves them from gunfire. Conveniently, this allows for Peter to go wide-eyed and earnest. No, he doesn’t hate anyone, how could he? It’s just that his immense love for humanity means that he “can’t stay silent.”
The deck is stacked: Just look at this nice man, the film is saying. This is what Christians really are, gentle and misunderstood.  They’re not “haters,” they’re just trying to save you from all the robbers and car accidents and hellfires, and you faggots are distorting their grace-filled intentions because your minds are polluted with distrust.
“Everyone invents the God they feel comfortable with,” says Comfort in one of the street sequences. Everyone, that is, except for conservative Christians, who’ve got a direct line to perfect understanding of the comfortably right-wing deity they’ve invented. Audacity is by them and for them, a pat on the back they can’t wait to give themselves. The rest of you can get in line for their peculiar brand of love, or suffer the consequences.

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia, Movie Reviews Tagged With: Audacity, Travis Owens

Craig Dillon asks: Where are the successful gay British YouTubers?

18/09/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

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14:39 14th September 2015 by Craig Dillon

 

Open Youttubers

There is a dark shadow hanging over the British YouTube community.

On the site that has always been a place for openness and community a number of it’s biggest stars might not feel as comfortable about their sexuality and gender identity as their American cousins.

A simple comparison between the ten most popular British YouTubers and the ten most popular American YouTubers reveals a big difference. There are zero *openly* gay YouTubers on the British list, whereas the American list is almost completely compiled of LGBT YouTubers like Tyler Oakley, Connor Franta and Ingrid Nilsen.

It’s a well known fact among those in the inner circle of the YouTube community that there are a few on the list who identify as LGBT, and most are open about it, with their friends and family. So why do they not feel able to come out to their audiences in the same way the American YouTubers do?

What is the real reason behind these popular British YouTubers staying in the closet?

On paper, the UK is a much more open and accepting country than the U.S, we’ve had marriage equality since 2014 and legal same-sex activity since 1967. So what is the real reason behind these popular British YouTubers staying in the closet?

Many are happy to ‘clickbait’ the topic of coming out for views, such as Joe Sugg’s My Big Announcement video where he used pictures of him kissing his roommate and fellow YouTuber Caspar Lee in the thumbnail. Or the video featuring the Harries Twins called Twin Twinks learn Gay Slang, so if the topic of coming out is a guaranteed way to boost your profile, why are so few actually coming out?

One possibility is the Tom Daley theory. More interest is generated from playing the “is he isn’t he game.” Before Tom Daley came out, thousands of men and women would check his instagram daily, looking for any clues to reveal his true sexuality. Once Tom opened up and came out as bisexual, there was no more sport in it, we all knew the answer. No one other than major fans had a reason to stalk his instagram anymore. He joined the ranks of the insanely attractive famous gay men that none of us have any chance of dating.

So is this the real reason British YouTubers won’t come out? Or is it more about their “fangirls”? Most of the top YouTubers have around a 90% female audience, and the assumption is that being gay will upset a large amount of young female viewers who dream about these boys every night.

Are these valid reasons to stay in the closet? By implying they’re straight and keeping up the illusion, are the YouTubers so many people look up to refusing to be role models for young British LGBT teens looking for guidance?

Filed Under: Movie Reviews Tagged With: British, USA, YouTubers

Ireland approves gay marriage law

18/09/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

UTV (Ulster Television) has reported that Human rights activists believe NI has been  ‘left behind’ as Ireland approves gay marriage law
This law follows the historic referendum in May which saw Ireland become the first country to legalise gay marriage by popular vote, with 62% of people voting Yes.
In reality what this means is that N Ireland remains the only part of Great Britain and Ireland which does not have equality on same-sex marriage.
Now we all realise that with our MLA’s being unable to agree on the budget, and with the current political disagreement over whether the IRA are still active and in some way part of Sinn Féin it is unrealistic to suppose that this inequality will get resolved soon.  But, in the light of previous voting patterns at Stormont we as a community should not hold our breath for it would appear that the Unionist parties will continue to vote along their bias line, that SDLP will walk away and abstain even though the party line is supposed to be in favour, and Sinn Féin will say yes and make loud noise but not really get anywhere
 
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Further readidng:

  • UTV – NI ‘left behind’ as Ireland approves gay marriage law

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia, History Tagged With: marriage equality, politics, same sex marriage, same-sex equality

