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LISTEN: UK Man Loses Entire Family After He Comes Out As Gay

17/11/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

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By The Gay UK, Oct 26 2015 08:43AM
A caller to a radio station talks about how he lost everything when he came out as gay to his Jehovah Witnesses family.
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A caller to LBC spoke about how he lost everything within 24 hours after he came out to his parents. The man called James, spoke about how his entire family “disowned” him because of their religious beliefs. He and his family are Jehovah Witnesses.
James’s heart wrenching call also revealed that he hasn’t spoken to his mother in 4 years after he came out to her. Whilst he was recovering in a psychiatric hospital she phoned him one night to ask if he was gay.
ALSO LISTEN: Gay Man Talks About ‘Shock’ Cure Given By 1970’s NHS
After he said that he was gay, his mother said, “Well I’ll always love you, but, if you ever have a boyfriend, you know we can never see you again and you will be disowned.”
He said that although he still lives in the same town as his family, if they see him about, they stop whatever they are doing and walk away.

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: disowned, family, gay, Jehovah Witness

MI5 secretly spied on Tory peer’s ‘gay sex parties’ with Ronnie Kray

17/11/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

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MI5 kept a file on Lord Boothby’s sexual activities


 
MI5 kept secret documents recording details of gay sex parties attended by Tory peer Lord Boothby and notorious East End gangster Ronnie Kray, it has emerged.
Documents unsealed this month show that both the secret service and Scotland Yard were deeply concerned about the actions of the late Conservative peer in the 1960s.
The documents reveal that agents were worried that Lord Boothby might cause embarrassment to the government due to his alleged “taste for young men” and friendship with East End gangster Ronnie Kray.
In 1964, the Sunday Mirror claimed Kray and Boothby were having an affair – but after Boothby denied the story, the newspaper paid Boothby £40,000 in an out-of-court settlement.
One MI5 agent wrote of the pair in the same year: “Boothby is a kinky fellow and likes to meet odd people, and Ronnie obviously wants to meet people of good social standing, he having the odd background he’s got; and, of course, both are queers.”
“According to Holt there is no improper association between the two, nor is it likely that there would be, as both are ‘hunters’ of young men.”
Homosexuality was still illegal at the time, and would not be decriminalised until 1967. Gay ‘sex parties’ continued to be technically illegal until 2003.
 

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Documents also show that Home Secretary Henry Brooke warned that if details were to emerge of Lord Boothby’s private life, it could be a crisis “along the lines” of the Profumo affair – the scandal widely seen to have helped topple the Conservative government of Harold Macmillan.
According to the Telegraph, the agency also interviewed former prisoner who claimed Boothby had visited a “homosexual brothel” on “more than one occasions looking for ‘chickens’… understood to be homosexual parlance for young boys”.

Filed Under: History Tagged With: gay sex parties, Krays, Lord Boothby, MI5

Openly Gay Musician Of The 1940s Billy Strayhorn To Have Music Relived In London

17/11/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

the-gay-uk-logoBy The Gay UK, Oct 26 2015 10:53AM
You might not know who Billy Strayhorn is but he was openly gay musician and composer in the 1940s when a time when homosexuality was deeply frowned upon.
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Billy Strayhorn is a jazz composer of colour who has often been overlooked in musical history. However his story is of an early LGBT pioneer, choosing to live an open and authentic life as an openly gay man.
To celebrate his life on Friday 20th November at Cadogan Hall, a concert entitled ‘Lush Life – The Songs of Billy Strayhorn’ will celebrate his contribution to the music scene.
The performance is being put together by Alex Webb, and will feature performance including David McAlmont.
Strayhorn was born one hundred years ago. He was diagnosed with esophageal cancer in 1964, he died in 1967 with his partner Bill Groves by his side.

Filed Under: Music Reviews Tagged With: Billy Strayhorn, musician

Ireland to end LGBT discrimination in schools and hospitals

17/11/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

16th November 2015 by Daniel Megarry

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Ireland is to amend an equality law exemption that currently allows LGBT discrimination in schools and hospitals.

Under the current law, discrimination against LGBT people is permitted in “religious, educational, or medical institutions […] in order to maintain the religious ethos of the institution.”
Aodhán Ó Ríordáin, the Minister of State for Equality, announced plans to push through a bill this week that will amend the exemptions of the Employment Equality Act.
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“But if you’re 13 years of age, and you’re just coming out and you’re nervous, marriage equality or rights might feel a very long way away.
“We still have issues of homophobia in Ireland – I don’t think we’re unique in that respect – but the things we’re doing even this week will go a long way to addressing that.”
Same-sex couples will legally be allowed to get married in Ireland from the 16th November 2015, after May’s marriage equality referendum saw 62% of voters come out in favour of equal marriage rights.
He told News Talk: “Marriage equality was a wonderful achievement, and Ireland should be very proud of being the first country to bring in marriage equality by popular vote.

