The 14-minute film “Thicker Than Water” debuted this week on ESPN.com, and it takes a look at former Olympic diver Greg Louganis’ tough decision to compete in the 1988 Games after finding out that he was HIV positive, and the support system his coach provided during that difficult time.
In this moving documentary directed by Jennifer Arnold, Louganis and his coach, Ron O’Brien, open up about those excruciating days, and the leaps of faith that they both took to make history.
The film will air Friday, Dec. 6, on SportsCenter in the 6 p.m. ET hour as part of Friday Night Movie Night. Watch the short film below:
Greg Louganis – 30 Years Later: The Same Cereal Box, a New Perspective
This article was written by Greg Louganis for WhoSay.
Hi, my name is Greg Louganis and I’m a four-time gold medal Olympic diver. I’m also HIV-positive and about to celebrate my second wedding anniversary with the love of my life, my husband Johnny.
I never thought I’d see this day when I could say any of this, much less say it publicly in front of all of you — the entire world. When I first came out to my mom years ago, she cried. She said she was sad for me because she knew that I would always be treated as a second-class citizen. She thought I would never be able to get married, and she was afraid I would die alone.
Oh my, how things have changed. Not only am I married, but also I am out to the world. For an openly gay athlete? I didn’t think that would ever happen. Even though I was out to my friends, family, and some people in the USA diving world, I just didn’t discuss my personal life in the media. That was my policy – and understandably so.
Take the Wheaties box, for example. Being on the cover of the Wheaties box is so iconic for Olympians. It’s almost a given for big gold medalists, and even some obscure Olympians, too. Back in 1984 after my first gold medal win at the Summer Olympics in Los Angeles, a reporter asked Wheaties why I wasn’t featured on the cover of the box. The rep told him that they were never in talks with me because I allegedly didn’t share the same family values.
They didn’t come out and say it, but the message was loud and clear. They knew I was rumored to be gay and homosexuality wasn’t going to fly on a wholesome Wheaties box. Ouch.
People are kind of surprised when I say that I have no hard feelings about being denied a cover. After all, it wasn’t anything personal – it was a sign of the times of Corporate America. It’s also funny because many people assumed all of these years that I was on the Wheaties box. It wasn’t until I mentioned it in my book, that people started showing up at signings holding Wheaties boxes with my picture glued on them. They wanted redemption.
About a month ago, I got a note from a fan of mine, Julie Sondgerath in Chicago, Ill., who started a petition on Change.org to finally secure my Wheaties cover more than 30 years after my first gold medal win. People in the diving community, people in the dog agility community (my profession now)… they are all sharing it. With nearly 40,000 signatures, this petition has taken on, a life of its own. It’s incredible.
People tell me that they want to see this major brand right its wrong. My fans are up in arms that I was denied something because I was gay or perceived gay. Interestingly enough, Wheaties’ parent company, General Mills, has been making an honest effort in supporting the LGBT community for several years now. Not only does it have an internal diversity program for employees called Betty’s Family LGBT, the company also publicly supports the Equality Act, which seeks to expand existing civil rights protections to include safeguards against sexual orientation and gender identity. Plus, remember its beautiful Cheerios commercial featuring same-sex families?
Many people don’t realize, or simply forget, how far we’ve come. I’m hoping that if and when my Wheaties cover happens, I can raise awareness about all of the positive work General Mills has been doing for the gay community. I want people to think, “Now, that’s a company I can get behind.”
Do I need the Wheaties box to feel fulfilled? Absolutely not! To simply be here, living my life as my true self is rewarding enough. However, I feel like I owe this box to my friends, family, and fans that have been cheering me on for decades. Sure, the Wheaties cover would have been cool in 1984… but after all we’ve been through, it would be even more iconic now.
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Greg Louganis On How His Life Has Changed for the Better
With the documentary about his hardships debuting on HBO, the Olympic athlete reflects on downsizing his life and finding happiness.
Directed by Cheryl Furjanic and produced by Furjanic and Will Sweeney, the film about the four-time Olympic gold medalist comes at a pivotal time when acute attention is being paid to LGBT athletes, especially after Caitlyn Jenner came out as trans this year and the debut of the docuseries I Am Cait on E! is creating heightened trans awareness. The fact that some have questioned whether Jenner deserved her medals after the revelation, is a sore point for Louganis as well since people had tried to take his medals after coming out as HIV-positive. But it was Louganis’s husband, Johnny Chaillot who informed Louganis of the similarity.
“I had no idea since I don’t read my press,” Louganis explains, while sipping coffee in a Midtown New York City hotel with his dog Dobby at his feet. “I had competed in the ’88 Seoul Olympics while HIV-positive, and some people said I shouldn’t have been allowed in the country. I’m kind of glad I didn’t know it, but it made me think: How can you deny somebody, especially a physical achievement like that? You can’t take that performance away. It stands on its own.”