New Partnership Seeks To Promote LGBT Acceptance In U.S. Rugby

18/09/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

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BY LINDSAY GIBBS

SEP 16, 2015 12:55PM

CREDIT: NAM Y. HUH, AP

As the Rugby World Cup gets ready to kick off this week, USA Rugby has signed a “memorandum of understanding” with International Gay Rugby (IGR) that has a very lofty goal: To end homophobia in all areas of the sport domestically.
While several gay rugby players have come out in recent years, high-profile incidents of homophobia have colored the sport’s progress on LGBT issues. Last November, openly gay rugby official Nigel Owen was subjected to homophobic abuse by England fans when refereeing a match against New Zealand, and admitted that despite being a top referee — he will officiate in the upcoming World Cup — he had considered quitting his job due to the frequent homophobic slurs hurled at him by fans in the stands and in social media.
Here in the U.S., a recent international study on homophobia in sports, Out on the Fields, singled out America as the worst English-speaking country. According to the survey, 70 percent of Americans believed that homophobia is more common in sports than it is in the rest of society, and 84 percent have experienced or witnessed homophobia in sports.
“First and foremost, this is a huge step for the sport of rugby and the sports community in general,” Hudson Taylor, founder and executive director of Athlete Ally, said of the memorandum. “I know that this is definitely going to make it easier for LGBT people to participate in rugby in the future, and also make it easier for those who are active now to come out.”
The memorandum itself doesn’t provide any concrete rules or resources aimed at getting rid of homophobia in the sport, but Thomas Hormby, the press officer for the IGR rugby team Nashville Grizzlies, told ThinkProgress he considers the language in the memorandum — “USA Rugby recognizes the right of any player, official, coach, and spectator to be involved in rugby without bullying, discrimination, or exclusion of any kind” — strong enough to render it a significant step.
“I think that you start with changing policies, and that helps change the culture,” Hormby said.
This memorandum comes on the heels of a banner month for the rugby LGBT community, as two high-profile players, British rugby league player Keegan Hirst and English rugby union star Sam Stanley, both came out as gay and received great support from the public.

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In March, World Rugby signed a similar memorandum with IGR — an organization that has 56 amateur teams around the world, and hosts the gay world cup of rugby, the Bingham Cup. (Named after Mark Bingham, the gay rugby player who died on September 11, 2001 on United 93, and is believed to be one of the passengers who stormed the cockpit and overtook the hijackers.)
The popularity of International Gay Rugby has certainly helped make the rugby community at large more open to LGBT inclusion, as have other trailblazers. Ian Roberts, a popular Australian Rugby League player, came out way back in 1995; Owens came out in 2007, becoming the first active gay rugby official; and two years later, Welsh rugby union stand-out Gareth Thomas announced that he was gay.
Through it all, Ben Cohen, a huge rugby star, became a prominent LGBT and anti-bullying advocate. His voice — as such a popular and respected player, and as a representative of the straight community — was invaluable.
“When you have people in positions of power that believe it’s the right thing to do, then change starts to happen,” Taylor said. “There’s an assumption that all male athletes are straight, and that goes along with that hypermasculinity. That’s an obstacle for athletes who want to come out, but it’s an asset when allies speak out.”
The progress for LGBT inclusivity in rugby isn’t happening in a vacuum. In the U.S., gay marriage is finally legal everywhere after the Supreme Court ruled this summer that state bans on gay marriage were unconstitutional. According to Taylor, the average age of a person coming out has gone from 26 to 16 in the last 25 years, which has made schools, both K-12 and collegiate, much safer spaces for LGBT athletes. This week, Princeton offensive linemen Mason Darrow became the first active Division I football player to come out.
Darrow told Outsports that his teammates and coaches have been nothing supportive. In fact, his head coach Bob Surarce was relieved when his lineman told him the news — he was afraid that Darrow was going to tell him he was injured.
There has been some progress in prominent sports leagues in the United States, too, with athletes such as Michael Sam, Jason Collins, and Robbie Rogers publicly coming out, and organizations such as Athlete Ally and You Can Play working directly with leagues to address LGBT issues. But there is still a long way to go in the pro ranks — since the average career span of is so short, too many gay athletes get stuck weighing the risk versus the reward of coming out, and decide not to take the chance.
“As an athletic community, we haven’t done enough to take away those risks,” Taylor said. “We need more coaches, athletes, owners, sponsors, and fans to be explicitly visible about their support for LGBT athletes.”
Statements like the one that USA Rugby made this week can make a difference — if they are backed up by continued action and support to end homophobia in the sports. Words alone aren’t enough.
“We’re not at the beginning of the end, we’re at the end of the beginning,” Taylor said. “There’s a tremendous amount of education that still needs to occur if we want LGBT community to be embraced in sports.”

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: LGBT, rugby, USA

The UK’s First Gay Old People’s Home To Open Within Three Years

18/09/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

“There won’t be any net curtains.” The organisation behind plans to build a care facility for LGBT elderly people speaks exclusively to BuzzFeed News.

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Patrick Strudwick

BuzzFeed LGBT Editor, UK

Within three years, Britain could have its first elderly care home for LGBT people.

Within three years, Britain could have its first elderly care home for LGBT people.

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In plans shown exclusively to BuzzFeed News, an “unashamedly ambitious” project with an “iconic architectural design” for up to 150 residents is already in the development stages.