 

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia, History Tagged With: hospitals, Irish politics, lgbt discrimination, politics, schools

Tom Daley Joins CN’s Anti-Bullying Campaign

17/11/2015 By ACOMSDave 1 Comment

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Published: November 16, 2015
LONDON: Cartoon Network has partnered with British Olympic diver Tom Daley to launch the next phase of its
international anti-bullying initiative, CN Buddy Network, in the U.K.
CN Buddy Network encourages young people to “Be a buddy, not a bully,” aiming to raise awareness and empower kids to take action against bullying. Daley appears in an on-air campaign that debuts on Cartoon Network today and also includes an original series of animated shorts spotlighting the viewpoints of the bully, the bullied and the observer. The initiative is being launched in collaboration with ChildLine, a U.K. helpline that provides immediate advice and support to those in need.
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Children can visit CartoonNetwork.co.uk/beabuddy for more information, resources and professional advice. They can also watch the original animated shorts and video messages from Daley, English rapper Tinie Tempah and ChildLine ambassador and volunteer counselor Anna Williamson on Cartoon Network UK’s YouTube channel.
Daley commented: “I jumped at the chance to work with Cartoon Network and ChildLine on this as I know only too well what it feels like to be bullied. I had things thrown at me at school and was rugby tackled on the school field for no reason and it made me feel terrible. It made me question whether I wanted to be a diver if it meant suffering in this way as a consequence. It was such a relief when I finally told someone.
“My advice: if you’re being bullied, or you know someone that is, please remember that it’s not your fault and you’re not alone. Bullying is never acceptable and there is nothing shameful about asking for help—speaking up is the first step in making things better.”
Williamson noted: “Bullying is still one of the most common issues that children call ChildLine about but the difference is that nowadays it can follow children wherever they are. It’s not just in the playgrounds or on the way to and from school. It’s in their pockets—it follows them on their phones, on social networks as well as face to face and the 24-hour nature of it can be relentless. For some children it seems like there’s no escape which can cause anxiety and distress. It is so important that we, as adults, take time to listen to our children and help support them through bullying issues. It is also important to keep up with online issues so we can help children navigate safety settings and block unwanted contact. And if children feel they can’t talk to anyone, they can always contact ChildLine, 24/7 for confidential advice and support.”
Ian McDonough, the senior VP and managing director of Turner Broadcasting for Northern Europe, added: “Our work with ChildLine has reaffirmed the fact that many of our Cartoon Network audience are affected by bullying every single day, whether in person or online. This is a very real issue and it’s important to us to address it in any way we can to show our viewers that there is help and support out there. Our series of short anti-bullying cartoons and Tom Daley PSA gently address the issue, encouraging kids to talk about their experiences, be a good friend and offer support to others.”

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia, Campaigns Tagged With: anti-bullying, Cartoon Network, Tom Daley

Northern Ireland’s gay blood ban is doing basically nothing to ‘protect’ blood supply

17/11/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

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  • Nick Duffy
  • 15th November 2015

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Northern Ireland is making no significant difference to the safety of its blood supply by permanently banning gay men.
 
Northern Ireland’s blood ban is doing nothing, a court heard England, Scotland and Wales, men who have sex with men can give blood if they abstain from sex for 12 months – whereas in Northern Ireland they are banned for life.
Successive Health Ministers in Northern Ireland have refused to lift the permanent ban on gay men donating blood in Northern Ireland, fighting a costly legal battle despite the Health department admitting to having “no evidence” whatsoever to continue the ban.
Edwin-Poots-social-media-imageAmid a legal challenge to the rule, the Court of Appeal this week heard that former Health Minister Edwin Poots insisted on keeping the rule in place because he was scared of ‘contamination’, despite increased testing and the weight of scientific evidence.
It’s actually one every 15,625 years, by our maths, so we’re due a mix-up by the year 17,640… and we’re hoping HIV will be eradicated long before then
Adding that the DUP minister had defied professional advice on the issue, Mr Scoffield said: “The minister’s own professional adviser was supporting the change, the chief medical officer was supporting the change.”
Current Health Minister Simon Hamilton, who vowed to be guided by science on the issue, has so far ducked calls to end the ban.