Chaillot and Louganis were married in California in the fall of 2013 — and it’s a happy turning point included in the film — and since then, Chaillot has helped Louganis get many of his affairs in order and donated a trove of memorabilia to the National LGBT Museum, which plans to open its doors in New York City in 2019. “They now have the largest collection of Greg Louganis memorabilia collection in the world,” Chaillot says. “Hopefully they are going to do a preview of Greg’s stuff since next year since it’s an Olympic year. We kept some of the bigger items” — including medals from each of the Olympics — “But we donated items like Speedos he wore in competitions and the 1988 sweater he wore in Seoul, so these things would be in a place where the whole world can see them.”
Since the film begins with Louganis in dire financial straits and about to lose his Malibu home, we wanted to know how his life has changed since the filming took place and find out where he’s living these days.
Out: Was it odd that the film starts with you and the house and your financial situation?
Greg Louganis: When I first saw it, I got a little nervous. I think it was important to tell the story because it wasn’t unique: This was happening across the country with loans and the 2006 black mold scare. I know how empowering it can be to know that someone else has been through that. I think it was an important story to tell within the documentary. But we sold the house last year. It was kind of bittersweet, I lived there 29 years. But now we’re completely out of debt. I was able to pay my taxes, my loan, paid for our wedding. Now we have a whole new fresh start.

In many ways, the message of the film seems to be a cautionary tale for athletes and families of athletes to make them aware that you aren’t going to be “golden” your entire life.
Right. That’s why I wanted to talk about mentoring U.S. divers. It’s not just about getting to the Olympics and performing well at the games. What happens after? When you retire from your sport, you’re still pretty young and you almost lose your identity. To go through that process of: Now what do I do? I didn’t know what my passion was going to be. I’ve seen it with the other athletes, you reach a certain age, and you need something else to move to.
One of the more poignant lines from the documentary is when you explain that, having a coach who told you what to do, you never had to think about how to live your life. Do you have any advice for people who have that sort of relationship so it doesn’t necessarily translate into other parts of their lives?
My coach was trustworthy, and I trusted him. We were together for 10 years, so I trust him implicitly. I always knew he had my best interest at heart, but in the “real world” not everyone is trustworthy, so that was a real hard lesson for me to learn. I kept making the same mistakes again and again, but I needed to learn those lessons. I don’t have any regrets, but I would like, in an ideal world, for other athletes and performers and whomever would hear that and not make the same mistakes. Part of that is learning what questions to ask or doing the research, now that we have the Internet, you can look people up and do background checks.
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One of the other details revealed in the doc that I didn’t know about: You never had a Wheaties box. I know it’s not the biggest accoldate, but I never realized that you were overlooked in that way.
You know what, I didn’t either until I was working with Cheryl on the documentary, and we were at the International Swimming Hall of Fame where they had all the Wheaties boxes lined up of all the aquatic athletes. It’s box after box after box, of some rather obscure names, and I’m going, “Oh my god, I am nowhere in that group.”
What did that feel like to realize that oversight?
Well that first came out with the book in ’95. I thought, Oh yeah, whatever. I didn’t really know the significance of it until we started working on Back on Board and I saw all the boxes and realized, I’m not there. That was the first time it really struck me what the significance of that was. I realized why people were upset.
But two of the reasons you thought were that there were rumors that you were gay or you felt you weren’t “All-American” enough. But that made me think about people wondering if that would affect Caitlyn Jenner in some way: Would Wheaties do something now that she came out as transgender or would the OIC take away her medals?
I marched in the opening ceremonies with Bruce in 1976. I was on the Tour of Champions with Medco, and they always put me with Bruce and Mark [Spitz], and between the two of them I couldn’t get a word in edgewise. I know these people. Then the whole Kardashian thing. I don’t watch TV so I don’t know, I haven’t seen the show.
I wasn’t sharing the Caitlyn sensationalism angle, but I read about trans-exploitation, a term I had heard before, and discussed it with Johnny and what the implications can be. So that was news to me. I did Larry Kramer’s Just Say No with Alexandra Billings, and Alexandra taught me so much about her journey transitioning. That’s been my education. The thing about it is we talk about the LGBT community, but we’re really not informed as a community. I know a lot about the G, and I have wonderful relations with the L in LGBT, but the B, I’m not quite as sure, but I have a better sensitivity to it by viewing sexuality as much more fluid. But I knew nothing about the T in LGBT, so to do that show with Alexandra, I had an education and how to talk respectfully. It’s almost like learning a whole new language. Also, RuPaul is a friend. And RuPaul, he or she, it’s whatever I’m dressed as, that’s how you address me.
Personally, I kind of bristle with the whole “girlfriend” and “she” thing. Someone called me “Oh, girl” or “her” or something like that. And I said, “Excuse me?” I said I’m a man and I’m proud to be a man. I appreciate camp and there’s a time and a place for that but to somebody you don’t know, it can be rather inappropriate.