Tonic Housing, the organisation behind the venture, is currently seeking to secure a site, either in London or Brighton, to begin catering for the more-than-a-million LGBT people over the age of 50 in Britain.
Similar homes have already opened in Germany, Sweden, and the USA, and facilities in France and Spain are imminent, but there are as yet no residential provisions in the UK aimed at the LGBT market.
James Greenshields, one of the four directors of Tonic Housing, tells BuzzFeed News that the idea came to them as they began to consider their own futures.
“If you don’t have your own children, and if you have fractured family relationships, which is a possibility, then you would not have the support networks that many older people count on,” he says. “So I thought, ‘What would happen to me?’ And then, ‘Well, what is there in the UK?’ I was really taken aback that although there are organisations for older LGBT people, in terms of care homes there is nothing at all. It was a shock. The need and the demand is out there.”
Tonic Housing’s plans are “unashamedly ambitious”, Greenshields says, and the building itself, a specially designed new structure catering for LGBT residents inspired by the plans for the LGBT care home in Spain, is intended to be an “iconic, statement piece of architecture”.

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“The Madrid one had a very large glass frontage,” Greenshields says, “and what’s appealing about that is that so often you can identify older people’s housing because it looks a bit dismal and frumpy. But the one in Madrid felt like they wanted the outside world to come in, and that’s important.” There will be no net curtains, he adds, unless residents want them in their own rooms.

As well as single or two-bedroom apartments (the latter providing space for for additional nursing care), there will be dining options, gardens, a fitness and business centre, and a range of entertainment spaces.
“We want there to be a sense of it being an LGBT community hub, regardless of age,” Greenshields says, “so it would be a space where people would come because there might be a film club, exhibitions, or activities that would appeal to the LGBT community.” Drag queens may also be on hand.
“In the Berlin one, they had a restaurant and bar with a cabaret corner and a stage, so we’d hope to engage residents while also making it of interest to the wider LGBT community, so people would come to see a good show.”

Publica, an urban design and public realm consultancy, has been working alongside Tonic Housing to develop their ideas. Publica / Via publica.co.uk

As a result, Greenshields says, people of different ages would visit, enabling residents to stay connected with younger people. To avoid the home being a “ghetto”, heterosexual older people would also be able to live there, but the balance would always be at least 51% LGBT.

Greenshields and his co-directors have visited some of the existing facilities for LGBT seniors around the world. But it was “the Berlin one”, Lebensort Vielfalt, which consists of 25 flats for LGBT people of all ages, that cemented their determination to turn their architectural and business plans into reality.
“There was one guy we spoke to called Peter Sibley, who was British,” says Greenshields. “His background was in the theatre; he was quite a flamboyant character, with painted nails, elaborate stories, and a stage name: Rita the Ruin.
“He was in his early seventies and with failing health. He also identified in himself a wider vulnerability, a fear of going into a mainstream home. The fear had driven him, I think, to some ill health because he was so nervous of what might happen. That was really revealing. He said if there was an equivalent in the UK he would come back. This was someone who was almost in exile.”

This is Peter Sibley talking about his experiences in Lebensort Vielfalt:

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But most elderly LGBT people are not able to go to Berlin or Stockholm to live somewhere they feel comfortable. Many, instead, are in mainstream care homes where attitudes from not only other residents but staff can prove intolerable.

A recent study by Stonewall, the LGBT rights organisation, and YouGov found that a quarter of staff in health and social care have heard colleagues make offensive remarks about LGBT people in the last five years, while 10% (and in London, 22%) have heard colleagues say that gay people can be “cured”. Almost three-quarters of staff say they have received no training in how to respond to the specific needs of gay patients.
A study by Stonewall and YouGov from 2011 found that half of lesbian, gay, and bisexual people over the age of 55 would feel uncomfortable coming out in a mainstream care home, and 60% didn’t feel GPs, social services, and housing providers could meet their needs.
“When we’ve asked the management in many of the mainstream care homes we’ve visited how many LGBT residents they have, in several, the answer has come back, ‘None,’” says Greenshields. “Statistically, that’s just very, very unlikely, so what that indicates is people are going back in the closet. There’s something utterly tragic about individuals who may have been involved in winning greater freedoms then finding themselves having to hide who they are.”
Having secured initial funding for research and development, Greenshields hopes to have found by Christmas a joint venture partner, which could be an organisation that currently provides mainstream elderly care provision. Tonic Housing also plans to secure land for the project within nine months, and within a year to apply for planning permission for the building work to begin.

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Design sketches for Britain’s first LGBT elderly care home.

Tonic Housing is focusing its hunt for a location principally in London and the Brighton area – it has identified a possible plot just outside Brighton but is “open” to other regions. Greenshields hopes the home will be the first of many, a blueprint for similar schemes around the country that also influences “current mainstream provision”.

Tonic Housing also plans to provide domiciliary care specifically for the older LGBT demographic. This would allow LGBT-trained care workers to come to people’s homes, rather than having to move into a residential facility.
But initially, Tonic Housing’s prime focus is the care home. Greenshields sums up the spirit of the project in a slogan, perhaps, for both the elderly and for LGBT people: “We’re not going to hide away in a corner.”

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