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia, History Tagged With: blood ban, court case, Edwin Poots, politics, Stormont

Every LGBTQ+ Person Should Read This

16/11/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

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Posted: 10/06/2015 11:23 am
 
Dearest Queer Person,
Chances are you don’t even know that you are holy, or royal or magic, but you are. You are part of an adoptive family going back through every generation of human existence.
Long before you were born, our people were inventing incredible things. Gifted minds like the inventor of the computer Alan Turing and aviation pioneer Alberto Santos-Dumont live on in you. The imprint that bold and brilliant individuals like Lynn Conway and Martine Rothblatt (both transgender women alive today) made on modern technology is impossible deny as present-day engineers carry their torch in the creation of robots and microprocessors. More recently speaking, one of the co-founders of Facebook publicly acknowledged his identity as a gay man, as did the current CEO of Apple.
We were so often gods and goddesses over the centuries, like Hermaphrodite (the child of Hermes and Aphrodite), and Athena and Zeus, both of whom had same-sex lovers. In Japan it was said that the male couple Shinu No Hafuri and Ama No Hafuri, “introduced” homosexuality to the world. The ability to change one’s gender or to claim an identity that encompasses two genders is common amongst Hindu deities. The being said to have created the Dahomey (a kingdom in the area now known as Benin) was reportedly formed when a twin brother and sister (the sun and the moon) combined into one being who might now identify as “intersex.” Likewise, the aboriginal Australian rainbow serpent-gods Ungud and Angamunggi possess many characteristics that mirror present-day definitions of transgender identity.
Our ability to transcend gender binaries and cross gender boundaries was seen as a special gift. We were honored with special cultural roles, often becoming shamans, healers and leaders in societies around the globe. The Native Americans of the Santa Barbara region called us “jewels.” Our records from the Europeans who wrote of their encounters with Two-Spirit people indicates that same-sex sexual activity or non-gender binary identities were part of the culture of eighty-eight different Native American tribes, including the Apache, Aztec, Cheyenne, Crow, Maya and Navajo. Without written records we can’t know the rest, but we know we were a part of most if not all peoples in the Americas.
Your ancestors were royalty like Queen Christina of Sweden, who not only refused to marry a man (thereby giving up her claim to the throne), but adopted a male name and set out on horseback to explore Europe alone. Her tutor once said the queen was “not at all like a female.” Your heritage also includes the ruler Nzinga of the Ndongo and Matamna Kingdoms (now known as Angola), who was perceived to be biologically female but dressed as male, kept a harem of young men dressed in traditionally-female attire and was addressed as “King.” Emperors like Elagalabus are part of your cultural lineage, too. He held marriage ceremonies to both male-identified and female-identified spouses, and was known to proposition men while he was heavily made-up with cosmetics. Caliphs of Cordoba including Hisham II, Abd-ar-Rahman III and Al-Hakam II kept male harems (sometimes in addition to female harems, sometimes in place of them). Emperor Ai of Han Dynasty China was the one whose life gives us the phrase “the passions of the cut sleeve,” because when he was asleep with his beloved, Dong Xian, and awoke to leave, he cut off the sleeve of his robe rather than wake his lover.
You are descended from individuals whose mark on the arts is impossible to ignore. These influential creators include composers like Tchaikovsky, painters like Leonardo da Vinci and actors like Greta Garbo. Your forebears painted the Sistine Chapel, recorded the first blues song and won countless Oscars. They were poets, and dancers and photographers. Queer people have contributed so much to the arts that there’s an entire guided tour dedicated just to these artists at New York’s Museum of Modern Art.
You have the blood of great warriors, like the Amazons, those female-bodied people who took on roles of protection and had scarce time or interest between their brave acts to cater to the needs of men. And your heart beats as bravely as the men of the Sacred Band of Thebes, a group of 150 male-male couples who, in the 4th century B.C.E., were known to be especially powerful fighters because each man fought as though he was fighting for the life of his lover (which he was). But your heritage also includes peacemakers, like Bayard Rustin, a non-violent gay architect of the Black civil rights movement in the U.S.
We redefined words like bear, butch, otter, queen and femme, and created new terms like drag queen, twink and genderqueer. But just because the words like homosexual, bisexual, transgender, intersex and asexual, have been created in the relatively recent past doesn’t mean they are anything new. Before we started using today’s terms, we were Winkte to the Ogala, A-go-kwe to the Chippewa, Ko’thlama to the Zuni, Machi to the Mapuchi, Tsecats to the Manghabei, Omasenge to the Ambo and Achnutschik to the Konyaga across the continents. While none of these terms identically mirror their more modern counterparts, all refer to some aspect of, or identity related to, same-gender love, same-sex sex or crossing genders.
You are normal. You are not a creation of the modern age. Your identity is not a “trend” or a “fad.” Almost every country has a recorded history of people whose identities and behaviors bear close resemblance to what we’d today call bisexuality, homosexuality, transgender identity, intersexuality, asexuality and more. Remember: the way Western culture today has constructed gender and sexuality is not the way it’s always been. Many cultures from Papua New Guinea to Peru accepted male-male sex as a part of ritual or routine; some of these societies believed that the transmission of semen from one man to another would make the recipient stronger. In the past, we often didn’t need certain words for the same-sex attracted, those of non-binary gender and others who did not conform to cultural expectations of their biological sex or perceived gender because they were not as unusual as we might today assume they were.
Being so unique and powerful has sometimes made others afraid of us. They arrested and tortured and murdered us. We are still executed by governments and individuals today in societies where we were once accepted us as important and equal members of society. They now tell us “homosexuality is un-African” and “there are no homosexuals in Iran.” You, and we, know that these defensive comments are not true–but they still hurt. So, when others gave us names like queer and dyke, we reclaimed them. When they said we were recruiting children, we said “I’m here to recruit you!” When they put pink and black triangles on our uniforms in the concentration camps, we made them pride symbols.
Those who challenge our unapologetic presence in today’s cultures, who try to deprive us of our rights, who make us targets of violence, remain ignorant of the fact that they, not us, are the historical anomaly. For much of recorded history, persecuting individuals who transgressed their culture’s norms of gender and sexuality was frowned upon at worst and unheard of at best. Today, the people who continue to harass us attempt to justify their cruel campaigns by claiming that they are defending “traditional” values. But nothing could be further from the truth.
But now you know they are wrong. Just imagine the world without that first computer or the Sistine Chapel’s ceiling, or a huge part of the music you’ve ever heard from classical Appalachian Spring to classic YMCA (I mean, we’ve held titles from the “Mother of Blues” to the “King of Latin Pop!”). How much less colorful would the world be without us? I’m grateful that you’re here to help carry on our traditions.
So, happy LGBT History Month! I hope to celebrate with you here at Quist. This list of LGBTQ history online resources is a good place to start in exploring more specifics about this heritage.
Lesbianamente*,
Sarah Prager
*Actually a term as a way someone signed a letter for a lesbian organization in Mexicodecades ago!
This piece was inspired in part by facts and sentiments from Another Mother Tongueby Judy Grahn (published 1984). Ritualized Homosexuality in Melanesia edited by Gilbert H. Herdt (published 1993) is also referenced. Many of the referenced facts are cited so many places it has become common knowledge. Christianne Gadd contributed significantly to this piece. This post originally appeared in The Advocate.
 