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One of the happiest moments takes place after we see you selling off your memorabilia and medals to save your house, and then you meet Johnny, and you find happiness. Was that something you think the filmmakers were looking for?
I wasn’t in the editing process at all. I relinquished all the creative control, but having built that relationship with Cheryl, she was like my therapist who I would go to. And the crew, too. They lived with us through this, too. One of the crewmembers was going through the same thing I was going through. I just reconnected with him recently and I found out he was also able to get out of the debt and sell his house and he’s moved on.
Now Johnny and I are very cautious about her finances. We’re living well within our means so we can put money aside. We know where we’re at right now is temporary [Chaillot’s one-bedroom Beverly Hills apartment, which he describes as cramped, but “very Gloria Swanson.] It’s affordable and we don’t have to worry where the next job is coming from. We don’t have that pressure. With that lifted, it enables us to have much more freedom.
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LGBT HISTORY MONTH: SPORTING HEROES
Reprinted from so so GAY 20 FEB 2015
Justin Fashanu
Justin Fashanu was a football player who made history both in his personal and professional life. When Nottingham Forrest bought Fashanu from Norwich City in 1981, he became the first black footballer to break the £1 million transfer fee. It wasn’t until 1990 that Fashanu came out publicly. He was the first footballer to ever come out. However, it all ended tragically in 1998 when he committed suicide following accusations of sexually assaulting a 17-year-old male.
Thomas Hitzlsperger
Former Aston Villa and West Ham midfielder Thomas Hitzlsperger came out at the start of 2014, five months after retiring from football. The 31-year-old, who won 52 caps for Germany, said: ‘I’m coming out about my homosexuality because I want to move the discussion about homosexuality among professional sportspeople forwards.’
Robbie Rogers
Two years ago, in a post on his own blog, Robbie Rogers wrote, ‘Try convincing yourself that your creator has the most wonderful purpose for you even though you were taught differently.
‘I always thought I could hide this secret. Football was my escape, my purpose, my identity. Football hid my secret, gave me more joy than I could have ever imagined… I will always be thankful for my career.’
Rogers posted this after initially retiring from the game due to injury but soon after he signed for LA Galaxy, coming out of retirement to become the highest profile openly gay footballer in the world.
Amelie Mauresmo
Amelie Mauresmo is a Grand Slam winning former tennis player who came out early on in her career, at just 19. Mauresmo went on to become the number one ranked player and win Wimbledon and the French Open. Mauresmo is now Andy Murray’s coach making him the highest profile male player with a female coach.
Gareth Thomas
Gareth Thomas was a fixture of the Welsh Rugby side’s starting lineup for over a decade, representing his country 100 times. In 2009 he came out in a national newspaper whilst still playing for the Cardiff Blues making him the first openly gay professional rugby player.
Thomas announced his retirement after a short spell playing Rugby League in the Super League.
Fallon Fox
Fallon Fox became the first transgender athlete in MMA history and has won five of her six matches. After coming out Fox faced fierce criticism with some, not least UFC commentator Joe Rogan who attacked Fox in a rant on his podcast.
Rogan said ‘She calls herself a woman but… I tend to disagree. And, uh, she, um… she used to be a man but now she has had, she’s a transgender which is (the) official term that means you’ve gone through it, right? And she wants to be able to fight women in MMA. I say no f***ing way.
‘I say if you had a dick at one point in time, you also have all the bone structure that comes with having a dick. You have bigger hands, you have bigger shoulder joints. You’re a f***ing man. That’s a man, OK? You can’t have… that’s… I don’t care if you don’t have a dick any more…’
Greg Louganis
Greg Louganis was one of the most famous divers in the world. He was the Tom Daley of his era; talented, tanned and a sight for sore eyes in a pair of Speedos. He dominated in both the 3m springboard and 10m platform event for several years and he still holds the record for being the only male diver to win gold in both events at two consecutive Olympic Games. Louganis came out in 1994, six years after his last Olympics.
Matthew Mitcham
Matthew Mitcham, on the other hand, came out at the start of his career. In 2008, in an interview prior to the Beijing games, Mitcham mentioned in an interview with the Sydney Morning Herald that he was gay. Mitcham would go on to win gold at the Beijing games, denying the Chinese divers a clean sweep of the medals.
Tom Daley
Tom Daley was the poster boy of the London 2012 Olympics. His good looks, tanned skin and perfect smile had the gays and the girls up and down the country transfixed as he fought his way to a bronze medal. 18 months later Daley posted a video on YouTube where he came out saying ‘Of course I still fancy girls, but right now I’m dating a guy and I couldn’t be happier. I just feel safe. And it just really does feel right.’ Five months later Daley said ‘I am a gay man now’.