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Filed Under: History Tagged With: history, LGBTQ, politics, royal

Is there a homophobia problem in PE classes?

16/11/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

 
 
 

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Homophobic remarks are flung around on a regular basis”

“Homophobic remarks are flung around on a regular basis”

A new article, part of a PE and school sports series by the Guardian, looks at ways to stop school pupils ‘climbing the school gates’ to avoid PE lessons. Among other reasons, such as unflattering uniforms and limited variety of activities, the article suggests that homophobia in changing rooms prevents some pupils from taking part in PE.
The anonymous writer begins: “The bell rings and once again I have to make the decision whether to climb the school gates or walk to my physical education (PE) lesson. I am not averse to sport – in fact I like keeping fit on the weekends and I’m pretty healthy. But the culture around PE in school means it has become my worst nightmare”
He goes on to explain why: “I am an openly gay teenager and getting changed in front of the other boys, with no privacy, makes me feel desperately uncomfortable.
“Homophobic remarks are flung around on a regular basis, with boys calling each other ‘faggot’ and saying ‘I bet certain boys love it in the changing rooms.’”
The writer suggests a simple remedy for this problem: “A zero-tolerance policy against homophobic slurs and body shaming – even if it’s so-called banter – would make the changing room a more comfortable environment for everyone.”
This insight into the changing rooms comes at a time when more sports stars than ever are publicly discussing their sexualities. Just in the last few months, Olympic skier Gus Kenworthy, and rugby players Keegan Hirst and Sam Stanley have all publicly come out as gay. There have also been rumours swirling that two high-profile football players are preparing to come out.
The Guardian’s PE and school sports series is funded by the Youth Sports Trust.
 

Why not write and let us know your experiences!

 

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: homophobia, PE, school

Gay man spat at, insulted and hit with stones in Faversham

16/11/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

“Are you gay?” “Yes.” “Then die.”

This is the latest episode of abuse a young homosexual man living in Faversham has had to endure.

The 24-year-old, who only wanted to be named as Rob, has spoken out about the persecution he has suffered since he was a child.

He says that the discrimination against lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people in small communities such as Faversham often goes unreported and unseen. The bullying started at primary school.

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Rob, who has been the target of hate crime

Rob said: “I was a little bit different from the other boys. I hung around with groups of girls and I wasn’t into playing football.

“It was the first time I was branded ‘gay’ but I was so young and I wasn’t even sure what that was.

“Eventually, the bullying got worse and I was forced to move schools.

“For a while, everything was fine until I moved on to secondary school when it started up again and it was worse than before.

“There were a lot of crude remarks which at 11 I didn’t fully understand.

“The most heartbreaking thing for me in school was being in a classroom with the teachers completely ignoring the fact I was being targeted.

“The fact they chose to ignore what was going on meant that to me it reinforced what the bullies were saying. I started to think that I deserved the abuse, that I was the one in the wrong.

“They have a duty of care in the classroom and they failed me in that way.”

Groups of teenagers would insult him, throw stones at him and spit in his face.
Rob started having counselling sessions and began taking anti-depressants at just 14.
“It was a hard time. Being a teenager is hard for anyone but I think as a young gay person, it was very difficult,” Rob said.
“I felt something was wrong with me and for a time I really didn’t want to be gay.
“That was the worst thing that could happen to me. For a long time I thought if I was gay, I would be proving the bullies right.”
Rob was forced to move schools again but he soon started to come to terms with his sexuality, coming out to a small group of friends at 14 and telling his parents when he was 15.

 Rob, who has been the target of hate crime

Rob says the quiet town of Faversham can be homophobic

He began meeting more people from the LGBT community and after finishing school at 16, he started working with vulnerable and elderly people, a venture he says gave him a new sense of worth.

Rob is happier since his school days but the persecution hasn’t stopped.

Strangers yell names such as ‘batty boy’ and ‘faggot’ at him in the street and heartbreakingly, Rob, who has lived in Faversham his entire life, says he would never take a partner to a local pub or restaurant for a date or walk hand-in-hand with another man through the town.

He said: “There are people of every aspect of the LGBT community in Faversham but it is a very quiet community.

“Faversham comes across as a very tolerant place but that is simply just on the surface. I do think they could help out more.

“When I’m abused in the street and nobody calls it out, that takes me back to the classroom. I have to constantly remind myself I am not the problem.”

Rob has been following LGBT charity Stonewall’s campaign called No Bystanders, which is a pledge now signed by more than 16,000 people which says that the public should call it out if they hear or see any homophobic behaviour.

Rob added: “Britain is a very progressive country which is brilliant but it’s mostly in a political sense and not socially.

“When I’m abused in the street and nobody calls it out, that takes me back to the classroom. I have to constantly remind myself I am not the problem” – Rob

“The fact is that this bullying behaviour towards the LGBT community is still going on and everyone is responsible for making that happen.”

Suicide statistics among the LGBT community are harrowing – suicide is the second leading cause of death among young people aged 10-24 but LGBT youth are four times more likely as their straight peers.

Rob says he’s not surprised by the stats and says he feels lucky that this didn’t become his fate.

He added: “I think there must be a lot of people out there at school going through what I went through and I feel lucky that I had such a good support network around me, but there are others who won’t have that and you just don’t know what situation they will end up in. It’s scary.

“Youngsters need to be taught in the classroom that this type of bullying is unacceptable. If people don’t call it out, say it is unacceptable, then it’s never going to stop.”

To find out more about national Anti-Bullying Week, from Monday to Friday, visit anti-bullyingalliance.org.uk

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: Faversham, gay attacks

Morocco’s tourism minister calls for decriminalisation of homosexuality

14/11/2015 By ACOMSDave Leave a Comment

Gay Times Logo13th November 2015 by Daniel Megarry

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Lahcen Haddad, the tourism minister of Morocco, has called for the decriminalisation of both homosexuality and consensual sex outside of marriage.

The self-described modern liberalist made the comments in an interview with CNN Arabic, where he said it was time to start a debate on LGBT rights in the Muslim-majority country.
He said: “We do not accept a display of one’s sexual tendencies for provocation, but if homosexuality is a personal orientation, practiced in private places, it falls within one’s personal freedom.”
Since making the comments, Lahcen has released a statement clarifying that, despite his views, his party currently has no plans to act on them.
He said: “Some electronic sites have issued a statement that was attributed to me, about homosexuality. I should say that the Popular Movement party has not taken a position on this matter and that this issue was not on our agenda.”
The Moroccan Penal Code currently punishes same-sex sexual activity with up to three years imprisonment under Article 489.

 

Filed Under: Anti-Bullying & Homophobia Tagged With: Lahcen Haddad, Morocco, tourism

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